| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/17/2005 4:51:32 PM | wow let me start from the beginning first.
well there was this girl whom i know for 5 years and for 2 years i was having a crush on her. But i never dared to tell her, simply becuz of the fear of rejection. but we were really down with each other and hit it off very well, that even people wondered why we are not a couple. anyways so this july 2004 i had to go to Atlanta and had to stay there for 3 months, while she was of ocurse still in europe. We knew it was obvious that we are sorta meant to be etc. and we talked alot bout it. and she promised me and swore to me that she will be visitin me if i make a living there but she said it in a way that it was for every fool obvious that she meant that me and her would than hook up. and she promised me to call and to answer my letter etc. so the Atlanta trip came to a very bad point of time. ok i wrote her an 11 paged letter where i was pouring out my heart to her and made all the ambiguous things clear and official. i wrote the most romantic letter ever, it would even made it to a hollywood blockbuster script. I also sprayed very little parfume on severel pages etc.
i waited then alot for a reply, nothin came back. then i got a call from a friend of mine tellin shockin news. he said she was havin a new serious boyfriend!! shock!! and ironically they became a couple exactly on the day i went to the post office to send my letter to her, july 26th!! and of course her " big love" didnt last more than 2 months.
ok anyways time past by, i was back in europe ( unfortunately) and she was meanin less than spit to me. and today after 7 months and 2 days i got to see her by chance and what is she doing? She just acts like she doesnt know me!!! Like we have never met before!!! like i was a stranger!!!
d*mn i mean i was always there for this girl in her worst times, shared all her tears and fears, was there for at 3A.M when she needed someone. i expressed my lvoe to her on a 11 paged hand written love letter tellin her everything she means to me. Was even able to fly immidiately back when she was in need. i helped her thru so many crisis in her life. i sacrificed alot for her. and what is she doing? she just acts liek we wouldnt know each other?? She Was Just Acting Like We Havent Seen Each Other Before!!!!
God, someone please explain this world to me.... | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/17/2005 4:56:36 PM | hate to break it to you my friend, but she doesn't want to talk to you. why? who knows. she sounds flighty. but i can assure you that she probobly does what i do when i see a guy i don't want anything to do with (ignore them)
sounds like she used you for a shoulder to cry on. you should find someone that deserves you. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/18/2005 12:45:20 AM | Yup, I went through something sort of similar to this. And because of it, I'm going to be very cautious about spilling my guts and talking serious with another woman again until WELL INTO the relationship.
I'm thinking that women are seriously turned-off by men who do this simply cause they think it shows that we are weak or something? I mean, I know that she was hooking up with some dude on the same day you wrote and/or sent the letter, but it sounds like you were talking very intimately about things with her a lot before that (which is cool and you want to do that), but then again.. maybe you started to get too soft and too serious? I'll let you think about that one.
I dunno, man.. women have never made any sense to me whatsoever. They say they want one thing one minute, and then the next minute they want the complete opposite. I hate to generalize, that's just been my experience, ladies. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 11:06:53 AM | I don't know this girl from a hole in the wall....but it is possible that she realized she goofed and she's so embarassed and immature that she can not deal with it in a mature manner.
Just imagine the time-line from her point of view:
- had a great friend for years, someone she trusts completely
- starts to talk about being a couple with this friend...but there are concerns about the dangers of getting romantically involved with a friend.
- fell in love with another guy and started a serious relationship (maybe she was running away from her fears. Maybe he was a real romantic charmer that swept her off her feet. Maybe she was just lonely and feeling like she was missing her other half. I'd bet she doesn't know which it is.)
- two weeks later, gets a very romantic, heart-felt, intense, "official" declaration of love from her friend. She wonders if he's just lonely and clutching at something familiar. She's still scared of changing their familiar friendship into something else. In any case, she has no idea what to do. The timing of this couldn't have been worse because she's in a serious relationship. If she says no, she'll hurt her best friend. If she says yes, she'll hurt this fellow she is in a serious relationship with. Perhaps she is too young to see beyond such things.
- So, as she dithers, time marches on and eventually, she convinces herself it's too late to do anything and that her former best friend probably hates her anyways.
- Then, by chance, she sees her former best friend in the streets of Europe. She can tell right away from his expression that he truely does hate her. She thinks the situation is hopeless and un-fixable. Given her earlier silence and her previous relationship, she figures her former best friend will never be her friend again. So, she choose to avoid confrontation, pretend nothing happened, and ignore him. Immature, yes...but understandable.
Again, this is only a possibility. I don't know either of you from a hole in the wall. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 11:09:28 AM | | nope, it's been my expeirience that they just need some one when it is convenient for them and now they don't need you anymore so they just put you on ignore until they need a doormat again! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 3:51:02 PM | I am sorry to hear of what happened to you. The **** is bad.
Stay away from her. You sound like a decent man. Stay decent.
Avoid evil rotten ****es (90 percent of the female population, it seems)
and all that. Be happy. Do your thang, man !!!! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 4:03:18 PM | | I think you nailed it. This boy-girl stuff is hard and we only have his side of the story. She was probably just flummoxed and had no idea how to act, so went with the default position we all use from time to time and played cool and detached. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/18/2005 5:26:43 PM | Just guessing but you probably became a friend to her. And women can completely put you into the friend catagory with, basically, no chance of escape. Your love letter then really scared her and then you know what happened.
I've known a number of women who have flirted (in some way) with me but it was fairly obvious that they'd never go any further with it. So, if I had tried to, she'd have run. You may have run into the same thing but you just didn't realize it.
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Posted: 2/18/2005 6:58:48 PM | well i forgot to mention something. first of there are 2 ind of friendship to a girl. First: a "friend" and second an " I-wish-i-was-your-boyfriend"-friend. and i was defently the second one. i didnt hit on her 24/7 but i did alot and she did it too and we made alot of fun outta it. and i defnetialey dont wanna sound conceited but it was 100% not my fault. i mean she even said the only reason why me and her were not lovers is that i was goin to the states for a longer time.
if she likes me or not ( even after all we have been through) i don't care, but i just hate that ****-Move of her when she was ignorin me. Man she could at least say a stupid " Hi" and go on by so that i would understand she does not want me at all, but she acts like she does not know me.
by the way she works in a big mall where i have to go to tomorrow at the time she iwll be working and i have to pass her desk. i dont know how to act. but i know back in the days she would have come out her work and give me a big hug and would even call customers to go away cuz she was havin a break etc. but tomorrow? hmm i thought when i walk on by i will pick up my cell phone and act like i was searchin for a number or typin a text message and see if she will holla.
honestly right now i am just having it, its just if i was walkin in a park and see her gettin raped by 4 men and 15 feet away from her there was a wounded dog i would take care of that dog honestly!! | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 8:23:44 PM | | could have been tha 11 page profession of love scared the shorts off of her. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 10:55:41 PM | So you complain that she acts like she doesn't know you...yet you choose to act like you don't know her? Why is it OK when YOU do it but not when she does it?
Ah, the trials and tribulations of young love.
Sorry you're in such pain over this. I know it's cliche...but time does heal all wounds. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 7:11:27 AM | Magga....and single women wonder why they can't meet their special someone...even though its plain on the nose on their face.
Sounds like you're too good for her...you're problem...unfortuantely, is actually doing ALL that you did for her...in a sense , in some sort of warped way...she resents it. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 9:08:42 AM | | Chalk it up to this one word, it's called LIFE. Now you got to deal with it, stop trying to analyize it am move on. We have all been there in some way. Take the best out of the relationship (whatever you may call it) and apply it in outher faucets of your life. Take care... | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 11:17:59 AM | Sounds like you read a lot more into the relationship than what she did. She probably liked you at first then she didn't like you as much as she once did. Can happen for various reasons. She didn't stay in her next relationship very long did she? Some women are like that...big feelings up front....then meet somebody else and you are gone. It is rough but it is life.
If she is ignoring you....she wants nothing to do with you....sounds like closure to me. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 11:57:32 AM | | d*mn, sorry this happened to you but I'd just move on. She doesn't sound worth it if she can't even talk to you about it. You were her intellectual whore and her emotional blanket/captain save a ho and when you finally admitted your feelings she freaked. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 12:52:10 PM | i can't believe someone said 90% of the female population are ****es...
and i_am_nad you are generalizing.
why don't you go and start a bitter male thread? looks like yall have alot to talk about.. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 12:56:55 PM | Nad is a sweetheart whose had some tough breaks with women.
Blackmanx is seriously f'ed up and doesn't KNOW 90% of the population, and he's also had some tough breaks with women.
In short Magga, she isn't the woman for you. You deserve to be treated better and I personally think that she isn't attracted to you but didn't have the balls to tell you. So she strung you along which isn't fair to you. So, be good to yourself and move on. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 2:04:26 PM | I'm so sorry to hear what has happened to you regarding this girl. All I can say is that at this point in time, she is unable or too immature to realize what a great and loving person you are. Please don't let yourself get bitter about this! Please don't let it make you lose faith! Another girl is waiting and ready for a person like you! Go out and find her!
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 2:21:01 PM | I work in an environment of 2200 women. I've seen it all - you would think. Not true. Don't try to figure it out. Simply search your feelings, connect with a woman that is providing you with the same love, attention, affection and concern that you give to her. It sounds like you put yourself in a one way relationship. It's best that it happened now rather than later.
If a woman doesn't provide the same for you (emotionally, physically, psychologically) - you haven't got much - take the difficult step and end it on your own recognisance. Any other way is just too difficult and hurtful. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 2:44:00 PM | | well, I guess that you;ve been to the mall now and all the rest - however, if its stil screwing you up, ad I guess it is (I think that quite a few of us have been there with very close friends turning in to something else, and then it all goes pear-shaped for some reaosn or other). My feeling is that to put your mind at rest, you should confront her on this one - not in a harsh way, coz that will just do no good, but in a level-headed way - and ask her what the problem is. Ask hether it was because you came on to strong, or whether it was because of the distance that made you gro further away - say that as you were such good close friends, that is the least that can be done - an explanation as to what happened/ You never know, the answer may be better than you think. Its not an easy thing to do, I'll be the first to admit, but I promise you that it is worth it. At least you iwll ahve an answer. | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 3:01:13 PM | | Hey man, I feel 3 or more times worst than you...The last 3 girls I've really loved did the same thing to me...I meet them, supposely they like me soooo much and then where are they??? They left without saying bye or some just stopped talking to me, and when i see them face to face they act like you are a stranger, they don't even look at you!!! SO WHAT DO I DO??? I tell them straight in their face YOU F*** B****, and I don't tell them in a sad or angry way, i tell them like if I was better than her, like being all****!! And you know what man?? That is the only truth we are too much for them, you are to good for her, she needs some one around her own level, and I'm 100% sure you are way better than her...Look girls are the most beautiful thing on this planet, no matter what they do us, you gotta love them, so don't hate her just feel happy for her, and you feel happy that she is not in ur life, move on and find the right girl (she out there man believe me) and you are not going to find her, shes the one that is going to find you!!! You might think you lost hope, so don't lose it, keep it stronger than ever, and don't feel like you are the worst of men... I've been tru that and more, but tell me something girls, I'm I that ugly??? I don't think so, lol..if I was a girl I've be hitting on me, hahaha...And one more thing don't be too sweet with girls, they seem to like the badassses....be a sweetheart just like me, but don't show it too much until you are about to marry the right girl !!! Wow i wrote a lot but i feel better now, but i'll feel more better if you follow my advise and move on dude!! Remember SHE's GOING TO FIND YOU!! | |
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| I Cant Believe what she just did?!
Posted: 2/19/2005 3:31:05 PM | extreme hehe, you are defently my buddy. but ok u said u had it worse, but at least you had some girls, but look i am 22 and i never had a girlfriend!! but hell i am no virgin!! but the thign with i never had a GF is a discrimination/race issue; like i am livin in germany and here i am considered as less than crap. we hardly have rights. we are like black people in the 50s or 40s in USA.
but whenever i am in USA, uuuhh i am da man! i am always seen with ladys etc. so i am livin my sex life in the U.S., cuz there i am treated like a human being!! but for the fact that a visa only remains for 90 days max., there is no way and no worth to start a love relation ship.
but back in europe i have nothing at all!!
anyways, well yeah when i was drivin today to that mall i was thinking the whoel thign over and realised that she started showin interest to me after i was seen with Eminem, 50 Cent, Obie Trice, Young Buck etc. so this thign atcually got us developing our relationship to each other. With other words, if i wasnt seen with Eminem etc. nothing would have had happenend.
well the official reason i went to that mall was to buy march issue of my favourite Hip Hop Mag 'JUICE'. so when i bought it, i seen that there was a story about me in that issue, so i was big smiling adn readin that article over and over again till i was in my car. and i just didnt notice i passed her. i was just so happy with it that i made it to that leading most famous Hip Hop magazine.
oh someone said just go and fuk her. ok i can fuk someone i dont like, but i cannot fuk someone that i hate! | |
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