| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/1/2006 8:02:31 PM | Hi folks .. here's yet another message from a young guy I received tonight. Yup .. read and deleted. I'm surprised at the amount of these I get. What's with you young bucks ... can't you message someone your own age. I guess some women would be into it but I would find it way too weird to sleep with someone my son's age. So this is what he said ...
"Your are looking very sexy in your pic. you have the most beautiful face and eyes. Maybe you would like to play with a 25/M? Nice back rub and a bath And then into the ........? what do you think?"
... with a bare chested pic with a bow tie!
Maybe they think we are desperate or something. So I'm curious young men, what's the motivation here besides the obvious?
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 8:10:59 AM | | put age restrictions on your profile and you won't have this problem...they probably think you're interested in youngsters since you left this field open for anyone to contact you... | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 8:22:52 AM | Yeah everyone knows the youngsters wanna experiment with us old chicks. LOL! That's the theory anyway. But could there be more to it???
Fish-Slayer.......you Hispanic Hottie you!  If you wern't married, I'd filet you right now. Something about a Latin guy just sends me round the bend!!
You know I have young male friends. No lovers.....DAMN! But however, I talk very seriously with 1 32 year old about everything.........and he said to me, "Well think about it? When your in your 30's younger girls think your too old. Older women think your too young. So what choices do you have? Pretty much your gonna try for the older chicks and maybe they will accept you." I never thought about it from their viewpoint until he told me that. Might be some truth in it. Sort of a shortage in the supply and demand market.  | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 8:34:32 AM | Okay, there's a difference between older and OLDER. 25/49 (your split) is my defination of OLDER, and from his message it looks like he's only looking for sex. I have a thing for older woman, by this I mean 5-7 years older at most. I'm a very mature guy at my age, I know what I want. I know who I am, and I know what really matters. I find people my age to be immature and I just don't connect with them. I'm not saying that all people my age is immature, in fact I'm talking to someone as a friend and I think she's a extremely mature woman at her age of 25, but most are. When I read the profile of someone my age and they mention chilling or chillaxing as a hobby I cringe mentally. I shudder in horror of those who write in text speak or slang. I'm not longer interested in going to the bar every weekend, I will go to pubs to talk with friends or to listen to a local band play. My idea of a fun time isn't getting drunk at a party, in fact I don't drink much anymore except the occational beer at a pub or a nice glass of Merlot with dinner. I rather sit down and watch a movie, a good movie, not Scream III or the latest cheezy Meg Ryan love flick. Someone who acutally READS books, not because they have to but because they want to. Sometimes I enjoy just talking about philsophy and everything over a glass of wine and some deserts. My last great discussion is with someone (the mature 25 year old) on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and dating/relationships/players/nice guys/jerks/etc. I find that more enjoyable then going to dance at a club over loud ear shattering music. I'm not humorless, and I make great jokes and can tell funny stories.
I find the qualities I'm looking for rare in people my age group, hence I perfer woman older then me but again for stage of life reasons not more then 10 years. I'm not going to totally reject someone my age if someone like that who is my age or younger comes along. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 2:22:37 PM | I thought my age brackets said over 40 but realize now that it wasn't changed. I have changed it now. If I'm old enough to be someone's mother, it's just too weird for me personally, no matter how much fun it might be. I was hoping to hear the young guy's take on this but I guess they just don't want to fess up. Who knows, maybe it's not just for sex.
flgirl51 ... yes it is flattering but strange at the same time.
Regnis ... you're an old soul with a brain ... too bad you're too young for me. 
ian1980 ... thanks for your honesty.
fish-slayer ... you old Latin hottie is right!
georgygirl ... want his contact info??? | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 2:24:43 PM | Wow wee I ain't been called a HOTTIe in years I fell outa my chair looked up the next flight to Canada Hey I can be married in two countries . Dam your a dumplin yourself you know what they I we do with dumplins huH
Get while there Hot Eat your Dumplines while there Hot
Wooooo eeeeeeee | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 2:28:32 PM | | haha this is the first time I have heard any women complain about the young guys contacting them. I always read that is what you older women want. Now I am confused...I get told I am too old by women my age and older alot. I am lost now at this thread..mind you it won't be a popular one like the older women wanting younger guys threads...can see what is more popular.. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 2:49:59 PM | | I kind of like it as long as they are within about 15 years. I enjoy the younger guys the ones my age usually are ready to just want to sit and watch the sun set and go to bed. I still enjoy life. I also truly enjoy a very loving life with someone I have fallen in love with. Life is to be enjoyed not watched pass by. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 3:27:23 PM | | Sweet Virginia: thanks, if I were older I would be chasing ya:) as I said I'm for older but not OLDER. My limit is 5-7 years older, pushing 10 if I really feel for that person. Beyond that there's what I call stage of life differences, which is heavier then age difference. Just like I won't date someoen 18, not because of the age, but we would be in different stages of our lives. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 5:29:22 PM | I was logged in under my sons sorry
But as I said
Sweet Virginia
Yes she is and if what I say offends you well be offended I wasn't to you I was talking typing or commenting to So as we say in Texas if you don't have a dog in this fight . Well get lost | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 6:00:13 PM | now now fish slayer just razzing ya so lighten up ok ... just thought your wife might be offended that's all. So did you tell her she was a hot dumplin?? If you say to her what the young guy said to me in my message, I bet the Texas skys will be all lit up tonight.
migal67 ... you want his contact info?? lol | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 6:23:23 PM | Sweet Virginia, I have to give ya a heads up, first off take it as a compliment please!, U might not be into it, but i,ll tell ya,, someone already said,, its because they no that we're not into drama we no what we want. SO they see this as confidence that most of them are attracted to, I use to think the same thing ur thinking, I also use to think that why me! when there are young women out ther their own ages that have definitly hot bod's n gravity hasnt set in yet.,,lol This isnt what their looking at, I,ll admit I seem to be into men that are ages 25 to my own age, but I dont hunt them myself as some of the younger women would say we're doing but if they come to me n im liking their attitudes n the mental balance then SURE, i,ll be a friend in a minute, doesnt mean im gonna date them but Im not closed minded to it one bit, I seem to have more in common activity wize etc. Actually Im gonna say this, its up to what u think, n how u feel about it, its not what everyone else thinks. Its all about who is compatible for you, just go with the heart, if urs says no, then no. But if the feeling is right WHY would u neglect ur heart or ur own life of what makes u even feel younger. As far as Im concerned, if u feel old u r old. Age is all in numbers, n the amount of time we have been here, but some of us actually have more wisdom at age 25 then some at 45. Believe me what ur sayin is nothing new these days. Thats why the names of MILF n COUGAR have come out. There all good ways of sayin ur beautiful n ur own ways.
Im sure someone is gonna argue with me on this one but I,ll stand my ground because I have clients that I counsel threw my Sex Therapy that get along gr8 n its all working for them. So why knock it. We all want happiness right. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 6:42:27 PM | | hey mystically ... I hear what you're saying. I'm not really knocking it, I was just curious why they would come on to someone their mother's age. But you are 35, a sex therapist and a hip hop instructor for god sake! It wouldn't surprise me that young guys come on to you. I get a lot of interest from guys this age and it rarely happened before I joined this site. If I did go out with a 25 year old I'd get called a cougar but I haven't been doing the chasing that's for sure. I'd go out with a younger guy but not THAT young. I could be friends but that's about it. | |
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| What's up with young guys coming on to older women?
Posted: 5/2/2006 6:42:51 PM | Virginia,
As for me, it has NOTHING to do with sex! Older people, in general, are kinder, more understanding, listen more intently, can focus on conversation without being scatterbrained, have more patience, better manners, less rude, have more common sense, & are really more in tune with people than their younger counterparts. They've lived longer & hence, better know how to deal with, & treat people. People like that my age or younger are a rarity(me being one of the rare ones)! | |
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