| Why men wont date [Closed]
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:26:40 PM | | Explain to me why... women who are "independant" need to say that they are. What makes a girl independant? | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:41:09 PM | | An independent woman is one who does not need a man to satisfy her needs. One who is career oriented, happy about herself and her life, and knows her goals and where she is headed in life. As for why men would not date them, probably because it could be intimidating. I don't know....thats my view anyways. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:45:22 PM | Mister Ed's idea of an independent filly is:
- one who doesn't need to be joined at the hip 24x7
- who is able to occasionally go off and pursue her own interests and hobbies by herself (and let her stallion do the same)
- and who will not feel neglected or think this means Mister Ed doesn't love her | |
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kame
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Joined: 4/7/2006
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:46:56 PM | | Independant as in paying our own bills ,taking care of our needs,not depending on a man,as far as the need to say im independant, I dont have that need . | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:50:16 PM | | Sometimes I think it means "stuck in my own ways and not willing to compromise on anything". If that's the case, then next please! | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:51:50 PM | Ok, so if there isnt a need to fulfill a need then why pursue a relationship at all ?
Mr. Ed sonds like hes codependent... no one wants someone hanging off them...
Sooo.. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:56:54 PM | I see it this way: We look for someone because we might have a need. Or, a want. Or, just a curiosity. Could be a combo of two or three.
An independant woman might have priorities, such as making a career or otherwise getting her own life on track before looking to fulfill her needs/wants/desires in other ways.
BUT: Even an independant woman can be struck by lightening. If That person comes along - one can fall in love without warning. Beware!!!  | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:58:37 PM | | Whoa there, Dustin! How does this make Mister Ed co-dependent? Mister Ed does not want a filly who is so clingy and needy that she cannot be alone for any length of time. That sounds like the opposite of co-dependent. | |
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kame
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Joined: 4/7/2006
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:08:47 PM | | I am wondering in what context this applies in there are many facets of life (monetary, emotional, relationships etc to name a few) that both man and woman can be "independent" in. But anyone (man or who says they are truly completely independent, indeed, must be a super hero). we all have some chinks in our armour. Certainly I do... I am independant in some aspects (those critical to me eg monetary) but there are others that I could say I am not completely independant (this could be for a variety of reasons past experiences) but neither am I completely dependant I have found alternative ways to cope or compensate for them. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:09:03 PM | | sorry , hear ya.. My point was, that NO one wants to be in a co-depenent relationship. so Why is there the need for , well, alot of women to say " I pay my own bills, I can get through life with out a man - but .. I still want one around.. huh? To fix the porch steps? | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:19:19 PM | There's a big difference between need & want.I don't need a man to
complete my life but rather I want to find one to compliment & add to
my life as I want to be able to do the same for him.Can you understand
where I'm coming from or what I'm trying to get at? I don't think co-dependency
in anything is too healthy. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:23:37 PM | | an independant woman is by far the best kind thay dont need money a car a house all thay need is you and to me thats vary attractive | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:23:39 PM | ^^^^ I agree. It is a matter of choice for an independant woman. As for why guys would not date them?....
Well, I think that they do. But, only if the Indie agrees to it.
By the way, all independant females are Women - not Girls. Good choice of words, OP. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:28:49 PM | | No, I disagree that there is a big difference between wants and needs. The two seem to gray together. Guys are independent in that they work, pay their bills and obligations and want to find a woman that " can compiment and add to thier lives" also. I just dont see why someone who is so independent would want to pursue a meaningfull relationship where one feels that they cant be dependent on another for support | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:48:38 PM | I agree with MrEd... that is the type man I want too...
I was just talking to a friend of mine and he was saying how he couldn't see me with any "weak" man because I'm so independent. Yes I am very independent and work hard and I play hard. I'm single but I have a couple of men that I date and do stuff with but then they have their own lives so when I go off on my trips.. fishing... horse back riding... camping... then they can amuse themselves because they have their own lives.
I would be more than happy to give up some of my independence If I could ever find a man strong enough that I could respect and trust enough to let him help me. I do not like men who want to "do stuff for me" and in the back of their minds "expect" a part of me in return. No I'd rather do it myself if that is the case.
Another reason I have had a hard time finding Mr. Right is because alot of men I've met have NOTHING to contribute to my life. I have worked very hard to have what I have and keep it. Why would I want a man that would not have a problem grabbing ahold of my shirttail and leaving whatever he has or doesn't have. If a man does not have at least what I have then I do not see where we have much in common. If he is too lazy to work for what he wants then I surely do not want him. And a man that whines because he has nothing because of the ex.. because of this and that.. excuses for everything.. nope don't want that either. Also, what kind of man would give up his friends (if he has any) his home and just move in with me?? What does that say about him? Or what if he has nothing to give up. once again what do we have in common. As far as women who have the need to say they are independent to make a point. I have never had to explain myself to anyone, my friends, family and anyone else who meets me knows pretty quickly that I'm independent.
And for the record, I would like to have someone I could depend on to share the load at times. I'm not always happy to be so independent, I would like it very much to find a man to compliment MY LIFE and me do the same with him. If a man can't even light a pilot light... I don't want him!!! If he wants to sit on the couch and watch football while I'm mowing the yard.. nope... Being independent has it's draw backs, not that I'll ever change however. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/5/2006 12:01:39 AM | good point....
"men are good for two things and I can open my own jar lids"
If I have a good vibrator with plenty of batteries.. then I'll mow my own lawn. | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/5/2006 12:30:08 AM | Really, what is the point of a woman saying she is "independant" on here? She gets one of two responses:
a) She is a b!tch and doesn't NEED a man
or
b) (my fave) She must have got that way by taking her "ex" for everything.
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/5/2006 12:39:00 AM | sorry dont need a vibrator to do the lawn...lol i got a son for that job lol jk
but heck a lawnmower could be a good virbrator for some i guess also lmfaooo | |
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| Why men wont date independant women
Posted: 5/5/2006 12:41:08 AM | dang i am a b*tch lol and dont need a man..but would like him for cuddling
as for the x and taking everything...lol..darn rights..he messed up and i cleaned him up:)
lol | |
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