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Posted: 2/17/2005 2:30:05 AM | Is it mid-life crisis when for the first time I think I would prefer dating a woman 10+ years younger than me? I certainly do not look nor feel my chronological age, and I am often told I look some 10 years younger than I actually am. The problem is that many women feel uncomfortable with such an age difference. I think there is a stigma attached to being an older guy in a dating scenario.
However, I think of it is a nice opportunity for a younger woman to gain the benefit of meeting someone with wider experiences, the wisdom, culture and education that comes with being a little older. This does not seem so wierd to me!
Age is not so much a factor of when you were born, but who you are...and to some degree how you appear. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 8:10:48 AM | | Odd, I attract younger women. Any where from 19 - 26. Mainly about 24 years old. The problem with them is they want mcDonalds for dinner. Culture to them is going to a rap concert. I would prefer a woman more between the ages of 28 - 38. They know what they want. If I date a 24 year old it would only be for one thing and it isn't to hard to go to a local club and get that if need be. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 8:51:59 AM | | Older women and younger men - I have to agree with tryingthisonce - that there is no need to try to date someone younger than 25-26 because I have to tell ya, it's not worth it! Young Ladies, 25-and under it appears in my little experiance, are still wanting to have their cake and eat it too". I am finally at the point in my life where I want to settle down and take a look at finding the "one".... Everytime I date a younger woman <24 they seem to still want to go "clubbing" and constant party - is there any woman out there that really knows what she wants? I mean sh!t - I'd love to be with someone within 2-3 years of my age, but typically it's not going to work. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 6:44:54 PM | I've dated women as much as 12 years older and as much as 29 years younger. I'm currently dating a girl who is 21 (I'm 50) and we always have a fantastic time together. Mental maturity varies and some women are quite mature even at 21. I think one factor is whether or not she has children. Having children can add a lot of maturity in a hurry. Sure there are times when her lack of experience shows. But so what...that relationship dynamic is part of what makes the relationship so nice for both of us.
Some people (I've found especially women) seem to get all bent out of shape that I am dating someone that could be my daughter's age (If I had a daughter). But neither one of us gives a rats a** about that. Life is short, and there is no shortage pain. If you find something legal that makes you happy, you are just stupid if you pass it by.  | |
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Posted: 2/21/2005 9:58:59 PM | *ahem*
Being a voice for the ladies...
I am 22 and quite honestly, I prefer dating men at least 10 years older than myself. I know what I want and where I'd like to be. Personally, I do not need someone as unsure about their future as most young men are. I think there are many young women like myself who feel the same way. And! Of course you'll only meet the < 25 y/o ladies without the maturity that you're looking for if you meet her at a club. I suggest the library...I know that's where I spend a good chunk of my time... | |
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Posted: 2/24/2005 7:54:44 PM | | It is nice to hear about some younger women that prefer older men.. but the hard part is the older guy divorced with a child full time.. Not the best of lines.. and Clubs, those are long past.. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2005 8:28:06 PM | I vote for older woman, younger guys myself :)
....but only because at my age, older men are in nursing homes already | |
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Posted: 2/24/2005 8:35:33 PM | | A very good point, though you are not "old" in the least.. Ive always lived by the old as you feel.. of course still being in my mid-20's does have its downfalls | |
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Posted: 2/25/2005 1:51:02 PM | Good question. From personal experience I used to date around 18-23 for many years, then as of late I have found myself attracted to women 33-42 (I'm 30 btw). I can't explain it though I have given it some thought. I never really considered older women a viable romantic option before. To be honest, I think I have been influenced by a lot of movies that portray women out of their 20's as 'over the hill' physically. When I found myself involved with a mother of two and 36 years old, I was pleasantly suprised. Her body was just fine and there was more depth to her personality than the age group I usually dated.
I discovered, for the first time really, that women can be........*gasp* deep!
Not only that, but women seem to enjoy sex more as they get older. Younger women are often under the impression that sex is a task expected of them, something to be endured rather than enjoyed. Older women are MUCH more confidant and secure in their sexuality, opinions and beliefs.
There are several reasons, in my humble opinion, why the woman should be older:
Women live longer than men by an average of 7 years.
Men peak much sooner sexually than women (18 vs 35)
Men are better protecters if they are closer to their prime.
Women age more gracefully than men in most cases. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2005 1:53:15 PM | As a guy who dates younger women all the time I must agree with you.I enjoy helping younger people to avoid some of the mistakes I have made.I am constantly criticized for my taste in women.The fact is I am not looking for a wife and kids I just want to enjoy somebodies company.I find that when I date anyone over 25 they are looking to get serious.Then I end up hurting them and that sucks.
Tom | |
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Posted: 2/27/2005 3:21:26 PM | "Good question. From personal experience I used to date around 18-23 for many years, then as of late I have found myself attracted to women 33-42 (I'm 30 btw)"
All done playing with the cheerleaders, huh?
;o) come on over here and sit by me  | |
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Posted: 2/27/2005 7:27:35 PM | 'Hey Baby.....'
I suppose I could put away the cheerleaders for awhile, just dont ask me to totally give up those short little skirts....Mmmmm | |
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Posted: 3/3/2005 7:23:34 AM | a 10 year gap really isn't all that bad, i would have to agree with you that age is not only chronologial/anatomical but rather to a high degree psychological. I know a number of people who are in their late 20's who are probably on the same page as alot of 40 year olds.
Is there a stigma attached to it? Yes and no, i think that there are limits to the age gap as we've all see from time to time (65 year old guy going out with a 19 year old). But i think after you pass a certain threshold, we all become rational adults who can select who they wish to be with. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2005 7:25:23 AM | a 10 year gap really isn't all that bad, i would have to agree with you that age is not only chronologial/anatomical but rather to a high degree psychological. I know a number of people who are in their late 20's who are probably on the same page as alot of 40 year olds.
Is there a stigma attached to it? Yes and no, i think that there are limits to the age gap as we've all see from time to time (65 year old guy going out with a 19 year old). But i think after you pass a certain threshold, we all become rational adults who can select who they wish to be with. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2005 12:16:58 PM | Why is this culture so hung up on AGE or the chronological number attached to ones life be it that of a man or woman?
If two individuals enjoys each others company within the prameters accepted and understood by each person involved in a FRIENDSHIP, or RELATIONSHIP, it should be of no concern to anyone else.
There is a real distinction between the two quantities.
If an individual has an agenda to take any sort of advantage of either a mature or younger person, male or female, in any fashion, that is absolutely unacceptable, objectionable.
Specifically, as long as an individual male or female has reached the so called age of consent, or the legal age, whatever it may be, (and I am not speaking about the holy grail of sex,) it is nobody's business if two such persons find it a natural thing to associate, and be accepted by each other, with an age difference, no matter what it may be.
As long as someone is mentally competent, of legal age, and accepting of another person as they are, that is their business. As long as no laws are being broken, that is their business.
Should I refuse to associate with someone simply because they are in a wheel chair due to an illness, because they walk with a cane, with crutches, because their hair is gray, because they cannot walk as quickly as I can, because they have a weathered or wrinkled face, because they are older than me, because I am younger than they? What are the limits of friendships? Why all the artificial bounderies and walls?
How many individuals who do not belong in them, are in those warehouses, established by society, otherwise known as "nursing homes," simply because their "younger" family members could not be so bothered, because they were "over the hill," because someone had property or money avariciously desired by a younger family member, or family members who then split the proceeds? How many persons are tricked and forced into those warehouses?
The answer is far too many across this land.
Everyone needs to seriously consider the realities and differencies of FRIENDSHIPS versus INTIMATE or PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS, and yes, I absolutely PERSONALLY believe, and celebrate the reality that there can be both between legally mature individuals of different sexes and ages without any hidden agendas on anyones part. ( It should really be unnecessary to make this statement about hidden agendas.)
As a youngster I had interactions with mature or older women and I remember with happiness the joys of association with those women. Yes I had emotional crushes on mature women also, whom I saw, and of course with my female contemporaries whom I knew, and in the case of so called "older women" they remained just that, "crushes."
I remember with unabated joy and celebrate those wonderful ladies whom I had the gift of knowing.
It is first and foremost INAPPROPRIATE, and illegal for adults to associate in questionable situations with CHILDREN.
Adults who seek to, and do evil to all children, are both mentally ill and criminals and should be accordingly treated.
It is entirely different when CONSENTING ADULTS and absolutely only CONSENTING ADULTS associate in friendships and relationships.
I tire of the banality, mockery and insults hurled by so many individuals concerning the ages of others. Each of us need to remember that: "if we live long lives" we shall also "all be older, and aged."
From an early age, in my very early teens, in my mind I had rejected the artificial boundries and barriers erected for superficial reasons. I also rejected from a very early age, without even understanding the reasons, the superficiality of the "SEVENTEEN AND SUPER MODEL SYNDROMES" and I shall continue to do so. It is just a natural thing for me.
How many men and women are so very lonely in this society based only on the fact that they are PARIAHS, OUTCASTS, based entirely on their AGEs, gray hair, wrinkles, baldness and other factors of maturation only? I do not speak of unkempt dirty or untidy individuals who mostly have been so all their adult lives and obviously wish to be so. I am speaking of persons who are hygienic, clean and take care of themselves.
While writing, I now remember a mature and very handsome woman who had invited me to go and live with her in the Canary Islands, she was relocating for retirement there. We knew each other from simming at the Y, and from having had many conversations, from having sat together and having a coffe or soda. She was many years my senior yet it did not seem outlandish, outrageous or strange that she had invited me to come and live with her.
There was never any intimacy between us other than our ordinary conversations, and while we more than likely may have shaken hands, we had never "held hands." Should I have been afraid, apalled and run away from her because of her invitation? Because she was an "older woman?" It was, then and now, the most natural thing in the world to me. A normal event with someone whom I had known for a period of time. I remember that grand lady with fondness now, and also happily the fact that we had been able to converse and discuss so many things. I was relatively well read at that early age. I feel honored that she had extended such an invitation to me and fondly remember her.
Is there anything wrong with that. For me the answer is no.
More recently, while on jury duty I met a delightful lady. She is an attractive, actually beautiful person who dresses very nicely, is elegant and takes excellent care of herself. I was very attracted to her and the fact that she was moderately handicapped meant absolutely nothing. There were very pleasant much "younger" and women on that jury also, but for elegance and graciousness they could not match that delightful lady who is a mature woman, as mature as I am. It was a joy to be able to sit and speak with her.
In other categories, I also reject absolutely all the fraudulent barriers based on religions, color, class, nationality and ethnicity.
We shall all be equal "in death's dateless night." | |
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Posted: 3/19/2005 3:38:15 PM | | Age and numbers are only there because we can not control time...so we set values to diffrent things that relate to time such as hours, minutes, days, years, etc. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2005 2:18:35 PM | | Thats what im saying .......i say if theres hair on the field...then PLAYBALL!!!! .........sorry | |
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Posted: 3/21/2005 3:20:03 PM | | Does anyone ask for ID?? What is the big deal about a persons age, be it 10 years or more, oneway or the other.. If its there, it IS there... | |
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Posted: 7/13/2005 5:09:22 PM | I just got done dating a younger girl she was cool, made me feel great,
I think is great to date younger women, I don't have nothing against the older ones, all are great. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2005 7:16:10 PM | I don't completely agree with you on that. I am 23 years old and I love culture. ALL KINDS of all generations. Music for example I know about music that was played bedore my mother was born. I have been told that I act 30 sometimes it is a compliment. I like old men 5+ years but all the ones I find are married, liars, cheaters, losers or all of the above. So how does that compare. For the record... some of us do know what we want in life and in love... we just aren't finding it.  
PS I hate fast food. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2005 6:30:15 PM | I could NOT agree more! im sick of women stating not to reply to them if the age is etc etc etc ....... Im in better shape now, than any time in my life !! i can ski cirlces and snowboard better than most !! O well , their loss tho ay ?? hehe take care.
Cophros | |
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