| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 4/28/2006 11:17:14 AM | I live in a small town and i have been out to the bars and every where else ans it seems all the men are already taken and really dont want anything to do with you if you are a single mom.
I am just wondering if I am the only one who has this issue or if there are others like this and what the heck do I do?
There are those days I need some one to just say hey take 5 it will be ok.
Are there any of you out there.....? Help! | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 4/28/2006 12:04:41 PM | Just looked at your profile. Maybe you are a dressy person in your social life, but,your pix don't reflect that. If I was YOUR AGE, with those looks , I would have no trouble looking really really, hot, with a little red lipstick, a longer hairstyle (or hair extension), or maybe a perm/color. You have eyes which need definition, (I.E. light lashes/brows)
buy yourself a bra that fits well, wear stuff that accents your figure- AND DON'T GO TO BARS! They are places where men KNOW you are looking to snag a man. They really are disrespectful places. A little less so if you are with friends. i would rather say, "i met him online" than say I met him in a bar. Especially if I had your potential.
I don't put my picture ont net. That's up to you. I don't think it is totally safe. it's a bad idea (in my opinion) ,too, to advertise you have a daughter, especially one as young as yours.
But dressing up will make youfeel so much better, and build your self esteem.
Also, talk to guys form other countries. They have more to offer, sometimes than you would get form guys in our native country. Try Canada, that's close or England. I have a few online friends there. Guys from Mexico are also interesting.
Good Fishing! | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 4/28/2006 12:14:58 PM | | So are you saing you want me to lie so i can get waht i want cause it that be the case then i will fall in to the catagorie with all the other people who lie. I am sory if i took it worng but hey if i have to look hot for a man then i guess i am in the wrong place. | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 4/28/2006 12:19:27 PM | | they ARE visual creatures; if you're looking for a guy that isn't into girly girls, try a sports show, snowmobile races, things like that; no one asked you to lie; and a good bra never hurt ANYBODY.... | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 4/28/2006 6:11:16 PM | | i guess they mean to grab a bit more attention,....get them interested....then they can find out what kind of person u are....never try to change who u are.....as for the single mom factor ,,...i love kids,...there must be more guys out there like that! | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 6/25/2007 11:07:10 PM | I compare the men in my small community to parking spaces:
All of the good ones are taken and the only ones left are disabled. 
I don't recommend searching in a bar for a companion although sports bars are usually filled to the rafters will men on game night.
Try visiting the local playground on weekends to meet up with single fathers.
Think about joining some co-ed teams or volunteering for some community events. (car/boat/motorcycle or trade shows, fishing derbys)
Join a political group or any Auxillary military organization. (coast guard, police, or firefighters organizations)
Sign up for some male-dominated night classes at your local campus.
You've already taken the first step by joining a dating website.
Good luck! | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 6/26/2007 1:39:45 AM | | Yes, it don't matter if you live in a big city. Many men don't want the responsibility. The best thing you can do is take care of your children. Try to make sure they grow up in a healthy enviroment. Don't expect Mr. Right to come along and take away all your problems. It's not going to happen. There are many women who end up living without a man. It is better to live without a man than to live with one who objects to children. If you start living like it don't matter anymore I promise you the men will come along. You will get so many offers that you will figure out most men don't want ready made families. They will date you but they don't want any commitment whatsoever. You will do better just to concentrate on trying to make yourself happy without a man. Join a singles group at church, do what you must to be content. I'm not saying you will never find a man it's just that it's a lot harder to find someone who doesn't care. You need to be careful when picking out a man especially when you have children. Many men will treat their own children better than yours. Others with no children at all are sometimes power freaks. They may want someone to boss around and to see what it's like to play daddy, most of the time this man is abusive, also bossy and controlling. This type of man is not husband material. If you can find a man with children of his own and values family, this what you are looking for. | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 6/26/2007 3:16:04 AM | 007000, had a few bad relationships, eh.
We are not all shit asses. As a matter of fact, I think the ratio between good men and bad ones is just about the same as it is for women....and that is with or without kids.
You won't find us in a bar, though. We are too busy have real lives. | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 6/26/2007 9:10:12 AM | | I live in a small town and can relate. Look outside the small town, and forget the bar scene. Single dads are the best to date. I didn't look at your profile but I'm not sure why that other post put so much emphasis on looks that's just silly. Meeting people online is a good idea if you're from a small town. Coming to this site is a good start! There's some other free ones out there but I don't think I'm allowed to post it here (message me if you want more info). Don't give up just get out! (not living in the small town, just looking in the small town!!!) | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 6/30/2007 6:28:52 AM | | Try something new. For example, do something with your children in public. Like taking your son/daughter to soccer practice or maybe a public swimming pool. How about a nice park? You are more likely to meet someone that dosent mind children and isnt specifically there to pick up women. Just a thought.... | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 7/4/2007 8:34:10 AM | | Thats funny,, us guy's have the same problem in small towns. All the good girls are either married, taken, can't be found or just want a free ride. Ive been in a small town for 8 years and spend most of my time with my kids since I cant seem to find a good woman for me. (Maybe I'm to picky). I dont go to bars, church or social funtions so I'm hopeing that on-line will be the way to go. Good luck and keep looking,, you may just run across me. | |
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| Is it really that hard ot find someone in a small town?
Posted: 7/4/2007 8:40:28 AM | It's a numbers game in life and the reason small towns have limited options for datings is...
well, they're small.
Even if big cities, dating is hard. Reduce your available men or women to the size of a small town and it gets way harder. Plus the gossip in a small town is tough to take.
I moved from town of 3000 to a city of over a million people. I'm still not meeting Mr. Perfect but there are lots more opportunities to socialize without seeming like the "single lady" in a crowd of couples.
Not everyone can do that of course. Have you gone to dances etc in neighboring towns? Sometimes a short distance away changes everything. | |
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