| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/10/2006 11:31:46 PM | I just wanted to put this down. I have seen so many of these things foing on and whats worse is that many people try to justify it. Instead of seeing a person for who they truly are and getting to know them that way, so many people men and women are so focused on stuff that should not be focused on. I feel for anyone that has dealt with this stuff and just can't understand why so many people go on with it and regardless of the pain and emotional and mental trauma it can cause to others they still only fosuc on themselves wey to much and don't seem to care about what truly matters and it seems that values and reason are repidly disappearing and people just don't care about how others feel and they don't put themselves in their shoes.
I have seen people turned down , for race reasons, height, breast size, baldness, along with other things that people have NO control over. I must say that it bothers me alot and i always am willing to help people who are on the receiving end of that.
I frankly am tired of that stuff and all the hurt that it causes . Does anyone feel the same way, that this is getting WAY out of control and is ridiculous.? | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/10/2006 11:57:49 PM | yeah i agree to a degree, I also have preferences , but i am talking about when it becomes a requirement and someone will not be willing to overlook something if you don't have this or that. I mean I know and i have read MANY GREAT profiles my men and women on here and it is a shame that they get passed over and peopel don't want to get to know them JUST BECAUSE OF SOMETHING THAT IS TRIVIAL. There is so much a person can give and offer, but what is not good is when they are not given the chance to show it to others just because of how they may appear on the outside.
If you'd ask me it is a crime. I would feel liek an idiot if i judge soemone over they have no control over like colour, size of breast, auality and qaunity of head hair or physically disabled in anyway, evenm mentally disabled. You know thats just not me. I just know in my heart that thats wrong. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/11/2006 12:26:06 AM | I'm sorry just want to corect spelling from my above post
"I would feel like an idiot if I judged someone over something they have no control over like colour, size of breast, quality and quantity of head hair, or physically disabled in anyway, even mentally disabled."
I was rushing I admit LOL emotions can make people type faster and make mistakes lol. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/11/2006 6:42:18 AM | Well imagine living in a small country where the only thing that amuses people is saying things, most of the time nasty, about others!
I've been fed up long ago with this ignorant way of life so that is why today I really don't give a damn. I believe in one particular excellent guide to live a good life - Live & let live!
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/11/2006 8:10:40 AM | | Only those who are enlightned do not judge. We all judge. The reason is simple. We all have a need to beleive that the choices we have made are "correct" When we see people espousing the benefits of choices we have not made our ego flares up and we lash out. Simple animal nature. We put others down to prop ourselves up. The funny thing is...it is not a contest and nobody is "correct" Sayingthis and even intellectually realizing it are easy. Walking its path is another story. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/11/2006 9:29:14 AM | | Please shut up. Everyone judges everyone its nothing new so why even sayany thing. If you were put in a situation where you met a "nice guy" or "nice girl" and he/she was perfect but looked fugly then what would you say? Girls/shemales are naturally superficial and guys on POF are dumb as bricks becsaue they will respond to any profile as long as it says female. I mean comon people!! This site is a joke and these profiles are a bigger joke. So enough with this bullshit about judging others becsaue POF is a palce where judging others is the law of the land. YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME? All of this is random. You never know who you will run into on POF. this is why I say its all B.S. Becsaue guys on here set their aspirations high and these girls and "fake profile girls" laugh at people like you just to shut you down like the loser you are. Not only you but me and every other lonley guy who is trying to catch a fish in a water of lies, deciet, and sillyness. In the end we are all loser to this game. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/11/2006 2:02:13 PM |
Please shut up. Everyone judges everyone its nothing new so why even sayany thing. If you were put in a situation where you met a "nice guy" or "nice girl" and he/she was perfect but looked fugly then what would you say? Girls/shemales are naturally superficial and guys on POF are dumb as bricks becsaue they will respond to any profile as long as it says female. I mean comon people!! This site is a joke and these profiles are a bigger joke. So enough with this bullshit about judging others becsaue POF is a palce where judging others is the law of the land. YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME? All of this is random. You never know who you will run into on POF. this is why I say its all B.S. Becsaue guys on here set their aspirations high and these girls and "fake profile girls" laugh at people like you just to shut you down like the loser you are. Not only you but me and every other lonley guy who is trying to catch a fish in a water of lies, deciet, and sillyness. In the end we are all loser to this game.
I won't get into this , but I personally don't know if this was called for. There are many people that are down and just don't need these types of comments.
I was just speaking what I felt needed to be said. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/12/2006 3:39:26 AM |
I won't get into this , but I personally don't know if this was called for. There are many people that are down and just don't need these types of comments.
I was just speaking what I felt needed to be said.
No, don't take what I said the wrong way. I'm not trying to bring down anyone. I'm just stating a truth that is out there. Maybe I let my emotions get the best of me when I wrote that. But most guys on here that have been rejected in life know that it was because of the way that they looked (90% of time). The comment about “shut up” is a call out to everyone lol. My point was that you state that judgmental and superficialities sucks and I agree with you. However we all know that being superficial in most girls/shemales is human nature and guys have to deal with that in their own way. Speak your mind, I agree with what you have to say it just gets me ticked off when people say these things and yet at some point they still judge. Also don't take this the wrong way, but your an attractive guy (I say that with a staunch record of heterosexuality) that I know most girls would like (physically, I'm not sure how you entire bod looks) so to me it seems odd that someone like you would post something like this because it would seem to me that you should have no problem getting girls from a physical point of view. Then again I don't know your whole story but ugly guys like myself have to face the facts that we are going to be alone for a long time due to the superficialities and whatnot that is in our society.
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 6/13/2006 7:04:40 AM | | Why are you calling yourself ugly for me i prefer a guy to have a good personitiy you treat someone bad u look bad you treat them good you look good but maybe i read your whole thing wrong but for me i dont care if they like me they like me if they dont they dont all they have to do is leave me alone if they dont wanna be bothered with me or get to know who i am There there the ones who think i got a hot body some can be a player and just use that as a line to get the panties been there done that but guys i got feelings just like you I get kids too BUt i dont have a problem getting guys and like your saying you dont have a problem getting girls so what the whole deal you dont have to worry ever being alone for a long time where did that come from I have seen some ugly guys with pretty women and handsome men with ugly woment so it goes both ways | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 7/25/2006 7:58:29 PM | Well I'm just a shallow, dumb-as-a-brick guy, ....to quote an earlier poster here....
Someone unable to run both my head and my****at the same time - insufficient blood!
But, on the other hand, like the base animal I am, I know what I like, what I'm attracted to, and what's good for me. >
WTF... I make judgements (when my brain has enough blood that is).
It's what human beings are designed to DO.
Notice that's spelled --> human <-- beings, not humane beings.
You want humane - head to a Church, Synagogue or {maybe? - currently unsure} a Mosque,
---------this myfriend is the real world.
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 8/5/2006 4:54:55 AM | ^^^ ...You always tickle me with your posts & your honesty.BUT!...
I'll bet there was that one time you wanted to chew your own arm off to get away!.
OT-I've seen people turned down for all reasons but it comes down to
preference.We all have them.Are they shallow & superficial? That's anyone's
guess.I don't think it's out of control,just more people speaking up on what
they're looking for & no I don't think that is ridiculous. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 8/16/2006 2:56:07 PM | ^^^^Yeah thats your opinion I guesse. Buth the reality still remains, that these sorts of things cause problems to people and cause alot of hurt and pain to many. We can use more reason and logic when judging others. It depends what we judge them over offcourse, but if it's over soemthing trivial or superficial then there is no excuse for that, plain and simple.
So depending on the reason for the turn down, it is shallow and yes it also is ridiculous.
By the way.....How did my thread appear on these "Delaware threads" ???? lol | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:32:50 AM | I have come to learn that most people are out just to see what they can get
from another person. Not really interested in making true friendships
or relationships. I do believe many years ago it was different in terms
of the way people met each other and therefore, took more time to
really get to know the person. The trouble one day that all these people
who have used others, or played "the game", just might end up on a
park bench all alone! Generally, life in itself will correct the situation. | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:12:39 PM | It's not just looks people judge you on. What about income/career vs just a job? To me this is the same thing as judging a person on their looks. So am I to be with a man who makes all this money and he is a jerk? No way!! Just as looks should not be all that important nor is his job/career important to me. I value how he treats me and others. I value his morals, character and ability to accept others who are different than he is. I gravitate to a kind heart, no matter who it is.  | |
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 2/18/2008 1:32:01 PM | No . After all the world is pretty shallow and superficial. Who isn't until you get to know someone? How do you get to know them if you're not at first physically attracted to them. It's an instinct. I don't think there's any way around it. That's why they sell combs, mirrors, makeup and gym memberships. Everyone tries to maximize their "market value", which includes looks and personal groominig. Lets be honest people.
I consider myself to be somewhat attractive and I date pretty often. However, when I was younger and had a major weight problem (weighed over 300lbs) I couldn't get a date if my life depended upon it. Also, now that I've gotten my look together to some extent, I haven't dated one woman who I was unattracted to or weighed more than I do. Who here could say much different?
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| Does anyone else feel fet up with superficial and shallow judging of others?
Posted: 11/4/2008 11:33:20 AM | People are pre disposed on what attracts themselves to a person on a physical side. This is why we are created in multiple shapes, sizes, and colors. As for personality, same goes for most personality traits.
I dated a girl for 6 months that was a very mean person to people close to her but nice to business/strangers. It was just her and I got fed up with it and left her. I was not going to analyzer her or try to change her.
If it bothers you so much maybe you should go speak to someone about it. There is nothing wrong with seeking advise. But if you dwell on these types of things you are only going to hurt yourself in the long run. It is not worth it. | |
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