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Posted: 5/14/2006 12:23:52 PM | | I've noticed that most people, adults included, get offended when the topic of sex is brought up in a conversation. Why is that? If a person mentions something that they like sexually, it is usually scorned upon. Mind you, these are the same people that dream up sexual fantasies while they are at work. In some cases, even pleasure themselves.To me, these people are hipocrites. What is wrong with having an open discussion about sex? I think that these people need to check themselves. What do you think? | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 12:28:58 PM | | Talking about sex is fine, but it's not a subject that everyone wants to talk about. Talking about it on a forum, with people you barely know, is probably easier for most people. I mean, Jane Q Public probably doesn't want her neighbour to know what she does and doesn't do in the bedroom, afterall. But she probably doesn't care if Fishman1973 knows because, well, I'm just a name on a computer screen to her. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 12:34:31 PM |
Mind you, these are the same people that dream up sexual fantasies while they are at work. In some cases, even pleasure themselves.
The things you mentioned are done in private and having a discussion with someone concerning them may be beyond their comfort level. Just because someone has sexual fantasies or masturbates, doesn't mean it is open for discussion. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 12:36:29 PM | psssst, well put.
I would add that if you bring it up in the workplace, you are likely to not be in that workplace long.
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Posted: 5/14/2006 12:37:32 PM | | Obviously I am not one to shy away from discussions of sex and sexuality. As adults we should be able to speak freely and openly about various topics relating to our 'human nature' without being shunned or chastised. In an open forum like this I think it is very improtant to share ones point of view, as a way to educate and enlighten one another to what is out there to discover. It's also very important to know we are ok and what we experience is probably what many others experience as well. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 12:42:51 PM | Sweetie, It is not that we are prudes and have a hang up against sex. You have to realize that some things have to be left for special people in your life. If you start talking about sex to everyone you chat with or get to know it will make you feel cheap and as if you are being looked at as a person for sex only. IMO.... Sex is something that should be discussed between two people who have had the pleasure of at least spending the evenings together and getting to know each other in the intimate sort of a way. If you should be the lucky one she falls in love with, will you not feel better knowing that she saved the things that the two of you share in private to be discussed with only you?????? I really would not want to be with a man every other woman has been with or has knowledge of his sexual likes and dislikes. Save some things for the privacy of two lovers. Not two that have just met or shown interest. It all is a matter of showing respect for the lady. Although some women like it. Not me!!!! I want the real thing with a man I love. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 3:21:32 PM | | Now are you talking about bringing up the topic in general face to face conversation or are you IM people and bringing up sex? I think it depends on where the topic is brought up and in front of whom. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 3:36:42 PM | | There is no harm in talking about it but there is a time and a place for everything. Honestly I don't think enough people are talking about it. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 5:15:24 PM | Unfortunately, religion has made sex a forbidden dirty topic. It's no wonder there are so many messed up people out there in the world. If we could talk freely and openly about sex, perhaps we would be able to find a compatible woman or man. I went through a couple of relationships with women who were so repressed that they refused to do anything besides the Missionary position. And if I suggested anything different or them trying to wear sexy clothing I got the "I am not a whore" or "I am not a tramp" and was made to feel like I was the one who was doing something wrong just for mentioning it...
Too many women have apparently been taught to think that their sex organs are the "Holy Grail" and heaven forbid any man who lowers himself to attempt to gain such a prize without bringing forth a ring or making a lifetime committment. Sad...very very sad...
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Posted: 5/14/2006 5:40:19 PM | Man..I have said it before and I will say it now...why are all the good ones in Canada ROFLMAO....
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Joined: 9/4/2005
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| Talking about sex....
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:16:16 PM | | Everyone has their own way of thinking, and there is no right or wrong, just whats right for you. Personally, sex isn't something I talk about in forums, I'm not comfortable talking about something that is very private to me, so that the world can see. I don't have a problem talking about sex with somebody that I'm close to, not at all, actually I'm very open that way, but thats just me... | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 6:45:16 PM | Sex is probably the only thing that all people have an opinion on, so why not discuss it?
Maria XOXO | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 6:48:07 PM | | People have different levels of comfort discussing sex. Some have no problem, others don't like to. You have to adjust to the people you are with. It's common courtesy to avoid making your companions, and those seated nearby, uncomfortable. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 7:37:46 PM | I will talk about sex. I don't care but I was also brought up to talk about anything on my mind. I don't think there is a single person out there that I have met that does not enjoy sex. Who cares what people think.... we all enjoy it and that is all there is to it.
Cheers
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Posted: 5/15/2006 4:42:44 AM | I think it's a matter of timing, in many cases. Myself, I LOVE talking about sex, because I always love talking about something I'm passionate about. But if sex is the first thing someone wants to discuss (and this goes double...no, quadruple...for online messages), I'm put off by it. I want to see that there's something other than sex going on inside a person's head before we start getting down and dirty with the sex discussions. I really prefer if the discussion takes place naturally, amongst flirting and playing, rather than "clinically", just a series of Q&A (now THAT'S a turn off)
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Posted: 5/15/2006 5:07:00 AM | | That's got to be frustrating for you when your picture invites sexual conversation. I bet plenty of men make the mistake of assuming you are interested primarily in sex, just from the picture. | |
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Joined: 10/27/2005
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Posted: 5/15/2006 5:23:31 AM | I think you need to check yourself.. If the topic comes up fine but its not like you should go and start something on it.. Most cases if its with someoen you just met the topic isn't probably going to fly over that well because of feeling strange about it but normally later on there isn't a problem..
We are all sexual beings but doesnt' mean everybody likes to flaunt or talk it. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 6:36:12 AM | Talking about SEX??? Oh my, i could never.
haha just kidding, There is a time and place for everything, i speak my mind and tell it like it is so in my opinion SEX is a beautiful thing between 2 people,so i see nothing wrong with talking about SEX. SO bring on the SEX talk.  | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 7:11:46 AM | The ones who get huffy or turn their head when the topic of sex is brought up are the ones who have a negative view of it or are the oens who are probably tired of hearing it all the time from a guy lol.....so all the men before me who have drilled sex talk into this woman has just ruined it for me if I want to lol....
I, personally like to bring it up here and there just to see their reaction, if they get cold feet, clam up or get irritated, cuz that is a sign to come, trust me. You don't want to get into your sexual fantasy questions right from the getgo no, but poke around and flirt and see if the other is game down the road to the discussion, there are ways of doing it.
Just be careful for the few women who have a tendancy to take things the wrong way in chat, it is very easy to do so....things can get minsconstrued very easily. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 7:14:54 AM | Remember, women hear sex sex sex from every guy they probably run into so for some they are tired of hearing about it to some degree I am sure, and being that is so they will probably not be so anxious to talk about it cuz you will be doing that for them lol....
kinda like online dating, most women don't have to send an e-mail out cuz the guys will be hounding them with them, so they don't have to, sex talk is the same way to some degree...personally a woman who isn't shy about it is a real turn on, it shows me no inhibitions and openess and a willingness to be creative and open and expand their minds. But not in your first line to each other no lol ....save it for the second..hehe | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 7:27:49 AM | I aggree that talking about sex is a very natural thing. But I also aggree that if someone were to start off a conversation with some thing like.... "So what's your fav position...." That would be a huge turnoff. There is a time and place for everything. I truly believe that sex should be part of the getting to know each other stage. If more people talked about it in the beginnings of relationships, then potentially alot of grief and frustration could be avoided.
I was involved in an "alternative" lifestyle for a very long time, and I saw and learned about many different sexual fetishes. Alot of them weren't for me, but I know what I like and want. While society is becoming more open to different ideas and views on sex, many people still feel that they have to hide what they like. And unfortunalely, yes most of society would judge them for it.
My own personal philosophy is "As long as you aren't hurting anyone who dosen't want to be hurt, it's all good." I still hope that someday people will be accepted for who they are. Have a great day everyone, and great fishing! | |
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| Talking about sex....
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:28:04 AM |
But not in your first line to each other no lol ....save it for the second..hehe
I'll tell ya..the men that have kept me intrigued are the ones that don't talk about it at all. The funny thing is, we're so used to it coming up in conversation just about with every man, that when they don't bring it up, it makes you wonder. Must be something about the challenge of it all, dunno? Wait for her to bring it up, believe me if shes into you, it won't take long... | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 7:32:55 AM | | depends... if he brings a sexual undertone into the conversation, (without sounding audacious), its a huge turn-on...if i sense an ego trip.....it's not... | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 7:36:33 AM | | I think it's a natural thing to do, but you don't want to listen to someone go right into topic about it and that when you're just having a conversation. Also, if someone is offended about it, just don't talk around them about it. | |
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