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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 8:34:01 AM | i was listening to Dr Laura while driving, and a lady was talking about unintersting sex,,which perked my interest.I just knew Dr. Laura was going to bash the husband for being uncaring, insenstive,,etc. To my suprise, she asked the wife suprising questions,the man was not at all fault,,,i bought one of her books,,"the proper care and feeding of husbands", This book explains everything about a man,,things i thought of ,,but couldnt really put into words,,she has more insight into mens pyche than any one i know..so heres my problem,, I have never in my life, ever met a woman that thinks of men, like Dr Laura thinks women should be,,does she exist? Are there truly women that think men senstive,loving,sexy,caring,etc,,i am serious,,
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:15:11 AM | | Yes, there should be more women out there that understand that a man can be both physically strong and emotionally vulnerable. Some men can encompass all of humanity's personality traits just as some women do. I do think it's wrong that men/women get pigeonholed into types and any deviation from what the oppisite sex perceives as normal gets us labled as undatable. I've had women tell me that I was a great friend and they hope to find a man like me, yet I'm alone, so what's the deal? | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:28:31 AM | | i mean,are there any women who clean up and put fresh make up on to kiss their husbands when they get home from work, and not nag them about the lawn or to put out the garbage,, | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:38:38 AM | Oh, you're asking for more than I'd dare to ask. lol. Women don't need to nag when you do it without them asking and if you care, you'd do it. So, the nagging is really just a reflection of their feeling like you aren't contributing as you don't respect all they do. That's reasonable for a woman to nag you if you haven't done something that was promised to be done. I think you're maybe looking for the old 50's have the house clean, dinner on the table, here's your pipe and slippers kind of woman. She's very rare. Women have careers now and they have lives of their own that they began without you. You think a woman is going to give up all that she is and all she has to simply cater to your needs everyday? lol. You're funny. Good luck with not getting killed by the women in here. lol.
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:45:14 AM | Men are amazing contrasts of what they show the world and the amazing depth beneath - that is reserved only for that rare person that they trust and who accepts them without judgement. Let's face it - to share their most intimate thoughts, fears, dreams,fantasies takes one hell of alot of trust. Women tend to trust easier but they are also less likely to be judged poorly (after all we are women). But men have to live up to a higher standard by society - if they show fear then they are pansies or cowards - if they show gentleness then they are a woose or a fag - if they show tears then they are a momma's boy or baby... no wonder they don't open up easily. They learn at a very young age that they are judged unfairly and most men go through their entire life never letting anyone into their deepest thoughts.
Men can be simplistic - when a man says he is cold - get him a blanket he is cold. If a woman says she is cold, she could be physically cold, or perhaps just wants to be held, or is emotionally cold so don't touch her... too many interpretations and it's easy for a man to get it wrong.
If we take men at face value, give them the respect and trust they need in time they may just open us up to their amazing world of dreams, fantasies, thoughts, fears, hopes, desires and so much more. Men are absolutely intoxicating, challenging, and thrilling all in one. And I find discovering their depth through the layers they present to the world the most rewarding challenge of them all. There is nothing greater than being loved and trusted.
Yes men are sensitive, loving, sexy, caring, gentle, soft, hard, and everything in between.
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:51:34 AM | "i mean,are there any women who clean up and put fresh make up on to kiss their husbands when they get home from work, and not nag them about the lawn or to put out the garbage,,"
Thinking back to when I had a husband... since I rarely wear makeup and typically got home from work later than the ex, the first doesn't apply. As for the second, I didn't need to say anything, he just did it. Considering I worked longer hours than him, took care of our daughter and house and did all the cooking, I guess he figured it was the least he could do.
On topic, I don't know much about what Dr. Laura thinks, but I think men CAN be sensitive, loving, caring, etc. I've even been honored to have known some of them. Unfortunately, I think they are the exception rather than the rule because in the past society has rewarded more of the macho type image. But, luckily, things are changing. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:53:19 AM | i mean,are there any women who clean up and put fresh make up on to kiss their husbands when they get home from work, and not nag them about the lawn or to put out the garbage,,
I don't wear make up very much not even for my pictures on here. So whats wrong with that.
Talking about eachothers days, and things that need done, just keep the house running in order, and not let things pile up. No need to nag when talking about that stuff. If she is nagging then its a sign the man isn't doing what needs done around the house when it needs to be done. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:16:48 AM |
i mean,are there any women who clean up and put fresh make up on to kiss their husbands when they get home from work, and not nag them about the lawn or to put out the garbage
Absolutely! No matter what I was doing it would stop immediately 15 minutes before he would arrive - shower, shave, etc... so when he arrived I would be freshly washed, made up and ready to enjoy his arrival. For me it is very important that we keep that spark alive and I know that the shower before he arrives allows me to stop my day, relax, and get into a more open head space so I can support him in whatever way I can. He in turns calls me regularly and makes sure that my needs are addressed and well cared for. It may seem a bit over the top to do all that everyday - but for me its just another way of showing my devotion.
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:19:17 AM | | I think it alls comes together....if a man see's that she has done a little something to make him happy such as make herself more appealing just for him he will do things in return such as take out the trash or do the yard work. It's a win win situation. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:33:53 AM | ^^^ wonders how many date proposals Kay has received since that last post..
Your patience and understanding are a breath of fresh air, sounds like you defenitely understand men and women -- the cold/blanket analogy was a great.
i feel all warm inside... lol
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 11:33:24 AM | It's called Empathy...
Yes I remember riding in the Truck with my Dad 5 years back maybe listening to the radio, and both of us being a little suprised by Dr.Laura. Interesting insights...seems to be a down to earth woman & most importantly not selfish.
You have to be receptive to the other person...Generally make their well being a priority.
it's not that hard for some people to treat an SO this way.
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 12:43:03 PM | | ok,,,i agree that sometimes men forget to do things around the house,,so remind them,,this is another thing,,do any women ever try and be sexy to there husbands??,,like undress in front of him,before taking a shower,,?? or walking in front of him naked ?..just little sexy things,,my ex used to come in the bathroom while i was brushing my teeth to take a dump,,,soo sexy,,eewwww | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 12:55:28 PM | | Dr. Laura is not one of my favorite people..the epitome of what a union is supposed to be between a man and a woman is somewhat changed in this world. Dr. Laura is stuck in the 50's when men had good jobs and came home to his wife and kids..but now it's different.. he goes to the back room and gets on the computer to play his "games" while the wife is working afternoons to make ends meet.. he got laid off from his job...he is talking online with single, separated and married women and getting off on porn..Wifey is coming home tired and in need of TLC..he is too tired because he has been getting off all night on the computer..he rolls over and goes to sleep..when a man can bring home the bacon..and keeps his wife happy..and not just think about HIMSELF..I think things would be different.. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 1:10:23 PM | | perhaps somewhere in the universe the scenario you just described has happened arealangel.. but let it go.. we aren't all like that... it is easy to use a personal experience and make sweeping generalizations about it.. ie; "this women did this , so all women are ____ .. i am not a huge fan of dr laura but she does have a perspective on some issues that are refreshing.. for example.. when she hears someone playing the "victim" as so many do so well.. she calls them on it and tells them to look at themselves and take responsibility for their own actions instead of always blaming their problems on someone else | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 1:26:19 PM | | I have heard her rantings on the radio and believe me..When a woman calls in for some tea and sympathy..her acidic rhetoric leaves me shaking my head.. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 2:25:00 PM |
If she is nagging then its a sign the man isn't doing what needs done around the house when it needs to be done.
not having had the privilege of listening to Dr. Laura, I don't feel well qualified to comment on her insights or otherwise. I do however feel at times that we men have been subjected to some rather unsavoury and misleading criticism for our participation in household chores, our supposed lack of warmth, caring and other human qualities. The popular representation in the media, supported by research findings geared towards measuring male non-participation, seems to be that men are somehow deficient as functioning human beings. This in turn leads to a common perception that it is primarily men who fail to provide emotional support in failing relationships.
If I was a woman, this might lead me to think of men as mere sperm providing, garbage carrying, grass cutting drones. However, if I was one of our closest biological relatives, ie a chimp or a baboon or a bonobo, I would shake my head at how foolishly we human males had allowed ourselves to be maneuvered and manipulated into giving up our relatively carefree male existences by the simple evolutionary pressure of a pelvis designed for upright perambulation.
It is, I might say, a privilege and a refreshment for a man to come home to a warm, caring, interested, interesting female who doesn't feel it her first task to "nag" about his obvious and extensive failings as a bonded house servant. The treatment we receive walking through the door (in either direction) can be a powerful motivator for our behaviour in our otherwise miserable, unworthy lives... | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 2:50:40 PM | | thank you yrs.,,,you put into words i cannot do,,you should listen to her,,she is on the internet,,drlaura.com you can listen to her there or buy her books.. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:09:53 PM | | i kinda thought that the op would get flamed worse for this post about dr laura... so many women do not like her... thats why she is popular.. she is controversial in her veiws... how ever she is quite predictable after you listen for a while... i think though that the surprising thing for op was that a women would "get it" that men are loving , compassionate etc... as i read some of the posts it is easy to see why op would be surprised | |
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| Dr. Laura ? no whining...
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:10:52 PM | | yes, yes... I understand. Being a man is a burden, much greater than most women could bear; and to top it all off, they don't want us to whine.... that's the part that gets me... | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:14:15 PM | Dr.Laura.... 
I can't stand Her.....I would rather put My head through a wall than listen to Her...
But She is funny....but what is more sad are Her callers...they call in b!tching and whining...about a problem..half way through She says shut up..and flips the script on them and exploits them over the air for the true idiots they are.....
like I say I can't stand Her.......but She is funny..I like listening to her blow up at Her callers
........Has She been on the Dr.Phil show Yet???...that would be a good one..... | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:37:11 PM | I think Dr. Laura is a loudmouthed windbag. She's crazy, and I don't want to waste my time listening to that dingbat when I could listen to nice music on the radio!! | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:58:50 PM | Oh, I love how she tells women not to pose nude for men. Yet, she did it before......
ohhh, and where can we see pictures of that????  | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 4:02:14 PM | | Dr. Laura probably posed nude for Playboy a long time ago and the editors rejected her pictures. She's got a complex over that. No wonder she's a bitter angry windbag!! | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 4:21:31 PM | "i mean,are there any women who clean up and put fresh make up on to kiss their husbands when they get home from work, and not nag them about the lawn or to put out the garbage,"
I do this,...and it doesnt make an ounce of difference to our relationship. | |
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| Dr. Laura ?
Posted: 4/22/2006 4:49:51 PM | "Dr. Laura is not one of my favorite people..the epitome of what a union is supposed to be between a man and a woman is somewhat changed in this world. Dr. Laura is stuck in the 50's when men had good jobs and came home to his wife and kids..but now it's different.. he goes to the back room and gets on the computer to play his "games" while the wife is working afternoons to make ends meet.. he got laid off from his job...he is talking online with single, separated and married women and getting off on porn..Wifey is coming home tired and in need of TLC..he is too tired because he has been getting off all night on the computer..he rolls over and goes to sleep..when a man can bring home the bacon..and keeps his wife happy..and not just think about HIMSELF..I think things would be different.."
arealangel....
Do you know my boyfriend?
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