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 jerryspringer

Joined: 3/5/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:35:17 PM
Guys, if you had found what you believed to be the "perfect" woman for you for long term, at what point would you give up if she were playing hard to get. But she showed very much that she was interested in you. Or if she thought right now that she was not ready for a serious relationship, how long would you wait. I'm not talking about a booty call, but what you thought could turn out to be "the one". Thanks for your answers.
 Leeanne

Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:38:40 PM
If there is a question of playing here then why would she be so perfect? The perfect woman would be totaly into you and would not be playing any 'hard to get' games. She really doesn't seem like she is into you as much as you are into her.
 longte

Joined: 10/18/2004
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:40:09 PM
Perfect woman would not be playing games

Very simple
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 RiotProvocateur

Joined: 8/28/2004
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:40:58 PM
Life is boring without a game to play every now and then.
 Wizard097

Joined: 3/29/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:47:16 PM
I agree..the perfect woman for you would not play you but just in case i may be mistaken, heres what I would do
You try: she pushes away...then she comes closer, you try again..and she pushes away...stop trying and look elsewhere..if she really wants you, she wont let you go to someone else
 _Steve_1976_

Joined: 4/5/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:54:54 PM
Yep, games suck ... well unless you are playing Monopoly
 jerryb1961

Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 5:55:37 PM

The perfect woman would be totaly into you and would not be playing any 'hard to get' games


God, why do all the women who make sense have to live so far away?

God hates me.
 jerryspringer

Joined: 3/5/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:02:25 PM
Food for thought: Has it become so often the "norm" to have people play games that we begin to think that it should be that way? Or deal with it the best we can?
 BReal

Joined: 3/15/2004
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:09:01 PM
Well...no...If I feel there is a game going on I disconnect. I would echo the same sentiments as most of the posters on the thread. I'm just not a chaser I guess and if that's the norm, I don't make it part of what is norm to me.
 memory maker

Joined: 1/12/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:13:06 PM
Simple. I don't deal with it at all. I refuse to play games, be tested, etc.. Life is too short for such drivel.
 escaping

Joined: 2/14/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 6:35:00 PM
Oh my...I feel you are being played. If she tells you that you are so special and is playing games...I would be extremely leary of her long-term intentions. Lay back for awhile and make her come to you...to get the full effect of her seriousness. Protect your heart first.
I wish you the best
 ian1980au

Joined: 4/28/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 7:08:19 PM

God, why do all the women who make sense have to live so far away?


I hear ya' buddy
 Bandito

Joined: 11/9/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2006 7:24:28 PM
Here we go with yet another hypothetical question that will not happen in my lifetime.....NEXT
 grease_munkay

Joined: 3/4/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 8:23:01 PM
Well guys sometime also have to learn to be alittle more obvious, cause sometimes we cant decifer what you are really saying. But then again playing hard to get always has worked good for me. Cause if you want that woman as bad as they want then they shouldnt stop from reaching want they want to reach.
 mjr150

Joined: 4/18/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 8:28:02 PM
grease_munkay: I would agree with you up to a certain age. After a while, men know when women are playing hard to get and they just go along with it.
 bigteddybear

Joined: 4/22/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 8:55:40 PM
If she were doing things like that, she wouldn't be the perfect woman for me.
 johnglc

Joined: 1/7/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 9:04:12 PM
I DON'T WASTE MY TIME on the hard to get game.Life's too short and it's a waste of time.
 rasonage

Joined: 5/13/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2006 9:04:32 PM
I waited a little over a year for the girl who I thought was "the one"... she ended up dating someone else... if a girl acts interested and plays hard to get for more than a week, don't wait... let her chase you or find someone else. Trust me, the wait is NOT worth it!
 knight rider

Joined: 4/16/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 9:10:57 PM
If she is the perfect woman, then she knows how I feel about playing games and
hard to get.

Now i'm all in for playing mutual games, like teasing and taunthing me, then making
me wait and such, but those are games we play amongs oursleves to keep life
interesting.

But when it comes to building a relations, better be no head games, better want a relationship for real!!

Knight Rider!
 rubydragon

Joined: 5/4/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 10:13:53 PM
First of all, does she know she is be viewed as the possible perfect women? Second, are you playing hard to get as well?I have a guy that is doing the same thing but I am responding in the same manner. We both push we both reel and someone has to let go. Sometime the ball is in his court and others it is in mine. Never the less, we both walk away and no one gets anything. No one want to be the vulnerable one. Is that your issue/hers or both?
 rubydragon

Joined: 5/4/2006
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Posted: 5/4/2006 10:17:29 PM
So what if the man is playing hard to get also? What are mixed signals about? I through them too but the guy should make the first move.
 jumper3000

Joined: 10/20/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2006 10:21:52 PM
Why should the guy make the first move?
 Bigger Guy

Joined: 10/3/2005
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Posted: 5/4/2006 10:42:31 PM
Well ... everyone plays games to a certain extent .... I find it more so with those who always say they are tired of the headgames ... without fail .. every time. However, in answer to the question ... playing hard to get has no useful purpose if the people feel they are compatable, let alone if they believe there is a possibility of a lasting relationship. If one doesn't feel comfortable with a committment, then the whole love feeling is obviously not mutual and it is time to move on. As far as the latter question of "why should the man have to make the first move?" .... indeed ... why?... In this day of equality and balances and all that crap, a lady, feeling the time has arrived or is imminent, has the ability and the opportunity to make the first move ... so why not take it?
In a relationship that seems to be moving in the compatable or permanent realm, no games are needed or should be even considered .... moving beyond that to the strange world of truth and honesty is where things should be .... or just move along.
You know ... even if its just a date friend .... a casual lover or "F" buddy .... openess and honesty are what is required, or move along.
So in answer to the how long to wait .... don't wait long or even better ... don't wait at all.
LIFE IS TO SHORT TO BE JERKED AROUND and YOUR FEELING ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT.
 xirath

Joined: 9/13/2005
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Posted: 5/5/2006 12:55:44 AM
Sounds to me, you like to be in control, the manipulator of the situation. Personally that would be far from the "perfect" woman for me, however every man is different and it is possible that this guy likes to be manipulated. If this is the case, keep doing what you are doing he will stay.

However I find it more likely that he doesn't like these things and would not put up with it for very long.

-Xir
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Posted: 5/5/2006 1:00:51 AM
I'm still waiting to see the "perfect" man/woman... could someone point me in the right direction?? Do I take a left down "headgames" alley, a right down "iliethereforeIcan" lane or should i just plant my ass in "hereforagoodtimenotalongtime" gutter???
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