| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:24:57 AM | So, heres the problem.
I went to bed one evening and woke up to find my husband masturbating to porn on the computer. Now this really disturbs me and I'm not really sure why. All I know is I wish he would give me more attention cause I'm real...and I'm RIGHT HERE | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:29:51 AM | you dont masterbate?
I've heard this from a few woman, come to me first.. enjoy what is right here.
I've heard woman get offended, greatly bothered by it.
I never really understood it.
Masterbation is normal. Nothing to be ashamed of.. and sometimes.. less work to just get to the point.
It really just is what it is.. and should not be taken personally. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:39:31 AM | | I agree..I think it is perfectly normal to masturbate with or without your partner....sometimes the urge just strikes you amd maybe he was thinking rather then wake you up and upset you he would just jerk it and get off...or maybe he was surfing the net and saw something sexy that turned him on...it's not cheating on you if it's an innocent picture or erotic story...now if he was jerking off while talking to another woman then yea....I'd be pissed...but looking at porn...thats no biggie... | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 6:54:44 AM | "you may be right here but your on a dating site chating on forums lol
1 word for you both.... COMMUNICATION
talk to your hubby.. not strangers"
Its best not to ASSume.. anything. Thanks.
Its not only a dating site, it has the option for friends.
so.. this being said.. my opinion on masterbation has nothing to do with weather I am married or not. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:11:16 AM | | I agree with HuggaMonkey,,,,,,maybe he woke up all horny and didnt want to wake you (maybe he has before and you didnt want to?). Men as we all know are visual, so him feelin frisky,,decided to 'take matters in his own hands' and take care of it. I wouldnt really worry about it. Also like Hugga said,,,if he were doing that with another woman then you would have a problem. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:38:40 AM | In some cases all the sexual activity that occured during dating ends when the female believes she no longer has to engage in the act. Communication, as previously mentioned, is the key.
Some men may want sex more often than the female so as a result they masturbate when
she isn't willing/able. These very same men may no longer desire the wife anymore. They may feel masturbation accomplishes the mission without asking the wife for sex just to get rejected.
Another issue may be the quality of sex. If he considers the sex to be more of a chore than a luxury he may look to other means of gratification.
The female dictates most everything in a marriage. There are plenty of acceptions to the rule, but history has shown that, "If the wife isnt happy nobody's happy."
That being said Communication is a marriage's best friend. The parties involved should talk about ways to improve their sex life. More than likely a talk like that will not only improve the sex life they share but it will improve their overall relationship.
In no way am I saying its all the female's fault. Im a male and I know that we screw up all the time. It boils down to husband and wife understanding each other's needs and desires and for the two acting on trying to please the other. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:43:50 AM | | Same reason why baseball players go to batting practice before they play in the big game. Don't worry about it. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 8:11:49 AM | Wow that's just weird and a total "DEAL BREAKER!"
Not the masterbating but to the computer when you're right there??????? Sheesh!
Good Luck! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 8:31:19 AM | If you have a HABIT masterbating? Then that's weird!!
It's not natural to watch porn and masterbate when your wife is right there! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 8:36:18 AM | | I think it would be unnatural for him not to masterbate. If men truly do think about sex every 17 seconds, I'm all for them taking matters into their own hands from time to time ~ (bad unintended pun...lololol) The porn on the net, unfortunately, that is today's Playboy. If you really are bothered, and still upset by what you witnessed, you probably should have a loving, civil conversation with him...and give him other options, like access to you 24/7 because his urges probably aren't going to coincide with yours, unfortunately!! Good luck. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 8:44:47 AM | | Dang. He probably just didn't want to bother you. I probably would have done the same thing if someone I was with was asleep in the same room and the urge struck. It's no big deal. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:03:21 AM | Here's the thing about men, their "tools of pleasure", how we think and what we like.......IMHO anyway!! LOL
As much as we love you women and all you offer in every way imaginable SOMETIMES we like the variety masturbation affords us. It's NOT "replacing" you in any way---it's just a different feeling and we like it--a LOT in fact. We don't want you thinking we don't LOVE and appreciate how your body feels to us----we just like the different sensations masturbation is! Often times just after an enjoyable love making session some "self indulgence" is just the trick to really add the proverbial "cherry on top" of that particular sundae!!
Call this unbelievable but to a certain extent it's why SOME men are prone to cheating. It's NEVER "better" somewhere else---it's just DIFFERENT. Different person, different body, different "down there", different sensations and mental processes all around. Women tend to like experimenting with various forms of sex with their SO whereas men tend to think a different partner might be fun. BEFORE you jump on this it's a THOUGHT--not an action, NOT a desire, NOT a prediction of the future---it's similar to any fantasy.
When I was married I'd often times "practice" while the wife was away---it was a new sensation. Each in their own way are fun, feels great and the one does NOT detract or diminish the other.
Your guy was having a thrill because of the porn partially---we're visual beings. It could be he was just as caught up in doing that with you in the other room as in a small way that's somewhat "taboo"---that also adds to the fun of it all---getting away with something! It's not wrong, it's not right, it just IS. Next time YOU offer to help him out; catch him at the computer, mabye doing some online banking and take things in hand while forcing him to concentrate on the screen and you too just talking about normal, day-to-day things. See how THAT works there at home----I'm guessing he might enjoy that!!
You're young still, have a bit to learn about interacting with men and how we think. It's not easy "knowing" us but once you learn our least-discussed "things" you can work us like puppets!! LOL
And THAT is a fact............................ | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:09:55 AM | Did you all miss the part where she said:
All I know is I wish he would give me more attention cause I'm real...and I'm RIGHT HERE
Think!!!
Oh and gosh it is masturbate. She even spelled it for you and most of you still can't get it right. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:14:53 AM | ^^Well spank us, huh?? We'd think but we're otherwise "busy" !!
IF she's having this difficulty at home then mastURbation isn't the problem, now is it??
That's a whole other thread, to wit: Why doen't my husband/boyfriend pay more attention to me??
Might get more of an accurate reply, at least according your post here Paige! | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:18:48 AM | | Oops. So much for my five years of college. My mom would be really disappointed if she knew. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:20:42 AM | hell if it was me i think i would be pissed if he didnt wake me up if he got the urge...wake up sex is GREAT  | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:22:33 AM | | Exactly misskittie. That was the point. Heck if you wake me up and I say leave me alone, masturbate your little brain away. | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:25:12 AM |
Oh and gosh it is masturbate. She even spelled it for you and most of you still can't get it right.
YIKES!! It's so hard to work, socialize and spell. Gezzz....if that is the worst thing we all do today, I'd say it's a good day. D'oh ~ guess I'm out of the spelling bee!!  | |
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| Why do married men masturbate?
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:33:44 AM | Damn masterbating and sex together is even better ahh hell sex after the guy masterbated is like heaven......last longer!!!!! | |
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