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Posted: 5/8/2006 5:46:19 PM | | Is it really that hard to have a interracial intimate encounter in alabama? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2006 4:04:56 PM | WELL I JUST MOVED TO SPOKANE WA AND I LOVE ALL COLORS IM FROM DALLAS TX SO WHATS UP ALL YALL SEXY ASS BLACK MEN OUT THERE LOVE SOME MEXICAN AND WHITE GIRLS ..         | |
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Posted: 6/9/2006 1:04:42 AM | l think no matter what part of the world,
you go their will always be people staring at you ,,and making comments
if you where with someone of a different colour
me it doesnt bother me ,,l would go out with someone of a different colour | |
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Posted: 6/9/2006 9:59:57 PM | I was raised to know that black with black white with white. That is how I feel but that is not to say it is right or wrong. My best friend is a black guy and he is married to a mexican girl and they seem very happy. I may not approve of it but if it makes you happy who am I or anyone else to judge? Only God can judge and we will ALL have their day before God.
I just wanted to put my 2 cents in. Have a good night/day. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2006 3:26:00 PM | I believe tha it depends on the reason why you are doing it - if you truly care about this person - that is great .......if you are trying to be a spectacle - people see through that - and then it is looked down upon. I have a few friends in interracial marriages - and they have had no problems.
However, this are some very nice people who did it for love, not rebellion.
Myself, I love people from other countries - they have wonderful family oriented, loving cultures that I enjoy being around. | |
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Posted: 12/24/2006 7:30:08 AM | HI THERE~ I DON'T THINK IT IS ALL THAT HARD IF YOU ARE NOT EASILY AFFECTED BY SOME OF THE PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD AND THEIR PREDJUDICES. I AM AN AFRICAN-AMERICAN FEMALE AND I DATED A CAUCASIAN MALE FOR 2 YEARS...IT WAS WONDERFUL!!! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2007 7:36:04 PM | | I think it is. I grew up in california, and I was there for awhile, one of four black people in a school of 2200. And I still had a few boyfriends. After moving to Alabama, I found it is A LOT harder to meet a nice guy who will date me without stressing that im black, or a black guy who would date me because im not "southern(ignorant)". It's sad when white people act like you are unacceptable because of your skin color and black men act offended because you speak proper english and don't act a fool when you are in public. Im friends with everyone, regardless of race and I am proud to date that way too. If any of you are interested, look me up. LOL. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2007 10:23:28 PM | Friend,
Could it be your attitude rather than the guys (white or black) thinking about the skin or the proper way you talk? I know guys who are just tired of chasing and plain lonely, they could care less about skin color or proper english. Just wondering out loud.... Don't know what women check-out after they meet and greet the guys, but we (guys) usually check-out the girls attitudes. The last thing I want to date is someone with a bad attitude (white or black), I don't care how pretty she is. If that attitude stinks it's hard to deal with that for a long period of time...lol Now, as for interracial dating: Guess what? People are going to talk no matter what you do. It's called life...... | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 4:02:42 AM | Ain't for me and never has been, I think it is wrong, hey, you asked and I was born and raised in Chilton County! Clanton Alabama.
You don't do that there! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2007 10:35:27 AM | | Right or wrong I simply have no opinion on. I mostly feel the cultural differences are enough to keep me away from about any black woman I've known. I really can not see the attraction white women have for black men just because they are black men. That is sick in my opinion and I do not mean that as derogatory toward black men...more toward the white girls who seek out black men rather than an honest relationship. I have no problem with interracial dating but I do not understand the attraction simply based on race. I get upset when I see a black guy calling out white girls....looks like he is victimizing them to me. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 1:55:20 PM | | It's really a touchy subject with lots of people. As I said, it's not the skin color difference that I worry about. It's the fact that one has an attitude about the other solely based on race. For example, I got to know a very nice white cutie and asked her out....she was not interested because she boxed herself in and only dates black guys...that was racist to me and toward me. I can not say that I never will go out with a black woman but she would have to be culturally very similar for me to be interested. I don't see many like Aiesha Tyler. She has a great attitude and I would be drawn to her with no problem. Like many of us tho, we're still culturally bound and question our social acceptance in small towns. If I were to fall in love with a black woman then I'd just say the hell with it and let people think what they want. I'm a realist and can't see it ever happening but I also can't say that it won't happen. After all, my ancestors were native american as many of my friends have native american blood but we have assimilated into mainstream so called "white" society. There are several issues of racism that continue to separate people racially and I'm firmly convinced that position, recognition, politics, and money are the big things that drive this division of cultures and that there will always be something to separate people based on culture or race. I do recall how I had such a good feeling that all people in America seemed to come together and unify after the Iran hostage crisis. We've been driven further apart than we were before that by rabble rousers...and I'm not mentioning names here so that I'm not stirring up even more ill feelings. I'm just saying that there are a lot of politicians and other public figures who are self-serving and have no real interest in bringing peace between races. Without the division they would lose their cause and it is the cause that brings them big big big money, position, and power. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 9:49:17 AM | It's really a touchy subject with lots of people. As I said, it's not the skin color difference that I worry about. It's the fact that one has an attitude about the other solely based on race. For example, I got to know a very nice white cutie and asked her out....she was not interested because she boxed herself in and only dates black guys...that was racist to me and toward me. I can not say that I never will go out with a black woman but she would have to be culturally very similar for me to be interested. I don't see many like Aiesha Tyler. She has a great attitude and I would be drawn to her with no problem. Like many of us tho, we're still culturally bound and question our social acceptance in small towns. If I were to fall in love with a black woman then I'd just say the hell with it and let people think what they want. I'm a realist and can't see it ever happening but I also can't say that it won't happen. After all, my ancestors were native american as many of my friends have native american blood but we have assimilated into mainstream so called "white" society. There are several issues of racism that continue to separate people racially and I'm firmly convinced that position, recognition, politics, and money are the big things that drive this division of cultures and that there will always be something to separate people based on culture or race. I do recall how I had such a good feeling that all people in America seemed to come together and unify after the Iran hostage crisis. We've been driven further apart than we were before that by rabble rousers...and I'm not mentioning names here so that I'm not stirring up even more ill feelings. I'm just saying that there are a lot of politicians and other public figures who are self-serving and have no real interest in bringing peace between races. Without the division they would lose their cause and it is the cause that brings them big big big money, position, and power.
BamaBob you are correct that it is a touchy subject race politics and religion always fall along those lines but we are all entitled to our opinion however I do would like to offer you another perspective ...you talk about small town and the attitudes and tther he norm however dont have a small town mentality...I am a born and raised in Alabama been all over the world and have witness and took part in other cultures and dealt with many people of different races and found that men an women are innately the same and want the same things...
There are cultural difference between you and I not because of race because you live in north bama and I in the south not to mention you being a man and I a woman in Alabama that is a cultural difference all it's own...
I find it odd that you call the white cutie boxing herself in only because she dated black men and you felt that it was racist...that is no more racist than you liking blondes or brunettes, redheads,or someone who is short as apposed to being tall.... it is merely a preference...just like we all have our preferences when it comes to what we like or dislike so because she prefer black men she is a racist toward you ...so if I prefer white men over black does that make me a racist toward black men....dont confuse peoples preference with race merely because they prefer someone who is not of the same race
I see people for who they are not for the color of their skin personality and a wining smile gets my attention every time doesn't matter what color you are....well saw that blue guy the other day kinda scratching my head on that one lol
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Posted: 1/13/2008 12:16:48 AM | | Believe me, interracial dating will go on whether people like it or not, nothing will change that things call love. The more you try to stop it, the stronger it gets.... Frankly, I would rather my son or daughter bond or marry someone of another race, that has their life in order, than someone of my race who's always in conflict with the law. I would rather my daughter date a asian, white, or whoever, who treats her with respect than someone who beats her butt at the drop of a hat. Sometimes I think people priorities are all screwed up. Remember that Peterson guy who's wife is missing? You think her family is glad that she married a white guy? You think it matters to them now? I have a good friend who husband killed all three of her kids last yr in Montgomery. Do you think her family is glad that she married a blk guy? You think it matters now? What about the guy in south Alabama who threw his children off the bridge to their death. Do you think his wife's family is glad that she married a asian (at least I think he's asian)? You think it matters now? The right priority changes everything.... ....... Like others, I've traveled across the country, and world for the last 20 yrs, and the south is probably better than a place like Nebraska, or other places (believe me, I know). I can say that cause I grew up in Selma, and we all know what is "was" like. Yeah, things have changed beyond belief, but you wouldn't know that from the press of the people who have NEVER been in the city limits.. When all is said and done, If you find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated, hang on to them and try to do the same. Life is too short to live by the thoughts of others.... SHALOM | |
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Posted: 2/8/2008 12:56:44 AM | | This is a true statement, but just like you I don't care either. I think if you find love it does'nt matter what color you are, cause love is love and those looking in on color, are sad. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 4:25:13 PM | | Yeah, it is all true what all of us have said, but regardless we all still have the problem of living within our own mentality. I know that for myself all I want is to be happy and if it is being single then so be it. If it is being married that's okay too. As far as I'm concerned who or what she is does not matter if we become as one and happy together... | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 8:28:01 PM | I don't think it matters if she is black, white or blue. I would not mind dating a black woman if she has really good personality and can engage in good conversation. I would hope that she would have an opinion that is different than mine so would really have a educational debate. Terry | |
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Posted: 3/6/2008 9:05:58 PM | | No It Is Not Hard.Plenty Of People Who want Relationship And Race Doesnot Matter. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 3:11:50 PM |
I don't think it matters if she is black, white or blue. I would not mind dating a black woman if she has really good personality and can engage in good conversation.
Personally, if I was dating I would not care one bit, black, white, brown, yellow, or purple. But she would have to know how to use chopsticks properly or be willing to learn.  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 3:46:11 PM | | I have found that it depends on the person(s) involved . I was involved with someone here in alabama for 2 years only to find out that it wasnt to be ,because of (my) skin color. Im a black female , he s white . Ive dated another guy from another state ,my race / color never was an issue to him , we split up becasue of his job in the military . I just dont see where people get off being so judgemental about race /color here in alabama . In the year 2525 .. will anyone even care what color skin you are ? Hopefully not . the Human race might not even be here by that time . | |
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Posted: 11/14/2008 3:48:38 PM | Well I tell you what.
Good people are good people.
And they come in all sizes, shapes, colours, and I love them all (Platonic).... good people that is. 
Maybe some people should broaden their narrow views of what constitutes "good people", they may be happier.
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Posted: 12/28/2008 4:52:53 PM | | well in response to your question The truth is people don't wanta face it I mean the white man used to rape our foremothers so if they did it then u know they want it now right. It all goes back to the beg. people don't want to face reality love has no color even the most racist man or woman can't neither one of them tell me they haven't done it don't want to or doing it reality is a mutha. Me personally I love them all ther is one God and he made man+woman no white or black. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 5:40:12 PM | i hope i have done a good job with my sons teaching them to accept all races and creeds. at this very moment in my home there is my son who is white, his friend that is arabic, a black boy, a greek boy. last year i was chuckling. they were playing basketball and i was amazed at the diversity of the boys. there was a boy from iraq and one from lebanon, and a chinese fella. i told the boys we have a little house of nations! i am thrilled that my sons have such a diverse group of friends. i live in an area filled with lots of ethnic backgrounds!
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Posted: 1/1/2009 6:12:24 PM | In all honesty, I have dealt with more people who just won't talk to you.
I've met some really cool people, but it pales in comparison to all races on this site - that just seem incredibly stuck up.
As to race myself, back on topic, there isn't a conflict. Asian Caucasian African Mexican TunaCan, doesn't matter. I just don't have a race hang up. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2009 6:03:17 AM | ^^^^ darthmentos. i don't have racial hangups either. we are all born the same way (basically), and all put our pants on one leg at a time (unless you're sitting, lol). why do some feel they are better than others? hatred takes up too much head space and energy.
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Posted: 1/10/2009 10:00:36 AM | I couldn't agree more.
There are all kinds of folks, might as well get used to it. Skin color is as meaningless - you should be more worried about whether your new friend thinks ranch dressing is revolting or something along those lines. | |
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