| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 6:19:34 AM | Okay probably been done before, but what defines someone as being "Good Looking". Just what is it you girls want in a guy and come on guys, let's be honest, what is it WE want? I'm curious because it's such an open debate. What one person sees as good looking might not be so to someone else. Seems like so many of us might be after a Hot Babe and the girl after somekind of Adonis...is it happening? What will we settle for?
Second thing:
If you're in a relationship. You say you love the person you are with and would never hurt them. Okay so how far would you resist until temptation got too much?
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 6:27:33 AM | " what one person sees as good looking might not be to someone else "
I agree with what you said. My idea of an attractive man is one that is confident and secure with himself. The outside of a person fades in beauty, not the inside. The attraction comes from within too and also how the man treats the woman. Chemistry is important between partners.
There will always be temptation, it has been there from the beginning of time. Honestly, if a person is in a committed relationship, there should not be a choice. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 7:24:42 AM | I think that the confidence thing is the same for girls as well.
Us guys get a bad wrap for being shallow because we dont date girls with certain body types; but maybe most girls that dont have the "body" are also really low on confidence because of their bodies. It's not fair, but it's true. I think we disciminate more on confidence than physicality, some big girls with confidence are very sexy.
But what I find good looking is people that wear their personality on their sleeve... literally. Someone that you can see a little bit of their personality by what their wearing, and how they hold themselve has is really sexy.
Also I like hot girls that wear glasses... dont ask me why, but it goes to show that "good looking" is subjective. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 7:41:22 AM | Everyone has there own chart.. Mine always starts with the eyes.... They cant fool you , and they give you "The look".The body does count and should be a nice FIT...
As for temptation , been there many times, Failed once, and will never ever let that horrer enter my life again.. You make a line and you just don't cross it..
Flirt?? a little maybe, but no further than that.. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 8:46:43 AM | [What exactly defines Good Looking]
For the most part, everybody has their own definition of good looking. I watched a documentary on TV one time about this subject, and the research showed that symetry was a key component in beauty. For me, it's a combination of the outer beauty and the inner beauty. A man can be extremely attractive, but if he's ugly 'inside', that makes him ugly to me. I dated a guy a long time ago that was very good looking, but he was so conceited it completely negated his good looks.
[If you're in a relationship. You say you love the person you are with and would never hurt them. Okay so how far would you resist until temptation got too much?]
I would resist temptation as far as necessary.....I don't believe in cheating. IMHO, resisting temptation is a requirement in a relationship, not an option. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 8:47:53 AM | I know I am not ugly, but I do not consider myself very good looking, but women do !
All I can say is thank GOD for blind women and their definition of handsome.
If you ever want to see me blush, just call me handsome.
As for resisting temptation, I have learned early on in my life,
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence,
it's because of all the bullsh*t
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 4/18/2006 8:55:39 AM | LOL, well it looks like my day to be shallow!! (Now this in no way limits what I am attracted to, but you asked for honesty so here are the basics.)
Everyone else has gone mostly with the inside of a person which I also find very important!! But we all know that we are visual ceatures and if you are not physically attracted to a person they will wind up being a very good friend and you will move on to someone who "turns you on". Let's be honest here people!!!
SO, if I was to construct my Ideal PHYSICAL man, here's what he'd look like:
He would be tall - at least 6'
Strong Jaw (I absolutely hate weak jaws, or no jaws!!)
Broad shoulders
Narrow waist (that old fashioned cowboy look)
Dark hair
Light eyes
Now, it's very hard to describe what a face would look like so I'll stop here cause, let's face it, I'll probably get blasted for being shallow LOL!! We all have different ideas of what is attractive. Maybe I have read one too many romance novels with all those nice hard bodies on the covers!! LOL You asked!! | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:36:29 PM | I am attracted to a nice, honest, respectful woman who has her head on straight. Also must want to have children but most of faithfulness. that has to be the biggest problem i have had with the women that i have dated. i can also look back and see afterwards where i should have been able to see many signs but didn't at the time.
As far as my idea of good looking. As long as she is cute to my likings it is all good. Only thing is i will date thin to chubby people. i have tryed to bring myself to dating a few bigger women because of their personality but I just don't have the physical attraction. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:41:39 PM | | Male good looks dont fade much over time. Some guys of course lose hair and become grey and get pot belly but only because they are married to ugly woman. Harrison Ford gets better looking each year. Hugh Hefner is 80 and still dating young females. Larry king is older than dirt and married to young woman. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/4/2006 4:55:45 PM | As far as good looking goes for me,there's no certain criteria,
I just know it when I see him.He does have to look like he takes
pride in himself & is clean though.
When I give my heart to a man,there's no amount of temptation
that would ever get me to betray him.I have never & would never
cheat.If I didn't love him any more,then I would be honest & tell
him & leave.And hope we could still remain friends.. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/4/2006 5:00:23 PM | good looking is different to each and everyone of us. one can be not so good looking on the outside but on the inside be the best looking person you have ever seen or on the outside be the best looking and on the inside be not so good looking. that is all what one sees in their own eyes.
to me good looking is not only in the looks of a person but the attitude personality. the looks part i notice the eyes and smile first. but if he doesnt have hte attitude and personality to go with it then its not worth me spending alot of time with. you see good looking can only be determined by what oen is looking for not what others think. people tell em i am a beautiful person inside and out but i see differently than they do i see myself as plain and average. beauty is in the eye of the beholder. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:00:45 PM | Good looking --- well, he is trim and fit but not skin and bones, he has that whole Bruce Willis haircut (shaved) thing going on, a voice and a smile that makes me giggle and smile very big, very often, there is that little dimple in his chin and a beam in his eyes.......damn, no wonder I love him!!!!
Now as far as being tempted --- here's the bottom line --- sex, you can have it everyday of the week with someone new if you want (well, some of us can apparently LOL) but no matter how good looking, how well spoken, how talented they are, it just doesn't compare to fun, flirty, hot sex with someone who you adore as a person as well as a sex object. And if he's tempted, well, that's his choice to make ---- the only thing I know for sure is that she won't be ME ---- and if the relationship has any value at all, whether he does it or not, that one tiny fact will be enough. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/7/2006 4:03:36 PM | | A man becomes better looking when you realize how much he respects you for who you are and not wanting to change a thing. He appreciates your individuality. He wants to spend time with you just because he enjoys your company with out any expectations. I date an man that persued me and I thought what the hell lets see if we click which of course I dont beleive one knows on the first meeting. He was gray and difenetly not Brad Pit. We hit it off and after finding out that he had a few health issues one being ED I didnt really care just being with him was the greatest I just couldnt get enough time with him. Unfortunately he his low self esteem left him to believe he had nothing to offer. I would at least think that it would be my decision as to whether or not what he was offering was good enough for me let me be the judge. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/7/2006 4:26:10 PM | HUGE kudos to DIzziej for having the guts to be honest!!!!
You go girl!!!
Sure, personality, attitudes, interests and all that stuff come into play at some point, BUT they do NOT make someone more or less attractive, attraction is a physical, hard wired, lizard brain gut reaction.
By the way, no, the 20-year old Playboy Bunnies are NOT attracted to Mr. Hefner, they're attracted to his wallet, estate, empire, and the life of luxury he can give them.
Symmetry has a lot to do with it, I suppose, I'm a sucker for blonde hair, big blue eyes, little, upturned noses, freckles aren't bad either, and nice, full lips, not quite as full as Angelina Jolie's,though....
Don't care for the 'supermodel' look, they're way too skinny, I prefer the 'swimsuit' model look, nice, feminine shapes, but sporty and trim.
Flame away..... | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:18:27 PM | I don't know that any of us can explain why someone is attractive to us. I can see pictures of a man & think he is handsome & has good body "structure". That does not mean that when I meet him face to face I will be "attracted" to him. I generally know instantly if I'm attracted to a man. It is not all about looks or even body type. It is an attitude, a chemistry, a look, a smile, a laugh!
Good luck on your quest, author. | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 10:45:10 AM | Wow ! this subject gets beat to death(again) at POF. Good looking is always a very "subjective" subject ! I am an avid people watcher and part time biologist, So far It seems outside the "relationship" envelope, physical beauty is whatever you may have been subjected\programmed to, or whatever you wish for at the moment.... my past female companions and girlfriends seemed just right in the looks department at the time... for me.
After parting I look back and still find most quite attractive. but my buddies rate them very differently from smoking hot to... not.
Beauty is always in the eyes of the beerholder...
I still find outside the box thinking, creative spirit and a great sense of things much larger in life wildly attractive. A little sparkle in the eye and a joyful attitude is also very good. Wolf.  | |
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| What exactly defines Good Looking? And what tempts someone in a relationship.
Posted: 5/25/2006 11:01:34 AM | This Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is totally taken out of context. Average looking people think that by some miracle a person seen as beautiful to everyone might find them attractive because of this cliche.
Everyone is looking for equal or better in this department. Better is likely not interested in you. Too many people see holsolme looks as their equal when in realty these people are way out of their league. | |
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