| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 3:41:27 AM | OK.......so........I got some questions and I would really like some honest answers from woman who have dated younger men! I have been being pursued by a younger man for about two years now......Since the day that we both laid eyes on each other it was instant attraction...when we met each other I was dating someone else and couldn't or wouldn't go there.......but that relationship didn't work out and we have had the occasional fling from time to time.....and it has been absolutely amazing! Now this fella is very mature for his age...has a great career......has a child....and he takes his relationship with her very seriously....he's an awesome father! He has a great sense of humour and he's sexy as hell!
I have stated in my profile that I am not interested in dating younger men......and I have kept this fella at arms length.......only because of the age difference (about 9 years) BUT....we have been hanging out lately......and I am having those....flip flop thoughts.....and you know what I'm talking about ladies!!!!!!!!!!
People say all the time that age shouldn't make a difference.........but when it's right there in front of your face.......well.........it honestly does.........So........How do you go about it? Do you just throw caution to the wind and go for it...........please ladies.......anyone who has been through this.........I could use some advice............it's not a plunge I'm quite ready to take yet and I don't want to fool around with anyone emotions.......including my own! But....I have not been this attracted to anyone like this in a very very very long time. Stories and advice welcomed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:33:47 AM | | If you are that interested and attracted to him just tell him and see where it goes. I have actually dated some guys younger than myself. I felt like you do at first. My friends and my girls said that age shouldn't matter. They encouraged me to try it. I am not seriously dating anyone now, but it no longer bothers me about the age difference. If he is interested and so are you talk to him a little and see if you think it might work. Approach it the same way that you would with someone closer to your age. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 6:47:04 AM | | Yes, you just throw caution to the wind and go for it, thats what I did. I dont regret a moment of it either. I had two great years with a younger man, and it was fabulous!!!!! | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 12:30:10 PM | ok this is where I guess men get mixed up - your topic says how do you date a younger man?
Well part of the problem is how you think about "dating"... you are equating dating with "I wouldn't date anyone unless I could see getting married to them or being with them long term." Where most men don't have a problem making a distinction between "dating" and getting to know someone and then deciding whether they are long term or not.
imo you are missing out, because of these narrow parameters you have set yourself about who you will date and who you won't.
What's wrong with dating him and having some fun?
Does everyone you date have to be "the one"?
Maybe you just need to look at things differently. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 1:56:36 PM | | OMGGGGGG.....and here I was looking for an opinion from a woman.....lol.....Silly Me! Thanks Manofadventure.......I appreciate your input........now with that being said.......I am in no way shape or form ready nor do I want to get married........and if you read my profile you'll see a part that mentions a snail........getting to know someone and deciding wheater they are long term or not suits me just fine.......!! | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 2:15:03 PM | | I'd say go for it but make sure you both understand that you don't want a serious relationship. There's nothing worse than when one person falls head over heels for someone who thinks they are only in a FWB relationship. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 2:41:39 PM | | Hmm and like my daughter would say that "Dear Mary Letter will be on its way"no offence just my OP as you are very beautiful but its always the case sooner or later as we can always be replaced | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 5:40:04 PM | | I was married to a man 9 years younger ~ the love of my life. I had no idea that there was a lot to think about, it was just like meeting and falling in love with a man my own age. Hmmm ???? (And not ALL younger men leave ~ that is just a fear based opinion.) | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 5:51:11 PM | | Thanks verygreeneyez.......when I saw that "Dear Mary letter" response......I kind of did a step back.....lol.......but your right....it does sound like a fear based opinion! | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 9:40:16 PM | sounds more like a pain based memory... consider the messenger when considering the message - we speak only of what we know or have had impressed upon us... truth or false.
have good memories of a couple of relationships with women over 10yrs my senior...
your not a child and your not getting younger... live life to the fullest. Aloha.
Your mileage may vary... and its better to regret what you did that what you did not. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/8/2006 9:48:18 PM | | Have you too ever talked about children? My Mother dated a man 11 years younger then her for 18years, then he up and left one day for a chick who wanted kids. But other then that issue I can't see there being any problems! Have fun! I love young guys with enthusiasm! | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:23:51 AM | Good point Sam.......we are not getting any younger.....and I always try to live life to the fullest......why should this be any different! Gawd I love these forums  | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/9/2006 6:53:55 AM | I've been with women who were older than me, I always wanted to have an actual relationship, but they only wanted me for "you know "
but the age thing was probably an issue. 21/39 and 23/36 | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/9/2006 12:10:45 PM | | 9 years isn't that much. Younger, the same age, older it is all the same. Some will leave you, some you will leave until you find the one you want that also wants you. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/9/2006 12:12:14 PM | | I have only dated younger. Not because it is a concious choice, but because they are the ones asking. SOmetimes it works, sometimes it doesn't....jut like any realtionship. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/10/2006 1:03:32 AM | The real question should be "How do you date an older man"? Because older men have been more likely to have been badly damaged by prrevius relationships and have more emotional and financial baggage.
smarty pants
You have already said that
this fella is very mature for his age...has a great career......has a child....and he takes his relationship with her very seriously....he's an awesome father! He has a great sense of humour and he's sexy as hell!
Crikey girl.! How much MORRE do you want. Or are you just plain greedy. If he's really this good I'd jump him before (as in "before" not as in "in case" ) some other clued in girl does.. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/10/2006 1:49:50 AM | | i've almost always dated men younger than myself...and my opinion is simply this: if you like him, don't worry what society or your friends think of you, and don't be afraid of labels. if you're happy and enjoy being together, everyone else be damned...live life without compromises or fear. | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/10/2006 12:48:54 PM | I was engaged to a man that was 7 years younger than me - although we are now broken up - I miss him more than anything in the world - he was the best man I have ever been with. I won't say that some maturity issues didn't arrise, but all around, he was the best relationship I ever had. I ALMOST didn't date him - I remember asking him what he wanted with a woman that had a child, and a mortgage (baggage). I am glad I didn't discriminate due to age :)
sorry not the best written message - I am at work :) and in a hurry ..... just had to respond - don't let him slip away if the attraction is there! | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/11/2006 3:35:33 AM | Thanks to all that have responded so far.......the concensus seems to be that it's a "good thing" I guess I'm gonna throw caution to the wind and just see where this thing goes!...it's true it doesn't matter what the age differnce is........who knows what the hell can happen.....may turn out to be just a fling.........could turn out into something everlasting......I guess it really doesn't matter........cause if we knew the future in advance we'd all make the right choices (hmmm maybe) I'm just gonna take this one step at a time.....baby steps.....not put to much thought into it and have a blast!  | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/11/2006 11:43:32 AM | I thought I would just post right here because I am very attracted to women in their 30's. If anyone of you want to chat with me just message me.  | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/11/2006 12:33:29 PM | You got it woman....take everything one day at a time, don't matter if he's younger or older.
I'm living with my sweetie and he's 9yrs my jr...age has nothing to do with it.
Meeting Tower made me realize I spent years looking for a man of the ideal "age" not ideal person. I don't care if he's younger or older or by how much...it's the person inside.
Best to you hunny...*HUGZ*
~M.A~
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/11/2006 7:03:28 PM | | Umm ya, he's not YOUNG..he's 30! I was expecting you to be talking about an early 20's guy... | |
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| How do you Date a Younger Man?
Posted: 5/11/2006 8:14:21 PM | | Nine years sounds like a lot in a way, but really, he is 30 and isn't exactly a kid. When you really get down to it, it is almost more natural anyway for a younger guy and older woman. There's the libido issues, and if you ever did get married, there's a greater chance you'd be in a similar stage (healthwise, death, etc) in the twilight of your lives together that way as well. | |
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