| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 3:10:04 AM | This mornings MSN comments about do's and don'ts for first date destinations...opinions please!......
ACCORDING TO THEM.............
The first date can make or break the rest of the relationship. It is all about chemistry and good conversation. If you don't hit it off on date number one, forget about getting a call back for a second.
In a recent survey done by an online dating service, respondents indicated what kinds of places they would avoid on a first date. The top ten picks may surprise you. (EVEN POFers??-- I THINK NOT!!)
Family Functions
Avoid any family dinners/weddings/reunions like the plague! At 81%, family get-togethers was chosen as the biggest first date no-no by respondents. Your date will be nervous enough trying to impress you. He/she does not need the added pressure of auditioning for your family and friends as well.
It can also be an embarrassing situation for you. Most families have their skeletons and black sheep and it might be too much for your date. Save meeting the family until you have been dating for a while.
Dance Clubs
Picture this - pounding music, blinding strobe lights and a whole bunch scantily clad people bumping and grinding. Need we say more? Plus, your dance moves might not be as smooth as you think.
Bars
Some people think that alcohol is the perfect social lubricant for a first date, but it can lead to serious trouble. You might say or do something foolish. When you are drunk, everything you say and do seems super cool and funny. But when the beer-goggles wear off, you don´t want to look back and regret any decisions you made.
Movies
Although cheesy 1990´s TV shows depicted the movies as the perfect first date, the hopes of making a love connection by accidentally grazing hands when you reach into the popcorn is weak. You aren´t allowed to talk and you spend two hours sitting stiffly beside each other, staring at a screen. It gives you little chance to get to know each other and make a real connection.
Sporting Events
A date that involves face paint, the wave, and angry drunk guys screaming at the referee is no place to make a love connection. Guys who were interviewed for the survey admit that sports don´t bring out the best in men. Males may come off as too aggressive and women might find that unattractive.
The Beach
It might seem like a romantic idea - strolling bare feet on the seaside, playfully splashing one another, then falling into the waves in a passionate kiss. But, a good number of survey respondents wouldn´t want to do this on a first date. It can be intimidating wearing a bathing suit and revealing so much so soon.
Mini Golf
Trying to outsmart that windmill or flirting by showing your date how to swing a golf club may seem like a cute idea, but respondents say it is a childish plan for a first date.
Theme Restaurants
Taking your date to a cheesy restaurant where your waiter is dressed up like a medieval knight, Fred Flintstone, or a pirate with a stuffed parrot on his shoulder is definitely not a recipe for romance.
Museums
You should be able to relax and have fun on a first date. Many people cite sense of humour as the number one quality they look for in a mate. A solemn, serious museum is not an ideal place to show off your funny side.
Coffee Houses
You might think coffee is an easy, laid-back way to meet and get to know each other, but survey respondents say it lacks creativity and effort. It´s definitely not a romantic setting to sweep him/her off their feet.
OK...I GIVE UP....SO WHERE SHOULD WE GO????? THEY GO ON TO SAY:
So, you might be thinking: Where does that leave to take my date?! Be creative and think outside of the box. Maybe a carnival or amusement park is the place for you. How about a double-date with some close friends. Or stick with the tried-and-true, head over to a classy restaurant.
Show your date you are willing to go out of your way to plan something memorable and special. something memorable and special.
LOL....SO, POFers...WHAT DA YA THINK??????????? | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 4:31:50 AM | We went to a restaraunt that you walk around and pick the food to be cooked. It was cool cuz you're not sitting around all the time.
It was the first time I had been somewhere that the menu wasn't behind the counter and the guy didn't ask me if I wanted a biggy size my meal.
She paid..... Boy I'm so lucky! | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 5:32:50 AM | Bah! Nothing wrong with a coffee house I say. I looked up the data for this survey and 9% of those surveyed said they would avoid it. So it got onto this list even though 91% of people seem OK with it!
Wouldn't a carnival/amusement park be more enjoyable if you already know each other so you're both OK with close touching on rides? | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:38:52 AM | Maybe a carnival or amusement park is the place for you. How about a double-date with some close friends.
How is a carnival really any different than the bar/club suggestion? Nothing says romance like throwing up that funnel cake after riding the double looping inverted roller coaster. Isnt a double date with friends just as uncomfortable as meeting family. One person still has to not only impress their date but their date's friends now as well?
Im not saying theyre bad ideas but in conjunction with the writer's list, they are silly suggestions for alternative choices. I think the article would have been more helpful if it presented a list of do's AND dont's which we didnt get to read.
As for first dates, I try to plan a couple of things. First something that has some form of activity to it, even if its just walking. I find activity breeds action and energy which helps stir up conversation. Afterwards, I like to go someplace where both people can sit and relax and further get to know one another. Everything should allow for ease of communication though.
The activities should be a reflection of the person who did the asking out. I would never take a date rock climbing for example cause that isnt something I would normally do. However, a trip to the zoo or Marine Land is definitely an idea for me. It should be something you have an interest in. I mean you are trying to see if the two of you are compatable and if the other person hates what you did, well then youre obviously not a match made in heaven. | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 6:47:08 AM | @Malcolm and Willy....thumbs up on the suggestions. Beats going to Timmies anytime.
Once upon a time, in a galaxy far, far away, I used to like heading to the boardwalk, or even a walk downtown, a gallery, something that's a little more interactive, seemed like a good way to talk and get to know each other.
I haven't a clue on what's an original idea any more...of course the library is out. | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 9:06:20 AM | has anyone ever noticed that in the real old days they didnt have these do and donts list for meeting and dating and somehow people seemed to have met and stayed together
Overall..use your head when suggesting a location . If you both agree and are comfy...have a great time | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 4/25/2006 9:33:54 AM | | wow no wonder im still single LOL i should print out that list and take it with me when ever i go out on a date. off topic my first date ever was in the ER of toronto general hospital as i was walking with my date she fell and hit her head so we ended up there all night | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 5/13/2006 10:04:10 AM | BELIEVE IT OR NOT EVERYONE!!!! My husband took me fishing for our first date. He baited my hook and I fell in love. So, it's a place to have a private conversation, it's laid back and then action oriented when you catch your fish. And it didn't cost either of us anything except gas for the boat and the dew worms. He picked up the tab for these. Don't forget your lifejackets and enjoy fishing | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 5/13/2006 10:19:55 AM | glad to see i'm not the only anti coffee date girl too
to me, not only does it show lack of imagination it also shows lack of true interest in me
afterall, to me, a "coffee date" implies an easy out - a quick getaway - and well... i'm not interested in going on a first date with a guy who even THINKS HE MIGHT need a quick getaway from me
instead i want a guy who invests a bit of time
first dates are nervous enough as it is, without having to worry about only having 5 minutes to impress your date
that being said, i love going to lunches, dinners, pinics, parks, mini golfing, amusement parks, festivals in the park (my fav)
basically for a first date i want a mini adventure that i can look back on fondly
that all being said....
let me tell you how my boyfriend and i broke ALL the rules. First of all, I had met him at a POF function so the ice was already broken.
Our first date, we were talking online and he asked what i was doing - i said i was going to the movies so he asked if i'd like to go together so i said "he11 yeah" - and he picked the show that started in less than 30 minutes. I have never busted my butt so quick to get ready. It was the WORST movie ever. Some bad slasher flick. He paid for my ticket so I thought it might be a date but we still werent quite sure. After the movie, we went back to his place where his roommate and his rommates MOTHER were there and stayed up until well after 1am. Talk about not givin us any space. Anyway, he took me for a tour of his place, showed me his room. Gave me a little kiss - my knees buckled and the rest is history! (total cost of date: $8.50)
Second date we went to Story Book gardens in the middle of the night in a rain storm. Walked around, got completely soaked and kissed a little here and there. Made out in the car a bit until we saw someone approaching the car with a flashlight. Most enjoyable rain storm I've ever been in. (total cost of date: $0)
Third date he picked me up, gave me a little teddybear holding a heart and also a bouquet of roses. This is where, in my opinion the date started to go tragically wrong. He then took me to the race tracks so we could watch the horses. Geez do you know how slow those things go. After realizing how bored I was, we left and for the life of me I don't recall where we went but I will say this... it was the 3rd date  | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:00:24 AM | Running out of places to go, whats left. I guess she will just have to come to my place and go from there. I've done that before. Just hanged out, have a few drinks and talked. But not someone I have never seen before though. Its a trusting situation.
But I guess that would be skipping dating and going right for the hookup. Dating sucks, just get together. | |
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| THE FIRST DATE: destination do's and donts...what do you think?
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:20:04 PM | I think that as long as people are comfortable in who they are and carry little judgements in back of mind, no matter where they meet or what they do, just to be pressure free", it's all good..
We let society dictate way too much how we do things , what's deemed as appropriate or not..people can really close themselves up to being independantly expressive
because we are afraid of what's viewed as acceptable or normal.
As long as both parties are mutually satisfied with what they came up with as an idea of what to do on a first date, who cares what they do..what's "appropriate" is that you are honest with each other, and go into the date/meet up with good intentions.
Now that being said..SAFETY precautions should always be in the back of the mind..cause you just never know !!
Sweet Regards,
GF | |
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