| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:13:22 AM | Hi, I have used internet dating on and off for about 2 years. Sometimes it is okay, other times I think the whole concept is back to front ie. two people thrown together yet really know nothing about it each other. The first date could be bad, but do you give each other the benefit of the doubt????
Everyone must admit that the first thing they look at is the photograph - again is this really right??
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:16:03 AM | 'Cuz they pretend to be what you want them to be... it's a nasty game.. get out in the real world.. and use this avenue for entertainment purposes only.... I just again realized how FAKE some people are... never let your guard down on here.... | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:19:33 AM | I'll admit the photo is usually the first thing we look at. Afterall, as you scroll down it comes before all the words in the describe yourself section. I know I always check a profile before I even open the e-mail. In the real world I'm sure people see each other first before making contact, so logically there would seem there is no reason not to do the same here. I don't know about you, but I've never been asked out from a cold call. lol Anyhoo I imagine people think because we're able to tell someone about ourselves before we even engage in conversation with them, we expect people to go against what every species on earth which must copulate in order to reproduce has done for millions of years and not be concerned about seeing what someone looks like first.
somehow I think that's a bit incoherent. Basically every species with the exception of things such as shrimp which just spill their sperm all over the place looks at their potential mate before engaging in courting activities...
OP: You're pretty anyways, so why worry? | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:22:24 AM | Not everyone who uses an online dating site is a fake.....though, I admit that I have come across quite a few on dating sites who lie on their profiles, etc. Some are truly genuine and looking for something or someone they cannot seem to meet in the "real world". Internet dating is just like dating in the "real world"....you have to kiss a LOT of toads to find your prince. LOL And I have kissed my share of toads....trust me on that one.   | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:29:29 AM |
Some are truly genuine
Very true.... but not enough to make it worth getting hurt over. The odds are highly stacked against us all. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:35:18 AM | Internet relationships are not always hard. Kaos and I talk on the telephone and drink Vodka together.....
Do not email me, we are not lesbians.
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 3:56:34 AM | Posted: 4/19/2006 1 03 AM
'Cuz they pretend to be what you want them to be... it's a nasty game.. get out in the real world.. and use this avenue for entertainment purposes only.... I just again realized how FAKE some people are... never let your guard down on here....
So very True............... heed this advice,, this is just a way to meet new people, not a fail safe method of doing so,,
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 4:01:59 AM | Internet dating is difficult because most are dating, and still looking, not giving what 'could have been' or 'might be' the chance it might deserve, everyone seems to be looking for that greener pasture..........
sooo, not the place to really be serious about finding anyone.
that's my take anyway....... | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 4:13:13 AM | The biggest problem with this is that everyone is so far away.
This would be great if you worked for an airline. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 4:39:23 AM | | It's only as hard as you make it. If you have the attitude that everyone you talk to just wants to get laid, it's gonna be difficult to meet anyone worthwhile. Same goes for if you think everyone is a mass murderer/rapist/sexual deviant. I have a couple of female sexual deviant stories......but, that'll be for some other post some time, LOL. Most of what I've seen is that women email a few times, then (if you're lucky) they'll talk on the phone a few times, and after 2 or 3 weeks, they disappear into thin air. And, heaven forbid that a guy suggest meeting within 3 months of the first email, that seems to make women run and hide immediately. I'm beginning to think that all the woman POF'ers are just here to boost their egos by the male atention they receive. 'nuff said' | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 5:20:46 AM | [The biggest problem with this is that everyone is so far away.
This would be great if you worked for an airline./]
Nipoleon - those of us who do work for airlines still have the same problem as everyone else  | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 5:25:48 AM | Terry,no catagorising women with quote " I'm beginning to think that all the woman POF'ers are just here to boost their egos by the male atention they receive.
'nuff said'" Unquote.
Putting all women or men in the same basket is taboo. I don't believe in that,good and bad existe as much in women as in men,so why judge them all because of a few!!
like the dude in earlier post said, internet ain't no harder then in real life.A lot of it depends on self esteem,loving yourself first and past experiences.
I'm leaning more towards Carrie's Idea,stick around for the forums,if I happen to bump into
a woman that turns my crank,great!!!
Meanwhile I'll just keep making new friends and helping others if I can!
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 5:31:10 AM | People here are looking for something and have developed their own ways of finding it. I've met both the genuine and the fake. In most cases genuine...and the fake don't even realize it.
People here are really no different than anywhere else. You encounter all the same values, all the same hangups. Sure there are users, predators and ***holes...just like everywhere else but check this, there are also people who just want to meet someone they can become involved with too. Personally, I think that is the bulk of who is here.
All of my friends who date online are just people looking for a relationship. Those who just want to have fun and get laid say so right up front. That element is here and there's nothing wrong with it as long as they are honest about it.
FYI, I want to find a relationship. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 5:41:46 AM | | I agree with you Knight Rider. the forums really kick butt. A buddy of mine uses my computer and emails - like, 10 women every day, and he has no better luck than I did when I emailed 2 a week. Now, I pretty much just stick with the forums. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 6:03:29 AM | Oh! it's not just the internet dating is rough everywhere.
Can't help but to look at the photo but it's the character you'll be long term with so learn to look beeyond the photo. | |
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 6:06:01 AM | It isn't just internet dating, it's dating in general. The whole mess is pure insanity! I've never seen so many screwed up people that don't have a clue what they want (but they sure don't have any problem reaching out for something good and tasty like me, damn it all!) in all my 45 years, as I have once I discovered the internet, and what life as a single woman is really like. What I'd give to go back to being married...atleast I knew exactly what form of insanity would be served up day after day after day after day....
I didn't just say that.
Yami, shoot me NOW!
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 7:04:46 AM | at a moments glance, I reply to emails.. and it depends on my exact mood at the time.
Life isn't like that though, you make real time relationships and build off of a huge spectrum of real time nuances.
internet relationships are difficult, also because we have these preconceived notions of who they are and who they have become in OUR eyes.... this usually isn't even correct.
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| Why Is Internet Dating SO Hard!!
Posted: 4/19/2006 7:10:15 AM | I don't think it's much different from other forms of communication.Suppose you met someone through a mutual friend.Your first contact was by telephone.Your mutual friend showed this person your picture and also showed their picture to you.Pretty much the same thing,the bottom line here is that it's still up to you and the other person to decide if the dating aspect of it will work.
It all boils down to the same thing.The internet is just a communication method,just a meeting junction.If a person is deceptive on the internet, they will be deceptive in person.
People complain about the games on the net, but really are they any different from games played in person? | |
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