| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:37:42 PM | So....browsing women's profiles, one sees a great many who say they 'smoke
occasionally'.
What the heck does that -really- mean ?
Do the ladies post that because they are afraid to either admit that they
don't smoke because they might turn away a guy that smokes - or the
opposite - that they do smoke daily and would turn away a guy that is a
definite non-smoker ?
Does it mean they pursue that habit only every other month ?
Perhaps smoke like a chimney only during odd or even numbered months ?
They have just one after a very depressing event, like maybe a funeral ?
OR - when they are nervous, like on a meeting or a first date ?
When ever I find myself having emails with a woman that posts this, it is
a concern of mine to get her clarification on it right away, because if she
does smoke more than maybe one a year, it will be a real problem and
needs to be put right up front in the open IMO.
But back to my querulous query ->
I just can't picture this as being a valid measurement.
In my POV, either a person is a smoker, or they are not, very much like
the action of a light switch (no, not a dimmer !), either it is ON, or it is
OFF.
A person who smokes even highly irregularly is a smoker - just because it
is perfectly fine in their mind and life to pick up one of those things, ignite
it, and pull smoke into their body - just....like......any.....other......smoker !
By contrast, a person who maybe tried it once, and never again; or just
doesn't consider it OK to do, and doesn't do it at all - is a non-smoker.
This is not the same as having a glass of milk only now and then, or some
wine once in a while - because it is not harmless enough to compare.
OK, there is what I think - calling all flamers and smokers - it's open
season on me - door's open, c'mon in - help yourself to the match books !
Best Wishes,
mark* | |
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| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:45:32 PM | OK, so please don't be offended by my curiosity, OK ?
I would like to ask you in response to your post - just for a very approximate
guess at how often you find that you drink, and hence also smoke ?
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:47:08 PM | Um ...... people ..... um ...... exaggerate (both ways). My ex wife and me both smoked and managed to raise two girls as non smokers (smoking sucks)
I was talking to my ex wife a few weeks ago and we started talking about smoking. She said she was down to about 10 cigs a day. She was over here last week and for the 2 hours - smoked that many. Umm Ok ....
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| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:52:43 PM | i know LOTS o folks that smoke when
they drink
they go to 'functions' (party/ceremony/gathering)
usually once in a 6-12 week span
(depending on the season)
i take it that one whom smokes-EVER, is NOT one
who would 'appeal' to you OP-no?
so, what does it matter? | |
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| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 10:57:13 PM | Thanks for answering my curiosity !
Now please be patient while I try to wrap my mind around this idea....
I am trying to make some kind of valid comparison - and what comes to
me is the notion of vegetarianism - and the idea that maybe someone
could call themselves a vegetarian even though they had a large meal of
meats once a month - but abstained from it all the rest of the time...so
does that sound right, that someone who did that would still be calling
themselves a vegetarian, or does it sound more honest for someone who
did that to say they are a careful omnivore instead ?
Personally, if I were that person I would not feel comfortable saying I
was a vegetarian, and would be hesitant to say that to others in a
conversation or if I had to describe my eating on a web page someplace.
But that's just the way I think, and people all have their own ways.
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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| It matters because...
Posted: 5/7/2006 11:08:53 PM | Two reasons come right to mind:
The first being that of honesty - not only to oneself but also to those who
may be interested on sites like this one, and - because in a more personal
way I am amazed by the sheer number of emails I have gotten just in the
last few weeks from women that smoke or that say they smoke occasionally,
and it has made me think about the whole thing and become curious, so I
ask questions, and here I am...
You wrote:
"i take it that one whom smokes-EVER, is NOT one
who would 'appeal' to you OP-no?
so, what does it matter?"
I will apologize in advance for sharing 'my stuff', but the root of my answer
to you is simply that I cannot breathe smoke most of the time without an
immediate reaction from my body ranging from a mild asthmatic response
to triggering full blown bronchitis - so whether or not I 'like' it, or would
want to be with a smoker is not really something I can impress upon my
body when it gets ill from the stuff.
I have a very old and dear friend who smokes, and I dearly wish we could
just hang out together like we once did, but it is becoming more and more
difficult to spend time together as a result of this, and it saddens me.
I have no desire to strike out at folks that smoke - but instead to gain
an understanding of how they categorize their choices, because I have
never smoked, and have absolutely no clue about it from the inside...
Does any of that make sense ?
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 11:10:53 PM | ManOwaR:
I think thats what they call the Smoke while they drink people =) 
Now that is Hysterical!!!!!!!!
So...........What's a Social Drinker?
~sigh~ One who consumes Liquid only after their Skin puckers from the pinch test
for Dehydration? | |
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| Smoking occasionally - is this like breathing occasionally ?
Posted: 5/7/2006 11:14:15 PM | ~careful omnivore
~occasional smoker
purty much same thang-methinks
hey, the 'occasional' thang is an option on the profiles
i would guess that those who smoke-but,not DAILY
opt for this
(by and by, im *guessing ya thought the 'veggie' analogy would
'get ta moi'?)
well...POINT! it does
if ya eat zee body parts? ya aint no veggie
heehee
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| no aim on that one !
Posted: 5/7/2006 11:22:20 PM | Suckafish wrote:
"(by and by, im *guessing ya thought the 'veggie' analogy would
'get ta moi'?)"
No Ma'am, it was just what came to mind, so I shared it.
I will be glad if it did not offend you though.
OK:
"if ya eat zee body parts? ya aint no veggie"
Then, if a person sucks in the smoke, then they ARE a smoker,
by what you are saying, yes ?
I guess it perplexes me that the site even offers that description.
(As a sideways sort of comparison - how could a person be a part-
time virgin ?)(Either they is, or they ain't, right ?)
Best Wishes,
mark | |
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| no aim on that one !
Posted: 5/7/2006 11:32:33 PM | be glad,cuz...
of COURSE no 'offense'
i spose it may matter to SOME folks how 'often'
another smokes
some may NOT have a problem with one whom
has the OCCASIONAL smoke (OUT of their 'presense')
BUT-if one is a real chain smokin puffer
THAT may be the 'dealbreaker' for THEM
'part time VIRGIN'?
hee HEE
im guessin LOTS o da folks in THIS vortex could lay claim
to THAT one
(least accordin to some o da posts i have read)
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| no aim on that one !
Posted: 5/7/2006 11:43:17 PM | i've met three women off this site.. all had smoke occasionally listed on their profile... all smoked regularly... i'm sure these were exceptions and not the rule | |
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| no aim on that one !
Posted: 5/8/2006 1:18:11 AM | I smoke approx. once every 2 weeks. It only happens at work when the stress is giving me a migraine and I've burnt myself enought times to qualify as the food we are serving.
I know my profile says I don't smoke, but I smoke rarely/never, not occasionally. | |
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| no aim on that one !
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:33:10 AM | | yup... occasional smokers are rare... smoking is so addictive that it would be hard to leave it at a cig on those blue moons... | |
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| no aim on that one !
Posted: 5/8/2006 7:28:52 AM | | "Occasionally" means, not daily. Your next option is "often" so if its not daily, its not often. I wish I could be a social smoker but I can't. It's all or nothing for me. I do know a lot of truly occasional smokers. | |
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