| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/9/2006 1:51:31 PM | | it seems to me thta everyone that is interested in me or that i am interested in are like thousands of miles away. does anyone else have this problem? | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/9/2006 1:57:12 PM | i completly agree with you one hundred percent! the gent that gets a huge slice of my time is the other side of the ocean! we can always dream n maybe one day it'll come true!  | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:01:45 PM | | i am beginning tho think i should just give up on fidning my someone special. or let my kids pick the one for me. after all they do say the kids know who the right one is for you. i jsut wish some of the guys were closer to me. | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:15:35 PM | | never give up, he may even be your next patient! its still fun and completely harmless talking on here though at least the kids dont get hurt. plus it builds confidense which is somthing i know i lack, i work within care to, supporting adults with special needs i dont need a man to make me feel special my l;ittle lady and work does that for me, i know we miss those big strong arms around us and believe as i do mr right is out there somwhere!! xx | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:34:16 PM | It does seem that way. But in reality, it comes down to timing , and fate. We all have people, probably in our own communities, that we would be great with. They just don't happen to be on the same site (if at all), at the same time. But yet, we do run across others in different parts of the state, or the U.S., or even a different country, through these forums, that we may have a ton of things in common with. I've began to reach out to them. In my case, I can easily relocate if they can't, and finding the one special someone to live out life with, is that important to me. Best of luck to all of us, and to those chatting with someone you think or feel there is something there....stay with it. Time will ultimately tell.
This was a good string to start. Hadn't seen one before. Thanks | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 7:18:46 PM | drives me nuts... that is basically why I have given up on dating with regards to this site. I've not seen anyone that I'm interested in within my area... *sigh*
So far the most interesting person I've had a meaningful conversation with is in Ireland! | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 7:59:17 PM | | I can be anywhere in the US in a day by air or 4 days or less by road. Overseas travel takes longer but a week is reasonable. There are women nearby who would suit me perfectly. And there are women all around the world I would be as happy with. Geography is not a problem for me. | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:07:45 PM | | Nothing personal your too picky! I have noticed women that are far away and contact me are very picky. You want something, exact you have to travel or ahve it shipped. Thats why they make airplanes. I happen to be what picky women want for some reason! Partly why I am single picky women drive me nuts, the ones that aren't dull me! lol | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:48:37 PM | | I know exactly how you feel, I got the same problem. It's like everyone I connect with MUST live at least 100 miles away. It's irritating, for sure. Just do yourself a favour, and try to not get too involved until you're sure a meeting can be arranged, cause a lot of people are different in person than the way you think they are. | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:56:17 PM | Hmmmmmm yeah
But isnt that because you are on a dating site where half of the planet is looking for partners?
I mean, its not like going to your local pub or bar... | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:57:01 PM | | I think it has lots to do with our mentality than anything else. I am alway get along better with people online that are not located in the city I am reside in. In fact, most of my online friends or online crushes are from people oversea. When ever I chat with local people, I find my self having a tough time coming up with a conversation. Probably have lots to do with the fact that I am thinking that I am auditioning to someone one that I might have a chance with. Where as if the other person is from oversea, chance of me hooking up with that person is remote and I just be myself and not having to worry about what I say might turn the other person off. | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 10:08:03 PM | my first guy was so far away, he was in Afghanistan (military reasons) whilst I was in Canada! I met him while he was there, and we started talking because he grew up in my town. We had such fun chatting while he was there.
It's weird because when he came back he lived only a couple hours away from me, but then the magic just died, we lost interest in each other. Sometimes I wish he was still there lol.
Maybe the distance makes it more magical? It strengthens the connection some how...it stimulates the romantic aspect of it, y'know? | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/13/2006 10:13:15 PM | Funny this thread should be here right now.lol.That's what I'm wondering at this very moment.I was here only for the forums,then I talk to this really awesome guy online and like him in an instant, but guess what........ he is too far away.So its impossible anyway.I just should stop thinking about him and move on.Life is so unfair!  | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:10:11 AM | | Some are, some are not..Seems the closer they are, the shyer they get...I have noticed some really cool guys farther away, all I do is compliment their profile, really can not do any distance unless it involved relocation eventually.... | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:30:08 AM | | Dont know why this happens! It is funny though, in a murphy's law sort of way. You meet someone online and you think they are amazing and then you realize there is that distance between you that just makes it seem like it is too much of an obstacle. Although if you keep up a good relationship online there is no reason that it wont lead to future meeting. It just means more planning than meeting up for a coffee! | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:39:01 AM | Because most people are farther than closer. Of the set of people that click with you, statistically, they will be part of that population. People forget what a very small percentage of the world lives nearby. The POF membership of your city is a fraction of the worldwide POF membership. You need to search more exclusively closer to home. Ideally, a dating service has all the people who are looking, using its service. The problem is that not enough of the people near you are using POF.
If you're the conspiracy theorist type, a dating service may be deliberately hiding compatible nearby people to keep you using the service more frequently. Match.com was accused of this, I believe. The ideal sting is to report most of the compatibles in the second or third town away; close enough to keep you interested, far enough to prevent you from practically hitting it off anytime soon. This is always a possibility in a service that a) they all behave alike and b) have something else besides your lovelife as a priority. For example, bars... they all exist to sell alcohol, and do their best to keep you single (like playing deafening music so that you can't talk to anyone. Of course, this works for them since it doesn't interfere at all with your ability to drink). | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/14/2006 3:34:22 AM | The fact that terminallycute can't be everywhere at once is indeed sad......
Same here, all the good ones seem to be in Canada...... | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 5/14/2006 9:41:56 AM | | well travelor227 first of al i am not that picky all i ask from a man is to be faithful loving caring honest and accepting of my kids and i. now that is not to much to ask from anyone. and i dont go to bars at all i dont drink i used to but i have found that picking up guys in a bar or anyplace that is similar to a bar is no good and nothign but trouble. | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 7/10/2007 12:49:57 AM | I know exactly what you mean. I've met a lot of people online who are going through much the same issues as me, and talking together we become great friends and wish we were living in the same city. But that's never the case.
I have Epilepsy and can't find one single person in town who can focus on my personality. A lot of married women in my church have said I'm the nicest guy they've ever met, that if they weren't already married, they'd be dating me. But as for single women in my church, the fact that I can't drive due to Epilepsy is the biggest killer, marking me as a loser.
Maybe it depends on your definition of a "good one".
What exactly do you expect one to have?
A House, Car, Job, Money for Vacations, etc?
How about Love? | |
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| why are all the good ones so far away?
Posted: 7/10/2007 1:32:01 AM | | I always have this problem and probably always will. I guess I'm the one who's too far away. But oh well, the alternative is moving and it's just not worth it. | |
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