| She asks: "What do you hope to find?"
Posted: 5/23/2006 7:59:59 PM | Seemed like a fairly straight forward question she asked. However, being sort of horny at the time, my first reaction was to answer, "Well, I certainly like orgasms..."
I don't think that was the sort of answer she was looking for.
Sooo, after some back and forth, I asked her the following:
When you lob that question --- "What do you hope to find?" --- what would be the ideal response, from your standpoint, a guy could give you?
Now, my fellow forummers, I turn the question to you. What sort of response would you give, or expect to receive??
Thanks,
Nicholas | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:32:58 PM | ... as all who wander are not lost ,
... all who search are not seeking
I read that in a bathroom stall at a Greyhound bus station ( 1972 I think ) | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:53:11 PM | 70's graffiti?
Save Soviet Jews!
(win valuable prizes)
When I have been asked that question, what do I hope to find, or any other dating interview question, I know the woman has just finished reading a book or article with advice about what questions to ask. This alerts me to the fact we are a poor match. I make something up. I might say, I hope to find a sex-starved woman so distraught by guilt over her unrelenting fantasies she is willing to escape into a frenzy of lust until claiming the oblivion of exhaustion. Or I might say, I hope to see you again sometime under different circumstances (as I rise to leave). | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/23/2006 9:10:37 PM | "Someone to show up at my funeral"
Seriously though, I"d say "Someone to share and enjoy the rest of my life with"
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/23/2006 9:29:44 PM | What answer would I give?......the truth
What answer would I expect?......the truth
Might as well state what you're looking for....if it's the same thing then off you go...if it isn't then don't waste my time and I won't waste yours.
I was actually just IM'd and the guy did ask me that very question....told him the truth and it wasn't what he was looking for....no problem for either of us. I wished him well....he said the same and he was off on his search....total time spent....3 minutes. Well worth the honesty on both parts. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 3:19:48 AM | | I'd honestly have to say that I'd hope for the best, one day at a time. We cannot foresee what life has in store for us tomorrow. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:34:40 AM | .
When a gal I do not yet know well asks silly social worker technician level questions like that with me, they may get a little surprise in my humorous and (a bit) capricious answers. For instance:
Q: “What Do you expect to find?”
A: “A wild and memorable weekend sharing fun and passion with someone nice. A weekend that, hopefully, becomes a strong foundation for a good long-term relationship to follow.”
Of course, I would then expect a moment’s silence. . . .
Because, those who do not catch on will immediately think I’m one of those “just looking for sex” type guys and go away -- in which case, I’ll know that she takes herself way too seriously for me.
But for those who are quick enough to catch on, there will be a little laugh, then a funny parry, and I’ll know there will be a pleasant blush on her face cause I turned things around on her and captured her interest.
And that’s the way it goes with me. Ask a silly opened-ended question of me and the quip returned will be whatever comes to mind that will raise the bar to a more interesting level of foolishness. Because, if they try to test me with word games, they’ll soon learn that I can be quite adept at playing.
Sometimes that can be great fun. Such a discussion quickly shows both parties that the other has a quick mind. When not pushed too far, it can be the prologue to a very interesting relationship. It also helps to quickly separate the wheat from the chaff.
I would never play such games unless she started it, though. That’s because not everyone will instantly understand what is happening. And if they don’t get it instantly, I could come off looking rather brash and squelch any interest that may be there.
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:00:33 AM | Oh, jeez, what's so hard about that question?
For me it's simple: "Someone I get along with".
I have had too many quarrelsome people in my life. Been there, done that, got enough t-shirts to last a lifetime. I just want someone that is easy-going and mellow, and as willing to accomodate and compromise as I am. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 9:24:58 AM | [qote] I just want someone that is easy-going and mellow, and as willing to accomodate and compromise as I am.
Gotta agree with that one - I want some one I can kick back with, relax with, and go on holidays with | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 11:18:59 AM |
... as all who wander are not lost ,
... all who search are not seeking
I read that in a bathroom stall at a Greyhound bus station ( 1972 I think )
You might have had a JRR Tolkien fan for a graffitti-ist (is that a word? lol).
Here's the whole of it, with my own notes:
All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
(referring to the nomadic Rangers of which Aragorn was a member)
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
(This refers to the sword "Narsil," broken when used against Sauron)
The crownless again shall be king.
(Prophecy of Aragorn's ascent to the throne of Gondor)
And yes, I am a massive LOTR geek!  | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 12:53:16 PM | ... the nice thing about getting one's culture and literary fill from bathroom walls and stalls is ... the time saving factor . Killing two birds with a single toss is like money in the bank .
On the other hand , nobody has to worry about an empty towel dispenser at the local library or Borders store . | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:14:17 PM | I will temporarily put my self proclaimed humor aside for a moment and answer this.
I just want to be loved and accepted by a man for who I am. Not an easy thing to do. Today, I realized just how different and complicated I am perceived to be. This morning a girl I knew from work was walking with me, and from that short walk there were store workers to homeless saying Hi, have a great day Cheryl. She made a few comments about it. I said, I talk with them all, I walk to my own drummer. She looked at me and said, dang Cheryl... you don't have your own drummer, you have an entire band. Funny lady! Yet, when I told others who also knew me well, they all agreed... although they said they luv me anyway 
Maybe that is why I won't find what I'm looking for, most men don't like complicated. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 5:43:30 PM | Well, forummees, the woman I spoke of answered my question as to the ideal response she would have liked to receive.....
"Someone jus like you!"
Awwwwwww.... What a great response that would have been.
What can I say?? Here I was just thinking about myself, and had told her that I was looking for a few nice orgasms. Her response brings a little tear to my eye. I feel like such a heel.
Thanks to all of you for the input.
Nicholas | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 6:19:36 PM | Us guys have to be wide awake for questions. Often *****OFTEN***** the questions are designed to set us up.
I had a gal over for dinner (three years ago - I have had no one over since then). We had a nice dinner and enjoyed talking for several hours. She mentioned she was avid about losing 20 pounds. I had never said a word about anything weigh/size. She was a pretty girl.
We talked about what people called their body shape on the net - all the average body sizes that can mean ANYTHING and so on. I lifted up my shirt and said what should I be listed - here eyes bugged some (I have no idea why not much blubber but no six pack) she said “Athletic”
The VERY NEXT DAY online she said “would I look good if I lost 20 lbs?) - remember she had been driving that point home to me (without me saying a word about anything). I said “sure” .......................
SHE JUMPED MY AZZ .................................. I gave the wrong answer - I was suppose to say - “you look great NOW”. I stopped talking to her - I don’t like trick questions that I may answer different than they want me to. Not to mention I RUN from drama queens. | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/24/2006 7:06:39 PM | Trick questions.... women like putting guys on the spot, lol
I dont tell right away what I am looking for or they moght run thinking I am a nut.
But I have been into metaphysics for most of my life and am looking for some one that has been out of there body and has there 3rd eye open. But the ones I do find are so fanitical about it I cant handle it, lol.....God mellow out and go with the flow | |
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| She asks: What do you hope to find?
Posted: 5/25/2006 6:38:20 AM |
Yourgirl, looks like you're a Frazetta fan as well.
Very much so! My dad collected all the CONAN books and numerous others with Frazetta covers, so I've been familar with his work since I was a youngster. Just love his style! A kewpie doll for the observant guy! Or at least a dancing banana... | |
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