| Is love really blind?[can you love the homely?]
Posted: 4/19/2006 1:50:59 PM | ladies,...i want to know what you think,...physical attraction is important,..no one can deny that,...but i see so many girls say that personality is the most important trait they want in a mate,...is that true to you? how ugly can a guy be before you say..no way!
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| Is love really blind?[can you love the homely?]
Posted: 4/19/2006 2:31:19 PM | oh my. Homely, and only 5 inches, and you obviously have no self-confidence.
yah buddy your screwed, and not literally.
(And it has nothing to do with your looks.) | |
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| Is love really blind?[can you love the homely?]
Posted: 4/19/2006 2:41:41 PM | | How ugly does he have to be? What a silly question. Ruckus123 is right. I think there is someone for everyone and to quote an old cliche "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 2:42:20 PM | yes,i only have 5 inches,but i know lots of girls like them smaller
who told you that?
j/k...well, sorta
There are plenty of people who will be attracted to you...no, it's NOT all about looks | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| Is love really blind?[can you love the homely?]
Posted: 4/19/2006 2:56:04 PM | I think what he's getting at, is he is not attracted to the type of woman that is attracted to him. I had this problem about 80 pounds and a lot of soul searching ago. If your not hot and sexy, and you want a hot and sexy mate, it's not out of reach, just harder to get. If a girl see's a hot/sexy guy she's already interested in him and all the guy can do is go down hill from there by saying the wrong thing. If he's a decent guy personality wise, he's pretty much assured some sort of short relationship or knockin boots.
If you are not one of the blessed that is really hot/sexy then that does not mean game over. You have to be more outgoing than the good looking ones, your not going to catch her eye so you have to get her to see what is good about you. You'll have to take your time to, because she will need time to search her feelings out. This is not going to work all the time, if a woman isn't attracted to any part of you then it's not going to work out the way you want.
Basically any guy can get any girl (within reason) it's all about how you present yourself, confidence, and don't worry about 5 inches, by the time the find out you have an average wang, it's too late for them to back out lol | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 3:55:09 PM | well you can always date a blind woman.....lol..lol.......and my favorite one "its not how deep the well ,or how long the rope,but how you dangle the bucket that counts."  ..... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 4:12:47 PM | I absolutely hate the word "Homely" that is so degrading!!
The world thank goodness is filled with wonderful diverse people, everyone with their own special qualities. Can you love the 'homely' - my God everyone deserves to love and be loved!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 6:07:34 PM | {I absolutely hate the word "Homely" that is so degrading!!
The world thank goodness is filled with wonderful diverse people, everyone with their own special qualities. Can you love the 'homely' - my God everyone deserves to love and be loved!!!! }
Amen to that!!!
Everyone has the right and deserves to be loved no matter how they look. It is upsetting when turn down others for silly reasons and deny them of having a mate.
We all should try to be better people and accept others for who they are and not be so judgmental and selfish. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2006 6:32:04 PM | If a man or woman is only interested in someone for their physical appearence what does that say about them?
I'd much rather be involved with someone for their personality than their looks. Looks fade. How many "hot" 90 yr olds do you know???
As for the initial physical attraction thing......I've found than a person with an endearing personality is very attractive.
It's like judging a book by it's cover, would you buy a book just based on it's cover???? | |
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Joined: 3/23/2006
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| Is love really blind?[can you love the homely?]
Posted: 4/21/2006 3:27:08 AM | What is homely to you may not be to someone else. My friends husband is hot hot hot to her, and I am like "huh? You have got to be kidding? What is so sexy about him?" but that is physically, because we have different taste in men as much as we are alike in other ways. I wouldn't have given him a second look unless he introduced himself to me, he is a really nice guy so in my eyes he has that going for him. In high school I dated a guy that was overweight and that everybody thought was ugly. I still think he is adorable, his eyes took my breath away, and that is why i got to know him. After a couple weeks he became the sexiest man alive to me and still to this day I think he is, but that is a lot to do with his personality. As I got to know him, those features that everybody thought was ugly, to me became endearing because of the man he was on the inside. I didn't care that he was overweight, honestly he could work around it pretty good :D. That was never an issue. There are men out there that think I am ugly but there are men that think I am a good looking woman. It all boils down to taste on that person. You (the person who started this, didn't get the name) said you were not homely but ya know what, for those out there that all they look at are looks, some might not think that. For those that think I am ugly, I do nto think I am, I think I am adorable and beautiful. But part of that is the person I am on the inside too not just my face or my pretty blue eyes. It is to each there own, some can't get past looks some can... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 3:35:20 AM | | I agree with u above.. my best friend was married to someone who was SOOOO someone I wouldnt look at.. but his personality grabed her and she thought he was sexy... they are getting a divorce but... i am just saying that everyone has their own preference on who they want, dont trip you find someone.... just stay positive.. I always think that if someone dont like me for me they can move along cause I am someone special... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 7:51:21 AM | I met someone that I was not INSTANTly attracted too.... he wasn't someone that I would normally try to get his attention.....
We had a fun interesting 1st date... which led to a 2nd date... still not thinking i'd see him again.... but by our 3rd or 4th date he had me hooked! He became my bestfriend and lover. He became sexier and sexier to me......... My friends thought we were adorable together yet they didn't see me with him.... if you know what I mean.
I don't think it is fair to really state.. How ugle can a guy be before you say... no way...
You may have the hottest guy or gal.... that they are SO UGLY on the inside that NO one wants to be around them!  | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 9:21:28 AM | Two points
1. If love is blind how come sexy underwear is so popular?
2. Beauty is only skin deep....but ugly goes right through to the f*****g bone.
I sure as hell hope that love is blind because not only am I considerably less than attractive but I've got the personality of a decaying haddock.
I think I'm gonna get hammered for that one.... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 9:59:26 AM | "Sometimes I find really ugly people so ugly they are attractive. No? "
ya know.. there is truth to this. Its that.. scumbag attraction. Something so wrong about them.. so unattractive about them.. that you for some god forsaken reason.. find them attractive. lol.
Looks all come down to.. whos judgin ya. What one finds attractive.. another will not.
Its really a each to their own kinda deal...
There are many people that alot of people would say are unattractive, that I find to be incredibly beautiful. Features I notice, smiles, confidence.. just really knowing the person they are. All of a sudden, they are some of the most beautiful people I know.
my best friend.. all through highschool was over weight. Its like I never even seen it. She was simply just the freakin most amazing chick I've ever met. Now shes all itty bitty and totally smokin on the inside and out. Funny, in highschool.. I still thought she was smokin inside and out.. I look back at pictures of her and think.. NO WAY is that her! But alas... it was.
There are people out there that will find you absolutely beautiful. Dont settle.. till you find that person. :) | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 10:36:25 AM | Everybody has different tastes in what's attractive.
There are many physical things I find attractive that others do not.
I look for what I call " interesting " qualities rather than what's socially acceptable.
To me, nothings more boring than the classic button nose. I much prefer long thin noses.
People should think about what they really find attractive in physical appearance rather than simply rejecting anyone who doesn't fit the mold. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 11:33:28 AM | | But you see.....everyone likes (or loves) something different. What could be homley, fat, not attravtive to you, may be just what makes some other person likes. You never know! | |
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Posted: 4/21/2006 11:55:13 AM | I totally agree with Dru and had a similar experience to Coastergal... once met someone who was not normally the type that I'm attracted to.. but he was intelligent, funny, and considerate... and well worth my time.. 
So yes, I'd say it's true.
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| Is love really blind?[can you love the homely?]
Posted: 4/21/2006 12:33:14 PM |
"Sometimes I find really ugly people so ugly they are attractive. No? "
ya know.. there is truth to this. Its that.. scumbag attraction. Something so wrong about them.. so unattractive about them.. that you for some god forsaken reason.. find them attractive. lol.
Looks all come down to.. whos judgin ya. What one finds attractive.. another will not.
Its really a each to their own kinda deal...
There are many people that alot of people would say are unattractive, that I find to be incredibly beautiful. Features I notice, smiles, confidence.. just really knowing the person they are. All of a sudden, they are some of the most beautiful people I know.
my best friend.. all through highschool was over weight. Its like I never even seen it. She was simply just the freakin most amazing chick I've ever met. Now shes all itty bitty and totally smokin on the inside and out. Funny, in highschool.. I still thought she was smokin inside and out.. I look back at pictures of her and think.. NO WAY is that her! But alas... it was.
There are people out there that will find you absolutely beautiful. Dont settle.. till you find that person. :)
Without a reason, I find myself reading the drivel that is spewed out day after day. The convoluted logic and ill-conceived attempts at humour. Once in awhile there is intelligence masked within a post. To be short, a poster says something that actually has some merit. I am not refering to the usual politically correct and chivalrous comments. Or even to the long passionate responses intended to mask an individuals insecurities and issues that brought them here to begin with.
The quoted poster makes a statement that is valid. She has actually been pretty consistent with her responses and is one of the select few who actually make's sense. In this circumstance, I liked what she said and agree that the point she makes is valid. I do not agree with most of what she says but her intelligence and perception definetly stand out.
A working model that fits within this criteria would be myself in previous experiences tending to be attracted to people who offer me no intellectual stimulation. They do not challenge me or my thoughts. They are rather passive with their own beliefs. Their physical attributes may be substantial but are limited by other aspects that define an individual. I find this boring in the long run but the intial attraction is overwhelming. Perhaps it is the thrill of trying to make someone behave in a fashion that you truly find desireable as opposed to finding someone already fitting those defined attributes.
I would answer this question by saying that love can be blind in the physical sense. It can be defined by other qualities and if those qualities are observed and prevalant in nature, then love would prevail. Perhaps the movie starring Jack Black and Cameron Diaz would be a good description that if we looked through the outer beauty we would find the inner person within and that I would assume is the love that maybe we all truly seek. Now that I have filled my quota for drivel, carry on. LMAO | |
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