Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/11/2004 6:18:21 PM | | Is it wrong to want to be spoiled ? I am one who returns the favor. BUT I want a man who loves to give me what I want. Guys are your turned off by spoiled women ? Or do you think women who are spoiled are worth taking chances on, seeing if she will spoil in return ? | |
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| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/11/2004 8:20:06 PM | | It depends on what you mean by "spoiled" If you mean that we should work every living hour to buy you jewelry, a car, expensive clothes that you will never wear, and other items like that- of course we are going to be turned off! | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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Posted: 4/12/2004 6:41:17 AM | Im not a materialistic type of girl. I am the spend quality time with me spoiled girl. I liked being pampered, and given body massages. I like a man to rub my feet after a long hard days work. I like for a man to ask me if all is well even when he knows all is well. I like for a guy to bring me a chocolate bar home, because he passed the vending machine at work and knew it was my favorite kind. I like for a guy to go hang out with his buddies, but come home and still want to make love to me, and not be too tired.
So, gentlemen is it wrong to be spoiled ? To ask for these things ?
I am a woman who loves to cook for her man and his friends. I am a woman who loves to tickle my man and wash his feet. I am a woman who loves to give intimate massages, and kisses all over the body. I am a woman who brings home the favorite pint of ice cream.
Is it wrong to want a man who does the same for me in return. Is it wrong to want a man to spoil me like I would spoil him ?
There are men out there who think they should not spoil their women, should not pamper them, that they should be the ones pampered .
I am not that kinda woman.
I am what you are to me...
SO Is that Wrong ? | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 5 | |
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Posted: 4/12/2004 7:47:36 PM | | Zee, I don't think what you are asking for is "spoiled" It is more like being cared about by your mate. They should do those things for you if you will do those sort of things for them. It is only right. | |
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| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/12/2004 10:07:18 PM | Zee, I'm a guy who'll give, and give, and give. But I never seem
to get as much being given back. I've been thinking a lot about
things like this lately, I really have.
I've concluded that I can put in as much as I can into a relationship,
but I haven't met anyone who appreciates my effort, or wants to
give anywhere near my input back.
People all over are different, and I can't let any past relationships
cloud my future. That means I must go into my next relationship
with my eyes wide open, and NO preconcieved notions about my
new love interest, if it heads there.
Is it wrong to be spoiled, not at all in my book. As long as you
appreciate the attention, and return it as good, or better than
you get it. After all, isn't that all, we're all after when it comes right
down to it? But personally I believe it's better to give, than to recieve. | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 8 | |
| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/13/2004 3:14:03 AM | See birdman thats the problem guys call me spoiled because I like those things. The biggest problem may just be Im dating the wrong guys. I am an upfront kinda person so when they ask what I like I tell them, usually they say Im a spoiled lady. O well, guess thats why Im still searching for that RIGHT one. Anyway, thanks for the input, and I do believe in giving what I get.
Atvguy, thanks I think you have the right idea, and wish you all the luck, because I tell yah, many do appreciate a guy like you, its just those who arent use to being treated right who run and jump off the truck at mack speed, lol. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2004 8:26:12 PM | | I am more of a tradionalist when it comes to dating and I believe a man should pamper his woman. I think in all realationships these days there is some degree of spoiling and there is nothing wrong with it. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2004 2:11:46 PM | | Lets face it everyone. We all can sit back and tell everyone what we want and expect form our partners. But we all show our mates that kind of attention at first. Then when the new smell wears off it stops. We men sit around and call our past women b...... for leaving and don't take any blame for it. We all need attention from the one that we love. Guys if they don't get it from us they will get it somewhere else. Same goes for the ladies. My next girl will know how I feel, not by easy words. But by taking the effort by showing with actions. Keep the home fires burning everyone. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/14/2004 2:19:46 PM | | i like to be shown total affection... and I give so much to the one i love. I beleive if u find someone you adore...you spoil thme treat them with little things do nice little things for them. I think we teach ppl how to treat us.... | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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Posted: 4/14/2004 4:30:39 PM | OMG especially when the newness wears off ! Im not sure what Alura will say, but for me I love the feel of a man, the smell of a man, and the way he carries himself as a man. On a bad day, he cant smell, feel bad and walk with a limp lol. When I fall in love its hard. I fall hard. I do everything to keep what I have, but the relationships I have had that did not work out, was because the guys decided since they had me, they no longer had to fight to keep me...
WRONG !!!!
Like someone said previously. Keep the home fires burning.
Its not easy to work on a relationship and work all day, and do fifty other things thru the day, and still be sane. BUT, if you want it, you fight for it, you dont give up.
You wined and dined to get me, then I expect the same to keep me.
After a while I got tired of doing all the good stuff, and the guy sat back and reaped the benefits. O NO, not what I am interested in, I want equal spoiling.
Sometimes its the little things, that matter ladies and gents.
Thats why I wanted to know what others thought, about spoiling.
I see lots of guys who say they do spoil/pamper.
So what happened, how come the ladies didnt stay around ?
In my case the guy was a jerk and wanted all and gave nothing. | |
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| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/14/2004 4:51:23 PM | | That was me with the home fires. Your right. But i have always found it to be the woman who gets bored and moves on. Seems like they think, well i know i can have him. But what a bout that guy over there? | |
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99
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Joined: 2/28/2004
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Posted: 4/14/2004 5:07:05 PM | | Ah......not always true singlepop. If you are with someone who is not compatable with you then yes they are going to move on regardless of their sex......let's not make this a gender thing as it happens on both sides of the fence, the numbers would probably be quite equal as to who leaves who first! | |
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Posted: 4/14/2004 5:12:56 PM | | Sorry. Didn't mean to sound sexist. Just speaking from my personal relationships. It just seems like the women I know are out for the chase and when the chase is over they are gone. Want what they can't have seems like. | |
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99
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Joined: 2/28/2004
Msg: 17 | |
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Posted: 4/14/2004 5:29:26 PM | | I could say the same about men though....... I do agree with you on the chase thing, but men do it too. Don't give up on all of us, most of us really want the good guys to spend our lives with, you just have to keep looking for us!!!!!! Personally I think I prefer when the chase ends and the real relationship begins. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2004 7:41:58 PM | | Yeah me too. Getting too old to do any chasing. lol I would like to find someone i can prop my feet up with and talk to. As long as their feet doesn't stink. lol | |
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Posted: 4/15/2004 4:52:29 AM | if being spoilt means being treated nicely, i would love and always did spoil my woman in ways of massages , full body bambering of oiling bathing, giving attention to her all the time , cuddling making her feel like a princess and the most imortant person in the whole world, i would love to do that with the special woman that comes my way sooner i hope rather than later,.
but if spoilt means materialistic spoiling as many girls think these days, that would have to be a big turn off for the man.. thats my view as we like our women to be with us for us, not be bribed to spend time with us. anyone go for that?
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99
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Joined: 2/28/2004
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| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/15/2004 9:29:14 AM | | It's a good thing! I love to spoil a man. In this day and age a lot of women think only they are entitled to all the pampering and spoiling. If they only knew how a man responded to the attention! Pampering and spoiling for either sex should come from the heart and be done out of love.......not as a bribe. The little things mean the most.....bubble baths, home cooked meals, massages, little love letters, breakfast in bed...etc. When your with the right person these things should come natually to you both without too much thought. So in answer to your question........Yes, I do believe a man should be treated equally as nice! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2004 9:47:25 AM | Well said 99 (still dont know your name) it comes naturally and it dont come on demand or pretence, its the spice of the relationship that makes it taste and feels so delecious at all times, bathing cooking a meal for your partner little surprises love notes, in the corn flakes or on the fridge, in a healthy loving relationship doesnt matter who does what when or where, its a mingling of two souls minds bodies and hears that just express the loving inside in every possible way. the more loving and imaginative one is the better lover they are and thats not only in bed as love extend further than the bedroom or sex.
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| Re: Is it Wrong ? Question for the Guys !
Posted: 4/16/2004 5:58:48 AM | It is hard to fullfill eachothers wishes by spoiling.
To me it would have to look like and easy way to find how pleased someone is by the way you really are.
Nobody can live or set a solid based relationship on spoilings. Once fantasy time is over or deminishing, those so called "special attentions/ spoils" will loose effects and will be useless, because they became too familiar.
Special attentions, should be in the "game" and for a lifetime lasting but certainly not a base for a good relationship. Whether it is a material or mental spoil. Everybody likes to be surprised with a flower, everybody likes a "surprise massage" from his/her partner.
But not everybody should take it for granted this is the way you really care about someone else, there is more. More important and satisfying is how deep you can have a good dialogue and how much both partners agree on every day stuff. Things both have to deal with everyday and events which regards both intrests or affection. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2004 6:30:50 AM | Doing nice things for people you care for isn't spoiling them. I think it is just part of being human. I have a few married friends who don't do nice things except for special occasions. They say that if they were to do these nice things at other times, their spouse would come to expect it, and that was the beginning of the end. I think that they key is to be somewhat unpredictable in when you do nice things, that becoming too predictable in a relationship is bad. I don't think that relationships where one person does nice things and the other person doesn't will work for long, something else is holding things together.
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Posted: 4/16/2004 7:30:29 AM | | 99 I would pamper you so bad. Start with a nice hot oil rub down. Oh wait I don't know if that would be pampering you or me? LOL. Really though if you enjoy doing things for your mate then you are spoiling yourself at the same time. | |
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