| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 4/22/2006 2:50:51 PM | | Hi, just a quick question. I get a few emails from nice guys (well most of them are nice), but physically, they don't appeal to me. I know that sounds shallow, and I'm sure they've all got great qualities, but you know, we have preferences. How do you politely say "You're not what I'm looking for" without hurting feelings particularly when you've asked to see a pic. I'm not saying they have to be fantastic looking, I actually prefer a rough diamond, but, well, you know......... any suggestions? | |
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 4/22/2006 3:40:53 PM | Shell, I would use something along these lines.
Thank you for taking the time and effort to contact me.I read your Profile and it is obvious you are a nice person and will not be single for long.Sadly I see common ground between us, lacking a little bit and would not like to stand in the way of you finding someone more compatible with you.I am sure you will bring many good qualitys to a realtionship with the right Lady,so all the best with your search. | |
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 4/23/2006 12:28:59 AM | lol
Thanks for all your suggestions. The location thing is probably the go, altho' I'd already be aware of that when I've asked for a pic. I'll take a little of all of the above, and Tinks, thanks for the email. Gotcha! Actually, I just had to cut someone off suddenly on the IM because he kept harping about skin colour, and being a better lover. Who gives a continental? Why do these blokes think alls we want is a good (perhaps they're not) bonk. Geez Louise, there is a little more to life than that. | |
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 4/24/2006 5:35:22 AM | | HAHAHAHA you guys! Don't know whether or not to believe some of the pics that are posted. A "young" bloke (36) emailed me yesterday, and I just HAD to reply "Is that you or is it a pic off the Fireman's Calendar?" He had a hard time convincing me it was him, but then all's he wanted to talk about was how great black guys are. What is it with black guys that they have an ego as big as what they profess to carry around in their trousers. Anyways, I told him to get over himself. Geez, I haven't heard since. | |
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 4/24/2006 8:55:54 AM | Hi Shells Bells,
I read your question a couple of times before I could offer an opinion on your dilema.
I have never been offered a rejection of any sort, and have only ever had 1 email go unanswered/deleted.
I guess it's because I am not promoting sex or sexuality, I am not asking for pics and I am always polite. So I guess the hint here is this.... if the message you get from these guys is in any way offensive simply delete it unanswered.
They will get the hint no matter what colour they are or how proud of their manhood they are. Nothing gets the message home to a man clearer and louder than if you were not interested enough to be bothered answering.
Nice men are just that, if a nice guy sends you a message and you aren't interested he will be nice enough to understand if you don't reply to him. even if it is because of your feeling that it's a mismatch, he doesn't need to be told that... it's obvious :) .
To actually enter a diologue with a man to explain your lack of interest simply opens a door for further contact from him and that might be harder to stop.
As for asking for a pic, well if you ask for a pic you are entering a situation where after the appearence of a man fails to impress you, you may feel you have to let him down.
Some people are shallow enough to insist on a pic before getting to know a potential friend.... if you feel the need to ask for a pic when you message a man simply say in your message that at the moment your only interested in friendships... make that clear and have no fear :)
Sadly looks fade but the personality lingers forever... I would hate to marry someone on looks only to find later that I was mismatched on personality.. many confuse infatuation for "in love" but the truth always reveals it's self
My tip as a man who was married for 30 years to the same woman is get to know your friends well and marry your best friend... True friends almost always find time to heal their rifts, where as infatuatants self destruct.
I hope this helps you dear,
God Bless
Geoff | |
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 10/25/2006 12:20:49 AM | I never ever had a rejection problem as yet. If I did, I just write them back with this polite email:
Dear ......,
Thank you for your email rejecting my suitability.
I have received rejections from an unusually large number of well suited women. With such a varied and promising spectrum of rejections from which to select, it is impossible for me to consider them all. After careful deliberation, then, and because a number of women have found me more unsuitable, I regret to inform you that I am unable to accept your rejection.
Despite your suitability and previous experience in rejecting suitable partners, I find that your rejection does not meet with my requirements at this time. As a result, I will be starting to email you regularly on the first of the month.
Circumstances change and one can never know when new demands for rejection arise. Accordingly, I will keep your email on file in case my requirements for rejection change.
Please do not regard this letter as a criticism of your qualifications in attempting to refuse me. I wish you the best of luck in rejecting future partners.
Yours in PoF,
Pedro
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 10/25/2006 3:38:14 AM | | l find it surprising that somebody would message for a date more than twice. Seems when l was younger you would ask once, maybe ages later possibly ask twice. Anymore you were only making a fool of yourself along with leaving the impression your a probable stalker. | |
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regent
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 10/25/2006 5:29:27 AM | Okay everybody, i really enjoyed this thread.
But i think it's time we moved along 
I'm just kidding, keep up the good work boys and girls!
My contri on this will be, the greatest ever line that i found
worked a charm....
and i quote........
"I need someone to pay half the mortgage, each week
for the next 22 years and 4.5 months, and weekly".
Anyone with an ounce of "mateship" and "Australianism"
is sure to run a mile, at that idea. | |
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regent
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Joined: 9/16/2006
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 10/25/2006 5:37:16 AM | This is how,
at the end of your letter say,
"Take care Alex"
They will never write back
If you want them to think that
you want them to write back,
say, "i look forward to hearing from you"
if you really want to hear from them,
"ask a question"...
if they write back with an answer...you have their attention
if you don't write back, they won't either. | |
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| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 10/25/2006 7:59:12 PM | Regent it's all in the interpretation.. Take care means exactly take care.. nothing else, nothing more..
I look forward to hearing from you, is something I would use in my business correspondence.
The best way to not get my attention is to write like I am a business proposal. lol
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regent
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Joined: 9/16/2006
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regent
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Joined: 9/16/2006
Msg: 25 | |
| How do you reject someone's attention, politely.
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:35:26 AM | And, getting slammed on a thread in public,
is in no way polite. It is utterly rude.
Not replying to a personal letter, be it
business or otherwise, instead, turning to
ridicule in public. | |
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