| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/15/2006 7:34:59 PM | REally, I want to know. I see men posting what or how we might acknowledge a Gentleman or the qualities we love about 'gents'.
I want to know about you. As a man, who did you emulate?  What do you see as masculine with men in your lives (your fathers or brothers)?  How do you define yourself as a man today??? What do you term as the strength of a Man? | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/15/2006 8:42:31 PM | I emulated me.
I defined parts my self in my profile
As far as masculinity goes I really don't think in those terms. I don't try to prove I'm a man
I see different strengths in different people and treat each as an individual | |
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| UWWWWWWWW GOOD QUESTION
Posted: 4/16/2006 12:54:16 PM | SHORT ANSWER : ( ONLY ANSWER)
THE TIME IN HISTORY DOESNT MATTER NOW OR EARLIER , ITS STILL THE SAME..
1. HONEST AND JUST
2. FAMILY ORIENTED AND DEDICATED HUSBAND AND FATHER
3. COMMUNITY MINDED AND GIVING
4. RESPECTS SELF AND OTHERS
5. MAKES FAMILY PRIORITY OVER ALL ELSE
6. HATES FRIGGIN LIBERAL SCUM THAT SEEKS TO DESTROY OUR GREAT COUNTRY
7. PATRIOTIC AMERICAN, STANDS UP FOR WHATS RIGHT AND THAT ISNT LIBERALISM
( IE: SOCIALISIM AND COMMMUNISIM AND WEENIE'ISM )
8. RESPECTS HIS JOB AND EMPLOYER AND CO WORKER
9. DISPISES CHEAP TACKY PEOPLE AND THEIR WAYS..
10. HAS INTERESTS AND HOBBIES...DOESNT PUT MUCH WORTH IN DRINKING,STUPID SPORTS TV, AND THE GUYS..
12. DRIVES A TRUCK OR 4X4 UNLESS HES RICH..THEN HE DRIVES A HUMMER
13. RESPECTS HIS WIFE AS A WHOLE PERSON..SUPPORTS HER INTERESTS,GOALS,AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS
14. LOVES HIS CHILDREN BUT DRAWS THE LINE ON RULES AND BEHAVIOR AND ENFORCES IT 100 % EXPECTS SUCCESS'S FROM THEM...AND TEACHES THEM TO BEHAVE IN WAYS THAT PROMOTE THEIR SUCCESS AS FUTURE ADULTS...NOT ALLOW THEM TO BE PUNKS...LIKE MOST OF THEIR PEERS...
WELL... THATS ENOUGH...MADE THE POINT... | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 1:24:43 PM | Puts his woman and family 1st. Has no trouble with who he is or anyone else being themselves.
The guy you call in the middle of the night when you only get one..... | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 4:05:32 PM | | i`m a tad confused because you have asked three different questions,define man.masculinity,and gentleman.the only true answer(in my humble opinion,of course) a man who is true to his word,resolution with a handshake,no written contract neccessary,eventually rolls all three answers into one.any time i am able deal with men such as these i am humbled and honored. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 4:23:15 PM | Aww..heck fire! It depends on a Ladies opinions, but I have a poem I wrote that may fit this thread..
Real Man
I believe a Real Man should cry,
If the tears are not for himself..
I believe He will know when to run,
Only if Loved ones have already left.
I believe a Real Man will know,
Being Foolish has a time and a place
I believe He will know not ever to lie,
No matter if to save him face.
I believe a Real Man should stand,
Without using a Woman for a crutch..
I believe He will know forgiveness as well,
To trust Her without asking too much..
I believe a Real Man should know,
When he is needed at Home to stay..
I believe He will know of Her wants,
Her needs, and when shes ready to play..
CountrySlim
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 4:25:26 PM | Some excellent responses, who in your family do you emulate? There had to be a man that you grew up around that you emulated, who was he and what was about him that brought about strengths in you?
Borb, I didnt ask about 'gents'. I acknowledged that was what people might ask about, my curiousity is more about how do men identify themselves as men today. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 5:12:23 PM | Sorry , but not many good roll models for men in my family . When I was older and realized that I might need to change my actions to be a better man I drew on many of the attributes that I read about in some of the famous men in history .
As to being a todays man , I have spent much time and energy learning about old ways of doing things . I can think , have creative skills and can use my hands . Should society fall on hard times for whatever reason , i,m sure I can provide shelter , food , and protection .
Today , yesterday , tomorrow , I belive a man should be able to do certain things .
My 2 cents . | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 7:18:06 PM | My daddy, a carpenter used to tell me the time would come when everything a man had, he could hold in his hands. Also that what a man knew and could do with his hands was all he could carry.
I hear your truth. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 7:43:47 PM | Interesting question that I hadn't really thought about very much if at all. Thinking about it now the first three role models who come to mind are my father, then Robert Ruark (a novelist who wrote about Africa and his purported adventures there as a great white hunter), and finally John Galt (the main character in Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged). The final role model in my life was a fellow named Warren Cobean who was a Captain in the U.S. Navy who taught me how to lead men.
My dad was a cop in a small town on the Main Line near Philadelphia. It was in the time when police in general had much wider latitude in solving issues. Over all we did not have a close relationship but there is one incident which stands out in what I think it means to be a man. It occurred when I was between 7 and 14, probably towards the younger end of that range.
We lived in the gatehouse on a large estate. Over the hill, about 300 yards away was the main garage where all the cars and other vehicles used around the estate were kept. There was a large apartment on the second floor which was occupied by a young couple, although they seemed pretty old to me at the time. The wife was very pregnant.
I remember coming home from school and getting off the bus. As I did so and ran around to the back of the house I came upon the young wife. She was walking towards our back door, she was crying and she had two black eyes and her face was bruised and swollen. I was shocked. I remember my father coming home a few minutes later from his second job (they didn't pay policemen very much then). My mom had come out of the house and was talking to the young wife. I watched my dad go over and say a few words and put his arms around both women for a moment. Then he went in the house and came out with his small gun, stuffing it in the back of his pants and walking up over the hill towards the garage. I can still see it, a small blue Smith & Wesson revolver sort of flat in his open hand. I was so scared until he came back. Then he talked to the woman and he walked her back to the apartment. I don't know what happened but it gave me the beginning of my ideas of what being a man means.
It sure sounds corny in today's world but my father's actions that day meant a lot to me in my beginning maturity as a man.
The literary characters fleshed out what began with my father. It is sad that I was never able to tell him about that.
As for today's definition of a man in my view it hasn't changed much since then: be someone people can count on; do what is necessary; protect the weak; lead, don't follow blindly; when there is time think, then act. But when there is no time to think act first; Be alert, inquisitive and aware. It is really kind of simple. But it does not seem to fit in very well in the touchy-feely PC world of today.
OK, that's my first cut at defining a man in today's world. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 7:57:25 PM | There was a time when a man could be defined by the values he embraced. He attended church and prayed and believed. He would provide for his family, make business decisions, and discipline his children when necessary. He believed in his country and didn't doubt it's leaders and would willingly go to war to defend his family and his way of life. He could count on his wife to stand by him. There was joy in his heart as he earned his living with his veinous, calloused hands.
Can you tell me what has become of this man? I see him no more in today's world. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 9:06:41 PM | A man is one who controls his own life. A more "manly" man is one who will sacrifice the most or more than other men to do things in a way he feels is right.
A "gentleman" is someone who puts everyone else's comfort before their own...
Not good to be like that all the time. :-P | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 11:13:07 PM | | Years ago a Canadian magazine ran a contest to try and come up with a Canadian phrase that matched "American as apple pie". The winning phrase was "As Canadian as possible under the circumstances". I kind of think that sums up a man today. As male as possible under the circumstances. Truth is, men have taken alot of hits. You realize when you have been downsized, some more than once, or cheated on, or abandoned, that you do not have total control. Life can hurt, and sometimes hurt bad. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/16/2006 11:33:48 PM | ..August,
it would seem that you did pay attention, and your dad did teach you, if not so much him, it came from yourself..
"As for today's definition of a man in my view it hasn't changed much since then: be someone people can count on; do what is necessary; protect the weak; lead, don't follow blindly; when there is time think, then act. But when there is no time to think act first; Be alert, inquisitive and aware. It is really kind of simple."
Seek the truth in all things, and it shall set you free.. There is no excuse, pain or gain, for a Man to elate himself above being a keeper of peace for the slower, weaker segment of Humankind. Having a Heartache, Heartbreak, or without a mentor is no fair reason to become hardened towards what is plainly the task of a real Man..
..anticon......
"A man is one who controls his own life. A more "manly" man is one who will sacrifice the most or more than other men to do things in a way he feels is right.
A "gentleman" is someone who puts everyone else's comfort before their own."
These two posts shine as examples.. I think! | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/17/2006 7:39:49 AM | Where I grew up there's a common expression that defines the behavior of a real man.... he is one that knows how to Cowboy Up. It's how he lives his life,,, If you don't understand that expression,, sorry I don't think I could explain it to you.
texasbaby | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/17/2006 8:49:38 AM | My father was an engineer by day and alcholic by night so not around much. By 14 mom had to move him out cause the violence got out of control.
I choose not follow his foot steps except the engineer part.
Since I had no close male influnces since 14, I developed by trial and error and not by example. I thought most adults were a pretty poor examples to follow so I forged my own examples to follow. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/17/2006 9:02:18 AM | Today's world is hard on both men (and women). The rules and roles that once defined us are no longer clear. The lines are blurred, and have not been replaced with others, yet. Some flounder without those boundaries. We are in a state of flux.
However, the flip side is: it is also freeing. You get to make it up as you go along. Some thrive in these conditions.
If you act with honour, mercy, justice, and respect, I think you are doing fine.
I came across this somewhere a while back:
A STRONG MAN
The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders; it's seen in the width of his arms that encircle and protect you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice; it is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't in the words he speaks; it's in how he keeps his word.
The strength of a man isn't in how many buddies he has; it's how reliable of a buddy he is with his friends.
The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work; it's in how he is respected at home.
The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits; it's in how tender he touches.
The strength of a man isn't in the size of his chest; it's in the heart that lies within his chest.
The strength of a man isn't in how many women he's loved; it's in whether he can be true to the ONE woman he's trying to love.
The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift; it's in the burdens he can carry.
The strength of a man isn't in how much food he eats from your table; it's in the effort he puts forth when you are unable.
The strength of a man isn't in how he makes love; it's in the understanding that there is more to making love, than making love.
A STRONG MAN knows when he has a good woman and doesn't do things to lose her; but does everything to cherish her. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/17/2006 11:15:51 AM |
A STRONG MAN
The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders; it's seen in the width of his arms that encircle and protect you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice; it is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't in the words he speaks; it's in how he keeps his word. EDITED DOWN FOR SPACE..........
Thank you for sharing this. I like it. Pretty much sums it up.
The only thing I might add is that sometimes a man will become weak. He will make mistakes, he will be wrong. So to me, it is a STRONG MAN that will own up to his mistakes and try hard to amend them along with his weaknesses.
And a STRONG MAN does have the heart to cry when he or a loved one is hurt. Or even his best friend, the dog dies. It takes a BIGGER MAN to show emotion then to hide it. | |
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| UWWWWWWWW GOOD QUESTION
Posted: 4/17/2006 2:40:36 PM | | Let me just say I agree with you,for the most part.I think a man shouldn't be judged by how masculin he appears to everyone ,but by his conduct. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/17/2006 3:27:18 PM | When my mother lay dying in the hospital, my father kept writing something on a sheet of paper. After she died, I found this sheet of paper in his book:
[IF]
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream--and not make dreams your master,
If you can think--and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!
--Rudyard Kipling
I don't think time has changed what Kipling wrote. And my father managed to keep his sanity by rememberiing that poem, bit by bit, as his wife of 64 years faded away in her coma.
I married two men because I thought they were as wonderful as my father was. The first one wasn't. The second one was. | |
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| How would you define a MAN in todays world?????
Posted: 4/25/2006 12:11:39 AM | | Persnally,i don't emulate any one.I'm proud to be an individual.It's up to others,if they can like me for that,or not.My definition is simple;Respect yourself and others,be honest and don't expect a damn thing from anyone.Just be yourself,but always be prepared to defend your beliefs and those you love.That's a man,in my opinion. | |
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