| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:00:00 PM | Do they just feel "inferior?" Why is it, when a woman is educated, self-sufficient, knows what she wants, and what she will tolerate (and NOT tolerate) in a relationship...why do they equate this with 'Feminisim??' I love being a girly-girl...but I can also run with the "big dogs" when I have to...why is this such a threat to men??
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:15:22 PM | | There have been lots of threads about this. In your specific case it could be the chip on your shoulder, and the way you talk about men, or the way you feel about them which shows through. Being on guard against a MCP archetype colors one's outlook, and appearance to others. Some men will be uncomfortable around a woman they feel is smarter than them, but it's not about feeling threatened, usually it's just that the woman is unpleasant. She could test the theory by making an effort to be kind and friendly, which men tend to react to well. Girded for battle, quick to judge, seeing "pigs" in every shadow at every opportunity, she will not win admiration. The intelligent, educated, independent, etc. women who like men and treat them with respect, easily find a mate, for they offer qualities and love very much in demand. | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:24:37 PM | we need more women who are wanting to do this. I personally think its great that a women is educated and wants to be independent. i Think theres way to many people who think they should just get to stay home and do nothing.
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:27:00 PM | Noted feather..with due respect...I have no chip on my shoulder..male/female bashing is irrelevant in my case. "Pigs" come in many forms, male or female..my experiences have told me that many men are 'threatened' by my intelligence and blunt way of educating them on the finer art of romance, love, mutual respect and equality that MUST be in every relationship in order for it to survive..they just don't 'get it!'
Thanks for your opinion.
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:33:34 PM |
many men are 'threatened' by my intelligence and blunt way of educating them on the finer art of romance, love, and equality that MUST be in every relationship in order for it to survive..they just don't 'get it!'
Wild guess here, but they probably don't mind that you are educated and independent. They probably just are not interested in dating someone who comes off as condescending and controlling. That's definately the vibe I am getting here. | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:38:14 PM | truth: experience has shown and taught me that real men aren't threatened by real women, they openly appreciate and positively acknowledge them!
sure, they are few and far in between all the many others, but, it's their very strong traits and presence of kindness, acceptance, intelligence, patience, self awareness, truth and honesty, uniqueness, depth, care and consideration, respect for themselves and others, and their communicative skills that make them oh so very worth the wait, however long that may be.
i mean, c'mon; aren't all the really good souls, those honest and true people, that are so invaluable that they impart the most beautiful and completely indescribable impact on our very selves, no matter their gender?! | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:42:20 PM | Agree softEDGE...
I personally am not threatened in the least by a well educated and independent women. They know what they want, have their own interests, and conversation isn't a strain... As long as you compliment eachother, whats the problem?  | |
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| Why do men resent condescending instruction?
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:50:23 PM | Interesting change of subject headline.
Also true.
In a relationship, there exists a need. Co-dependency, perhaps. Nothing in a relationship should be black & white. There must always be room for shades of grey. Give-and-take.
If a woman is strong and self-sufficient, it can be a wonderful thing. It can also suck.
Perhaps some men are threatened by a strong woman because they are not convinced she will ever really need them, can toss them out like yesterday's news.
Cultivate the relationship. From your tone, it sounds like you might demand, even command, men to behave as you expect or it's a deal-breaker.
Many men do not want to be treated as the family pet.
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 4:53:35 PM | I am not threatend by them, I encourage it, Help me pay the damn Rent....You might be cute, but not THAT cute...but I hate the ones that rub it in your face, that always play that card
whenever an argument comes up..."I'm an Independent WOMAN!!!!"
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:17:28 PM | | I must applaud such a well thought out and complete reply. This woman does show the worst qualities that she complains about in certain men. A major effort to make pre-judgement a part of any relationship does not bode well for anybody in it.; | |
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| Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman???
Posted: 5/20/2006 5:27:36 PM | Why do men resent condescending instruction ?!? … this is a joke, right ? Wow. This post is going to be very difficult for me to stay ‘nice’.
First … independent, educated men are NOT threatened by independent, educated women – in fact you’ll find, often that is whom they choose as mates. Uneducated are always resentful of educated. Poor resent the wealthy. Famine-ravaged resent the well-fed. It is human nature to fear, resent and sometimes loathe those that we feel are ‘above’ us, unfortunately. It would seem sensible to me for ‘like’ to be with ‘like’ then further training and instruction would not be necessary. Let the lowly serfs peacefully enjoy their second-classitude (that is a word, right?).
And as to: “… many men are 'threatened' by my intelligence and blunt way of educating them on the finer art of romance, love, and equality that MUST be in every relationship …” – as an ‘educated’ individual, I would think you’d know better than to make statements like that, sanschele.
The problem here is not education, but attitude.
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