| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 4:52:29 PM | I'm literally dying to know...
Are men intimidated by women who are more successful than they are? I've found myself having to downplay what I do for a living so I can avoid uncomfortable situations! I've worked hard to get to where I am in life! Why should I have to conceal who I am/what I do so I don't bruise some guy's ego?
You'd think a guy would be happy to know there are women out there not looking to be "taken care of".
I literally had a guy make this comment to me the other day:
"You should really delete your profession in your profile. It's intimidating for most men, and other men probably just assume you make a lot of money and are only after you for that reason".
Are you kidding me? Please tell me this isn't the consensus!  | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 5:00:10 PM | c'mon frosty, lighten up; you know I'm fulla crap by now, don't ya? I don't tell guys much about what I do cause it's BORING! No matter how much my boss pays me, no one really cares what I do or how much I make at it, do they? (I mean unless they want me to pay their way, and, oh now I'm just repeating myself) | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 5:10:14 PM | unfortunately alot of them are... i don't let it intimidate me... i'm me, and yeah, i have a great job, make plenty of cash, have a nice place to call home and live a pretty care free life...
if they can't take me for me, then they're not worth my time... i don't care if my man flips burgers, so long as there's love, that's all i need... | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 5:16:59 PM | Not I said me. why would I be money is money . If your married as I am . who cares. When I was single I never accually thought about this.
Now I work for a refinery as a welder and I hear men all the time holding money over there wives head to get something No not that but anything and that really really burns my butt
wow I just heard a term I never ever heard before or acually read it . What is a Sugar momma???? | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 5:21:02 PM | It doesn't matter to me..in fact I kind of prefer a woman who is not going to depend on me for everything. If a woman makes more money than I do, fine. And in my opinion, the best thing is to each of us have our own bank accounts so she has her money, I have mine and then maybe a third that we use as a joint account to pay for things that we both use... We each put a little money in the third account and pay bills like electric or water or whatever... That way, there will be no fights about who spent all (Her/His) money...
I am tired of women who need a man always there. I want an independant woman who can stand on her own two feet and live her own life. Now if she and I share interests then so much the better, we can do them together and then go off and do our own things...
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 5:24:24 PM | I have mine and then maybe a third that we use as a joint account to pay for things that we both use... We each put a little money in the third account and pay bills like electric or water or whatever... That way, there will be no fights about who spent all (Her/His) money...
that's what I'm talkin about; I have to agree with the bearded one here.... | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 5:48:25 PM | | I'm not...I'm LIKE successful women:-) But I'd bet my next paycheck that 90% of the guys that I know are intimidated by them. Why? In my opinion, it's the old fashioned view that guys are supposed to be the provider for the family. If the woman is out earning him, he can't claim that role any more. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 6:44:46 PM | Glanced at your profile what is a COO??? I am just a mere welder and yes I will have a new ranger boat and yes you may have me at your becone call I will never have a cross word . Soon as I find out what a COO is ????
Wow I read your whole profile. Normal enough to love your family . What the hell does that mean. I feel pretty normal and yes I love my family. So your saying if your retarded or underegucated you don't have the ability to love your family.
You know this profile sounds kind hmmm how may I say this. Like you have never experienced the real world. Bubbly ball of fluff and not going pass the third grade you are very degrading to these females on here . Is that what you crave. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 7:13:25 PM | COO = Chief Operating Officer
Haven't experienced the real world? Are you serious?
I'm not degrading anyone. Merely implying that I am not a Barbie doll. If someone is looking for a woman based soley on her looks, they shouldn't pick me.
Normal enough to get along with your family... This has nothing to do with education. Once again, merely pointing out family is important to me. Therefore it's important to me that you crave family values enough to GET ALONG with your family.
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 7:16:57 PM | I am intimidated by successful women when it comes to approaching them romantically.
Here's why.
Because I figure that a successful woman (whatever that is) isn't going to want to date me. It's not that I think that women should be in the kitchen or anything like that. It just seems that women who make a lot of money usually want guys that are at least doing as well as they are.
I mean, I work in a warehouse. I doubt that some female executive is going to want a guy like me. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 7:37:05 PM | Completely false! If I make more than enough money to pay the bills - who cares what you make?!?
Believing that my "Mr. Right" is at an equal caliber as I am in the career world is reaching. And who cares if he is/isn't? I have a friend who is one of the smartest and interesting people I know, and he happens to be a teacher. He makes 35K/year. (We dated, it didn't work for other reasons.)
So I guess the point is that it didn't matter how much he made. In my case, I'm looking for someone who is on the same level intellectually. I don't think how much a person makes comes even close to determining that.
By the way, I just read your profile... You're articulate, you can spell, know how to use punctuation properly... Not exactly someone who seems to be unintelligent. I think the fact you work in a warehouse is irrelevant. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 7:45:52 PM | I've found myself having to downplay what I do for a living so I can avoid uncomfortable situations!
Something like dissability, decease, an uncurable disease, lower income (or no income at all)?
You'd think a guy would be happy to know there are women out there not looking to be "taken care of"
I would be happy if she has a life of her own, and we could be very happy having equality in our relationship, regardless of the hundred grand per year she could make (who gives a shit as long as we're both great!). I want to think she will be fine if something serious happened to me, that she will survive. This above all... | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 7:48:33 PM |
I mean, I work in a warehouse. I doubt that some female executive is going to want a guy like me.
You have just equated your total self worth to a number and that is just plain wrong!
I'm another female executive and while I'm not looking now I have dated all types of people in the past - from security guards, through to factory workers.
What mattered was not their job, but what was between the ears, and if they knew how to use it for anything other thatn malicious uses.
You need to love yourself, and who you are - and then market THAT product! | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 8:04:32 PM | You know what princess....you just be the best, most wonderful person you can be! Be true and honest to yourself first...as for the guys that are intimidated by you....yes.....some men might be intimidated by you, but they will always be intimidated...by women more successful than themselves...don't downplay anything. Some of us guys would be damned proud to walk arm in arm with you...and go thru any door with you...truthfully...there comes a certain time in your life, due to age, it won't make any difference how successful you are, we've only got so much time left on this earth........and to think all those guys missed out on your wonderful qualities because they're scared of you, due to their own inadequacies, they'll be kicking themselves when they get a little older!
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 8:13:51 PM | | I am 100% comfortable with a woman in a more prestigious position with a much higher salary than mine, so long as she is completely comfortable dating a financially secure, yet definately blue collar guy. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2006 8:17:38 PM | Eyce, You are a winner, don't let anyone, male or female hold you back! You should be proud of your accomplishments. You obviously had to work very hard and have lots of talent to get to be a COO at your age. Wow! Way to go!
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 8:38:27 PM | Simple answer: depends on the guy. But history teaches that couples are the most successful when both people are on par with each other in social standing. In other words, the princess and the pauper situation works most often in Disney movies, unfortunately.
Speaking for myself, I wouldn't have a problem with it; I am secure in my ambitions and accomplishments. In fact, I find such women more attractive, and I would probably be rather proud of having the attention of a "successful" woman. Admittedly, if a woman were better at everything that I feel I'm good at, then my ego would take a big hit. But, in reality, different people have different talents and abilities. The trick is to have a couple's talents be complementary rather than overly competitive.
Most of the women I have known have not been financially successful. They were looking for a man to share in their financial struggles, or a man to sweep them away from that struggle. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 8:40:21 PM | Hi All,
I imagine some are. It wasn't that long ago the "male" was the sole bread winner for a lot of families. Mom stayed home with the kids and dad worked. I bet a lot of people here in their 30's, 40', etc.. grew up in an environment like that. I guess when you take that into account a lot of guys probably feel like the toaster that was replaced by the toaster over... To them change is bad. My X made a lot more than I did. I was always proud of her accomplishments.
So if you work hard and do well - be proud.
I think also that if you're dating someone and they seem concerned about what you make or don't make little red flags should be coming out. Life's too short to hang with people that want to suck the life out of ya. | |
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| Are Men Intimidated By A Woman Who Is More Successful?
Posted: 5/3/2006 8:44:43 PM | | I have been dumped based on the intimidation factor... and I am no high paid career woman. But I have dated some guys who have achomplished less and felt insignificant as a result of being with me. I don't care now. I am proud of myself and if someone else has an issue with it, they can sort it out on their own. It takes a strong man to realize that a woman does depend on him... for emotional security that is... not financial... and that is harder to provide in most cases. They should appreciate not having to give both. | |
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Very very nice tact.
