Enryk
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Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 2 | |
| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 3:33:11 PM | An insult only works if you let it be such.
Simply ignore it or found a way to show that it is incorrect, illogical, inapropriate and it will become a lie instead of an insult.
Very simple. Oh and keep it cool. That's the secret. | |
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Carri
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Joined: 9/18/2005
Msg: 3 | |
| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 3:36:48 PM | Insults are nothing more than a person's opinion. Usually bitter/little-selfworth type of people. If you're happily plodding along in life there's no need to drag others down.
That all stands unless you did nothing to deserve that insult... | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 4:05:21 PM | I don't deal with it well at all: I withdraw and edge another step closer to suicide.
This site is a buffet of insults. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 4:08:59 PM | | You let them roll off your back by laughing them off, you cant take an insult you dont feel to be true seriously. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 4:29:01 PM | | Too many unknowns. An insult from an in-law, is different than an insult from a co-worker, is different than an insult from a stranger on the street (and so on). An insult about your appearance, is different than an insult about the quality of your work, is different than an insult about your ... personal hygiene (and so on). | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 6:32:15 PM | | About the only insults that effect me are the ones made by immediate family members. But since that hasn't happened in years, I just don't know how I would answer the question. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/18/2006 6:58:14 PM | I simply don't care and can't be bothered by what people think of me. I don't have to sleep with them, I don't go home to them, and even if it were the case, people don't make or break me.
How should a person deal with insults? Get some self-esteem and realize that people don't matter. Untill you see someone walking on water, then their opinion only counts when it's asked for.
That being said, there's a difference between constructive criticism and an insult. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/20/2006 11:42:59 PM | People have a tendency to insult another for what they don't like about themselves. So its not you its them. Tell them your not cool.......your the breeze!!!! | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/22/2006 2:26:51 PM | The first thing I try to do is ask, "Why do you think that?". Sometimes it's a clash between personalities, or it might be something I don't know about myself (which are usually the things that hurt the most). I try to take it as an opinion, and if I feel myself getting hot under the collar, I'll take a break from thinking about it and deal with the thought later.
I find that after understanding where the other person is coming from, and understanding where I was at, the insult becomes more of a constructive criticism and helps me grow as a person.
If someone just blows up at me and walks off, well, that's a different story entirely. I usually add it to my "for later list" and just ignore it.
Just my two cents | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/22/2006 4:43:22 PM | It depends on the circumstances....you have to learn to be discriminating about who's comments you take to heart. Some people are just downright mean; some people lack tact; some people don't realize that what they are saying is offensive to you.
For the most part, I don't really give a rat's a$$ whether or not most people like me...so if they make snide remarks about me I could care less. Now if it's someone who's opinion I do care about, I would confront the person about it to find out why they insulted me.
I think learning to let insults roll off your back is a combination of life experiences and your personality type. Do a little soul-searching---Are you overly sensitive to peoples comments? Is it a matter of wanting everybody to like you? (That's impossible...btw.) If you think the problem is within, you can work on those things and the rest will fall into place. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2006 7:28:54 PM | 1of9, analyze the insult.
Is it true? If so, then it's up to you to accept it (or change it) as truth.
Is it untrue? If so, it's not worth the breath it took to utter it. Ignore it.
An insult is only a sound, not unlike the sound of a housefly buzzing.
You are in total control of how you feel about it. Is a simple sound stronger than you are? | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/22/2006 7:34:19 PM | | Ya I've always had a very difficult time with bein able to do that, but have basically started to think that in a way the people in the world who don't care as much are maybe the luckiest of all. I mean I know there's good out there too n all but man it's hard to find n I'm gettin really tired of it already so I think the less a person cares at all the better :) So ya, that's really the only way I can think of to let things go n really be able to do it n not even be upset about it or anythin...maybe it's a bit cold or somethin but it's a pretty cold world I think so oh well guess it's just how it is... | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:49:03 AM | | What bothers me about insults is not that I care what someone thinks of me, or even that they are intending to do harm. It is that it confirms my dismal view of people at large, the nature of mankind, the future in store resulting from mean spiritedness. It is like a robin is a sign of spring, an insult is a harbinger of Armageddon. I am brought back to see the ready finger on the trigger in war, or the one on the mythical nuclear button. I am brought face to face with the fact we will ultimately do each other in even as we love one another the best we can. But, that's pessimism for you. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 9:05:38 AM | | There is nothing good or bad in this world per say, it is all relative to what meaning you give it as your own individual. I choose to live in a friendly universe, bleak and dreary is a self-envoked prison | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/23/2006 10:19:25 AM | "What bothers me about insults is not that I care what someone thinks of me, or even that they are intending to do harm. It is that it confirms my dismal view of people at large, the nature of mankind, the future in store resulting from mean spiritedness. It is like a robin is a sign of spring, an insult is a harbinger of Armageddon. I am brought back to see the ready finger on the trigger in war, or the one on the mythical nuclear button. I am brought face to face with the fact we will ultimately do each other in even as we love one another the best we can. But, that's pessimism for you."
My thoughts exactly red flag.
I'm very sensitive to even implied slights, and it really has nothing to do with me personally either. Insults just plain freak me out. They add to the data that the world is not a very nice place, all while I'm trying my damndest to pretend like it is so I can get by.
It's not the person saying it.
It's not if it's true or not, either has the same effect.
Whether it's some stupid guy telling me I'm too fat for him to date, or seeing a couple of kids stomp to death a butterfly just for fun, it's the same thing. It feels the same way. It brings me back to the most unanswerable question about human nature. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/23/2006 1:49:46 PM | | What I like about compliments is not the boost to my ego or even that someone is trying be helpful. It is that is affirms my happier view of people at large, the nature of mankind, the future in store resulting from kind spiritedness. It is the robin as a sign of spring, better days ahead. I am reminded of all the ways people love each other, help one another. I am brought face to face with the fact we have so far survived, and now prosper, suggesting that despite the harm we sometime do each other we will ultimately realize our collective human dreams. But, that's optimism for you, and another thread. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/23/2006 4:57:36 PM | Insults are merely sad attempts to treat another Human Being in a degrading or contemptious manner to make oneself feel better. It is not an admirable characteristic.....and there are only 2 ways to handle it!
1) Fight Fire With Water!!! Let it go! Realize that other people's opinions don't matter. It only matters what You truly think of yourself.
2) Fight Fire With Fire!!! Turn the tables on them. Use their own ammunition against them! If they want War....give them WAR!!!
Personally though.....I feel that the First suggestion is the best way! | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/23/2006 5:27:16 PM | Did nameoffeathers comment not bother anyone??
I don't deal with it well at all: I withdraw and edge another step closer to suicide. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/23/2006 7:33:51 PM | Yeah, that kinda' itched to me... but I figured I'm new & maybe that's part of his persona.
Dang, I didn't feel right when he disappeared, either. | |
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| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/28/2006 10:22:16 PM | I usally look them square in the eyes......to get the Intention and either
a : let it roll
b : make them know what it's like to be insulted. | |
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toyoux
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Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| dealing with being insulted
Posted: 5/28/2006 10:58:34 PM | Msg 23 and 24: He deleted his account.
I really hope he's okay................ | |
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