| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 10:23:33 AM | This is by no means a proposal or a desperate search for a husband. LOL
MEN .... I'm just curious! Are any of you on here SERIOUSLY looking for a long term relationship with hopes of it leading to marriage?
I'm asking because it seems all of the men (in my past online dating experiences) that say they are looking for "long term" relationships really means "try and sleep with you until someone else better comes along". LOL | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 11:12:20 AM | I highly doubt any man will admit to not wanting to "try and sleep with you until someone else better comes along." 
Look at it this way... MOST people approach relationships very cautiously and as a casual thing. If in time it turns to something serious then it would have been long term and perhaps they will have thought about marriage. If not... don't sweat it.
Why jump directly to the 1 year mark when it's more fun taking the time to get there? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 11:47:14 AM | | I would like to be married again someday. But really what's most important is finding and being with that one woman who is worthy of such thoughts. Whether we actually got married or not is incidental. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 11:51:51 AM | | I am, but I am also not looking for the magic to happen over night or in a day or within 3-4 dates -- I find a lot of women, where they might be impressed with me or my way of thinking or old-fashion values, where they just wanna jump the gun. I don't care if the girl is everything I ever wanted in a woman, no way no how will I just do it ( marriage of course ) lol | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 2:10:03 PM | I can give you why I haven't (cannot speak for other males on the subject) It is a combination of things for me. I am 40, nearing 41 this summer. Never married. no kids. For the most part it is I know what I want and I will not compromise on it. I am looking for someone who can match me in intelligence, libido, be into SCA/renaissance re-enacting, and the alternative lifestyles. The other problem (for me) is faith based. I follow the olde brehon laws which state the lass has to make the first move NO EXCEPTIONS. Hence I dont date much.
**SHRUG** Guess I am overly weird. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:01:02 PM | Leaf Chick
The men who say they are looking for long term relatinships are not kidding. They are .
More accurrately they are NOT looking for a seven year marriage to some shallow chick who dumps them and takes them to the cleaners and leave them destitiute.
Chicks might think that seven years is long term Men do not.
Leaf Chick. Before you post any more to here check out the DIDs Dads in Distress web site in Australia. Browse it throughology. Get soem ida of the damage that divorce does to men and then you will be surprised that any man at all over 35 are still looking. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:05:27 PM | | I thank you for your honesty and of course it won't happen overnight. I was just curious if men over 35 that were on a dating site were thinking of hopefully finding that special person or just playing around. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:13:04 PM | Hi diggy03,
I hear you about most men won't be upfront about not wanting to sleep with the girl but don't you find it really sad that some men/people over 35 don't know what they want. They feel the need to feed women (or women doing it to men) a ton of lies about what they want only to find out 3 months into dating (after he told me he couldn't wait to settle down and even thought about moving in together) that the don't want to be in anything committed (or even married again for that matter) (isn't moving in together taking that "committed" step!!!) LOL.
I guess at my age (soon to be 40) has done the whole 1 nighters, dating 2 & 3 guys at a time, telling people what I think they want to hear. I think I'm gonna be single forever and I'm totally cool with that but I won't settle for someone that won't respect me or be upfront and honest.
Taking the time - slow and steady is great but too much of a risk now a days "having fun" with too many people. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:24:54 PM | WOW ... did I hit a nerve or what!! I was simply asking a question and that is all. I take it some women took you to the cleaners.
For your information BEFORE YOU JUMP THE GUN HERE.
I come from a family where there is divorce (in some cases the men got cutody and the women got shafted) and in some cases the men don't deserve to be 10 feet from their children after beating the hell out of the kids mother. I have a friend who I fought like hell for him to keep his child .. went to court and did everything I could do (and he got his son).
So, please before you tell me what you think I should be viewing on the web you might want to re-read my question again. Where in my OP did I say anything about divorce (as crazy as you might think it is not all men over 35 have been married or have children). And if they are divorced not all men get got shafted by their ex's. There is such a thing as resolution for the sake of their kids that need both parents.
If your so upset over a women that has done the nasty to you... take it up with her not me or are you simply bashing all women here? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:30:37 PM | Dustinjames,
"seven year is long term Men do not." I thought I was the only one who thought that...
Curious, so how long is long term to you.. 30, 40, 50 years? And here I was thinking long term was more than a year. I guess I don't understand men after all.
Think I better stay single. I wouldn't want some man up and walking out on me after 4 years saying we were just friends that dated. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:35:12 PM | | LOL.. hell I'm thinking about either becoming a nun or a lesbian (or both) LOL. I'm sure I couldn't do any worse. This whole trying to figure out what a man wants/doesn't want/what he really means when he tells you something. Frankly trying to get a grasp on it all is hurting my brain!!! HEHEHE | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:39:54 PM | sparticuss,
"The men who say they are looking for long term relatinships are not kidding. They are."
One question for you: Then why do I have so many female friends on online dating sites telling me a different story. Seems of the 8 of us... all met men that were looking for long term and yet all they wanted was "SEX".
THAT is why I asked the original question! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:41:31 PM | Guess I'll have to take that as a "no".
Yeah but hey thanks for the offer. At least you didn't bash me for all the dirty crap your ex's have done to you. Thanks for that! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:47:27 PM | Fer freakin' sakes... SEX is and can be just for now. Long term means I want to have sex with you now and in 1 yr, 2yrs, 3yrs more... It gets a way better over time and practice :)
Really,really :) | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:54:10 PM | I'm confused!! I'm not sure what part of my message or OP talked about someone getting laid.. or divorce/kids etc.
Your reply to Mr. Australia (now I know what I don't get along with my cousin that lives in Queensland .. she jumps to gun and puts words into peoples mouths too)
Anyway, you said you didn't consider 7 years long term. I never said anything about sex? Or if it was good year 1,2 or 90!!! Sex is great and I have no problems with people who are online looking for just that. Although I do take issue with people who are married but looking for action on the side. I have a problem with men telling a woman they want to be in a committed relationship and then say .. hmm sorry I lied!!
I asked you what you considered LONG TERM... if 7 didn't do it for you.... what is the magic # for U? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 9:02:01 PM | Looks like I exposed leaf chick to more hard reality than she could handle when I wipped the curtain from in front of her eyes.
Leaf chick
The eight men your girlfriends dated did want sex
- and soulmates
- and love
- and care
- and commitment
But there's some sort of selective filter in the female brain that filters all of these other things out.
If a man wants sex then the female brain detects that the ONLY thing he wants is sex.
Leaf Chick. Have you checked out the Dads in Distress site yet. I'm serious. I dont want to go lugging the stuff over there into a dating site but it's important that you know where you are really coming from. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 9:08:47 PM | "One question for you: Then why do I have so many female friends on online dating sites telling me a different story. Seems of the 8 of us... all met men that were looking for long term and yet all they wanted was "SEX"."
^^^ Thats what I was refering to
Long term... well... Its a long time... What about life?
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 5/10/2006 9:59:08 PM | | Some giuys here are probably playing around. I for one am not. I am pretty frank about myself on my profile (heck I did try to make it humorous!) , but I am looking for the long term. for myself that is simply.....eternity. | |
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