c7t1
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Joined: 9/17/2005
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/21/2006 9:31:54 PM | After reading some of the post from this thread "Profiles that have no pictures or are uncompleted” that I started; Are you really worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site? And if so why? Is it your self esteem, are you embarrassed that you are using a dating site or is it just your pride that is in question? Personally I couldn't care less who knows I am on this site. Do wish however I did get a few more responses though. I just figure our friends and families already know we are single and if they don’t wish us to try to use any means possible to find that special some one we to heck with them. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/21/2006 11:34:28 PM | I keep telling my daughters to keep me in mind - if they think of a nice female. They never do - I think somewhere in their brain they would be doing something wrong. The one is in nursing school and works as a nurse - she is no doubt around a few nice looking single nurses and yet - nothing.
Before my mom died last year - I use to tell her about stuff on these singles sites.
So .................. NOPE ............ I am not worried about anyone knowing I am on singles sites. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 2:22:03 AM | I reckon its pretty much the same as in other areas of life - the doubters and dissenters are usually the ones who havent tried and just listen to all the negative things other people say.
I just love the world wide communication thing and think it is only going to be used more and more in the future - will we ever find a way to uncover the inevitable phonies, who knows but just so long as we heed the warnings and are alert for the red flags why worry.
I actually quite like it when I find a 'disapprover' because I love the challenge of convincing them otherwise.
So, no, I dont worry at all - I quite happily bring it into conversations  | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 4:15:04 AM | | My family and friends know that I am on this site, I talk about it to them. No secert here. Do they approve or disapprove? I don't know they have never said one way or the other. Do I need their approval? No I don't. I don't care what thery think it is my life and I will live it any way I see fit. I have met a lot of great people on here male and female that I would not have met in any other way. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 4:54:27 AM | I don't care who knows I'm on dating sites. And I don't get it when someone says, "Oh, my colleagues might see me & that wouldn't be good." WHAT? If you're that embarrassed to be on a site then I don't want anything to do with you. Obviously you don't have a backbone and can't stand up for something "you" are doing. If you're ashamed of it, get the h-ell off.
Or another reason for no picture. YOU'RE MARRIED!! Or STILL DATING SOMEONE!! | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 5:13:53 AM |
how would they know we are here UNLESS they themselves are trolling?
Good point!
FROM LISTENING EXPERIENCE: At my former job, the b-itches would get together and go on dating sites LQQKING for people in the company, or anyone for that matter, just to make fun of them, cut them down, etc.
Of course THOSE women weren't married, weren't dating anyone and ugly as h-ell. So it obviously was a self esteem booster. You know how THOSE people are, they like to make fun of with hurting comments, or cut people down just to make themselves feel better.
WHERE ARE THESE KINDS OF PEOPLE FARMED? Their animals....down....right....mean!! The "ugly" society. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 6:01:35 AM | My friends, individuals from work, and family know. Every one of them had the same response. Not negative, not telling me not to, but protective. I've explained the differences to them about meeting someone online first, getting a chance to talk a bit as opposed to going to a bar. The risks involved is no different than walking down the street and talking to men, but I do have one person that knows where I'm going and who I'm meeting; and if I don't take some risk in my life I might as well stay home. After, they all have said they will pray I will find real love and to be careful... they just don't want to see me hurt.
What I've seen is that people understand times change and so will how you meet people. Not one of them thought a dating sites is for anyone desperate or can't find someone to be with... just another tool to try and find the right person to be with. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 10:29:27 AM | my family, friends and co-workers know that i am on a personals site. as a matter of fact, my daughter is also on POF and my son met his wife online. i also know several people who met their partners online. besides, i don't have any judgmental family, friends or co-workers (hahahaha).
quite a few ladies and gents in the building where i work are on personals sites. most people today lead almost a cloistered existence - work, home, work home, work home. it's very difficult to find friends and dates. most people in our age group have long since given up the bar scene. i consider it more dangerous to meet someone in the bar scene than online and, the truth be known, i really don't care what anyone else thinks about what i do. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 10:53:49 AM | Hell no, my children and friends know I am here. They admire my openness and think I am young at heart. Since I may still live for another 20 years they encourage me to find that significant one to keep me company. But I told them I come here primarily for the Forums.....
People in Chinatown may find me here and may think differently than my friends and family, but since I have a sound reputation in the community, that may give them the influence that on-line Dating Sites is nothing that horrible. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 5:06:12 PM | | My family & friends are only worried about my safety. While on another major cyber site I was approached in a bar not once, but twice, by my screen name. I was horrified. Yes, I know we're putting ourselves "out there" but it felt like an invasion of privacy because they could ID me but I had no idea who they might be. Come to think of it, I've had two guys I thought I'd met randomly who used a phrase I'd used in my profile. Creepy. | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/22/2006 6:10:46 PM | My family and friends are the ones that encouraged me to do this. I guess they figure
I've been on my own far too long and its about time to put myself out there. That doesn't sound quite right does it? Never mind you guys know what I mean. I talk about some of
the people and experiences from this site all the time. Now a co-worker is in the process
of creating a profile and my neice is here as well. I've heard lots of good things from people
who have met their significant other from dating sites that why I thought I would give it
a try. Like I said on another post, I have already made a few friends and hey, nothing wrong
with that. Who knows......... | |
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| Are you worried about family and friends knowing you are on this site?
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:21:43 AM | No, not now...My son was the one who started putting me on here...him and his friends were messing with the computer one nite and said they were going to do it...I just laughed until I saw that they really were doing it...and he said if I didn't fill out the questions, that he would put some real funny stuff in...well, to make a long story short I told him I wasn't doing it...so he did...I had to go back in and change the whole thing...what a riot tho...I laughed so hard at the stuff he put on here...so no, I am not worried about what friends or family say...they all know me and how I am anyway...and my profile is who I am...so don't be afraid to put yourselves on here...and anyway...if someone does say something to you negative...tell them they are not you...and Smile a big Smile when saying it too...makes them guess what the heck you mean...
~Micheline~ | |
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