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Posted: 5/14/2006 8:35:19 PM | Just wanted your advice. ie you went out on a date with a girl. went well. Would you call her the next day? If a guy doesn't call you, does that mean he's not interested?
Do guys not call girl the next day if they are still interested? Could that me a possibility? | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 8:41:23 PM | What is it with this business of calling you girls all the time ?
If we don't call enough, we're not showing interrest and you get upset.
If we call too much, we're a nusance and you get upset.
How's a guy supposed to figure this stuff out ?
It's perfectly possible he loves you to death, but can't bring himself to call you cause he doesn't know how you'ld think about it.
Now stop worrying about it. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 8:58:30 PM | OP...he might be following that stupid "three day rule" we hear about so often on here... he doesn't want to look too clingy or desperate... Can't say I ever understood that because if I had a great time on a date it would be obvious and I would hope he would just go with what he was feeling. I think the reality is, that if a woman thinks he is too clingy because he called to say he had a great time....she's just not as into him as he is her. Just my .02 | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 8:59:36 PM |
went out on a date with a girl. went well. Would you call her the next day?
I always ask if she would like to get together again if I am not certain. If she says yes, I then ask if it would be ok to call her. Maybe not the next day but within three days and definetely by Wednesday if our date had been during the weekend.
If a guy doesn't call you, does that mean he's not interested?
No. He may have a busy schedule.
Do guys not call girl the next day if they are still interested?
Some guys do call the next day but a lot of guys don't want to appear desperate or appear to be chasing. A lot of guys like to cherish the memory before arranging for another date. It can be a natural high and take a while to come back down if it was that good a date. Can't give you women the entire upper hand.
Could that me a possibility?
Of course it does. Just be careful not to appear anxious or desperate yourself. Give it some time. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 9:02:49 PM | | I likely would wait at least two days. I've learned that part of the game anyway...If I seem to anxious, I'm taken out of play. Relax for at least another 24 hours. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 9:06:28 PM | | See, but 2 days is the new one day, so now you've gotta wait at least 3 days! Myself, I always wait 6 days... or just forget all that rubbish. What I've been doing of late with a modicum of success is e-mailing them as soon as I get home from the date telling them I had a great time, and that I'll be getting in touch with them soon. Then you can wait a few days, call them, and make arrangements for another date. You don't want to come on too strong, but you've gotta make a little extra effort to cement your presence in her mind, so that seems to work for me. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 9:25:21 PM | Why does he have to call? Why can't you call him?
It's a no win game with us.
If we call right away or too often, we are stalkers.
If we wait and don't call right away or often enough, we are inconsiderate jerks.
I have just gotten to where I will say, you have my number, give me a call any time. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 2:55:05 PM | After our first date, I did call him because he didn't call me. That was 1 day after our first date. During the first date, we chatted and kissed. I mean we kissed a lot. Well he initiated the kissing part during our first date. When I called him, he said he was busy helping a friend move out. I am not happy with him because whenever he promises to call me, he never calls me. He broke the promise 2x. Once was on my b-day, he told me that he would call me but he was playing poker with his friends. Remember we only talked on the phone but not met in person yet. Second time he told me he will called me during his fishing weekend. Then he tells me he has to leave to US for business trip. Uggghh and said that he will not be back until Friday, then he called my house and left a message that he will not return until the next week. I was a little disappointed with that. He knows that I am not home during the afternoons, why does he call me in the evenings when I am home. I don't know if he's actually going on a business trip, vacationing at his ex in texas or he's playing me.
Just a little background on this guy. He had two children age 10, and 4 who lives with the mother in US. I don't have an children nor was I ever marry before. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 3:25:37 PM | help is here....:)
Glad you had a nice time with this guy....you called him.....which is okay. He was busy moving...which is okay...
Here is the big No No..... He knew of your Birthday! He was playing poker with his friends!
If any good man becomes involved with a woman and cares for her.....[as I see a date that involves intimacy such as what you have had.....] showing up for your birthday is very important....personally, I would of gifted you with something special....
You have thoughts of him playing you......well definitely he is playing with your feelings young lady.....and you might be right........
Question: Do you want to marry a man that forgets your birthday, tells you he will be there and he is not, forgets to call you when he knows it is important to you, does not involve you in his schedule....etc.....??????
Of course....you might be a bit trivial....but certain points are important.....
I believe you will find a wonderful man that will truly treasure and love you.....
Go catch a big fish young lady......
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PS not many of us left.....lol.....  | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 3:41:25 PM | Before he gets home from work tomorrow, you should wait on his front porch while oiling a firearm. Calmly ask him, "Why haven't you called me?"
Or you can call him, tell him you had a great time, then ask him out for a second date. Tere are so many options. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 5:15:53 PM | (2)
((What is it with this business of calling you girls all the time ?
If we don't call enough, we're not showing interrest and you get upset.
If we call too much, we're a nusance and you get upset.
How's a guy supposed to figure this stuff out ?
It's perfectly possible he loves you to death, but can't bring himself to call you cause he doesn't know how you'ld think about it.
Now stop worrying about it.))
Smile, grab him by the nuts, and ask!
If he doesn't run, he probably never will.
LMFAO | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 5:33:20 PM | | I don't know, I think I'd be afraid of seeming too desperate if I called the girl the next day. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 6:28:58 PM | | He's playing you for sure, especially calling when he knows you're out. Leave the ball in his court for a while, and find something, or someone else to occupy your mind. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 6:33:46 PM | | Most guys usually wait a few days before calling to appear not anxious but what we really wanna do is get back to the good lovin !! | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 6:41:15 PM | | MOVE ON GIRL!! YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT! AND BUY A COPY OF "He's Just Not that Into You" So you can actually realize how you deserve to be treated. Don't make excuses for him anymore. The man you are meant to be with would not leave you so confused and wondering. When it's right you just know it and every person deserves to feel like gold in a relationship - even after the first date and especially on your birthday. So, move on and move up! | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 8:19:08 PM | | What you should do is this: Get a back-up girl you like to date even if it has the possibility of turning into more. The thing here is time. That way you go out with date#2, and you don't call date#1 because your mind is on the other. So then, date#1 will wonder why you haven't called and of course it's because you were with date#2. Then date #2, will go through the same thing if you go back to date #1. It's a win-win situation for you, and a win-lose situation for the dates. Finally you make your decision on who you want to be with..just make sure they dont know each other!! | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 8:36:06 PM | From a female perspective, not knowing quite the in depth of the relationship before the date.. first it was one date.
It appears as if he is an older man, and may travel a lot for business and has some good friends.
Calling him the next day may have scared him.. to expect something to be done on your birthday before there is a "relationship" is unreasonable. As well to interfere with a poker night, if some guy expected me to do that during one that I was holding, I would kind of look at him strangly.
He may not be "playing" but not quite sure how to react, guys sometimes get taken aback when a woman tries to take the reins..
yes he should give you respect, but it really depends on how deep the relationship was, and with only one actual date, I would not start building a lot of expectations.
I'd back away and give it time, he knows your interested, and see if he returns til then make no assumptions and enjoy life | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 8:55:22 PM | Gonna go out on a limb here and say that if you get/make a call/IM/text/email within hours of parting company, it could be really good. The only recent time this happened to me, I was completely electrified and the gold standard was set.
Call your date whenever and expect a call whenever. These arcane "rules" of dating are utter nonsense. Do what you feel is right. If the other person doesn't agree, move on. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 9:07:11 PM | | Rules of dating? Call only after 3 days? Where do I get a copy of all these rules to burn? | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 9:26:14 PM | | I send flowers and a "Thank you for a nice evening" note. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 9:27:35 PM | I personally deliver a box of chocolates, roses, bring my guitar, candles, etc..... of course stay and help eat the chocolates too.....the next day if I think she is a keeper.....
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PS of course read some of my poetry that kept me awake all night writing.....
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Posted: 5/25/2006 7:15:15 AM | | I agree back away and live life if it's meant to be it will happen | |
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