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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/26/2006 6:40:01 PM | I took care of my father for four years after my mother died...he didn't need constant care, but kept ending up back in the hospital. I lived 35 miles away, went over there on an average of four times a week. Sometimes spending the night.
My husband was a saint about how often I was gone, and how much energy it took out of me. There simply aren't any other choices if you're an only child. My parents would have done anything for me....I did everything I could for them. Other things must go on hold for a while.
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/26/2006 8:45:13 PM | I TOO TAKE CARE OF MY MOTHER. IF SOMEONE WON"T TALK TO YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR FAMILY LEAVE EM ALONE. BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER AND FAMILY IS TOPS WITH ME NOT TOO SURE THESE WOMEN ON THIS FORUM ARE BEING HONEST TIL THEY WALK A MILE IN OUR SHOES? HERE'S to you KREKKER 50  | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 12:52:38 AM | I'm not actually taking care of my Mother, but, I do spend a lot of time with her since my father passed away (last year). My brother lives south of town, and is tied up most of the time with his family and house-work. My sister has a much-older husband in poor health that she takes care of. I have a home around the block from my mother's apartment, she doesn't drive (never has), and she's a FUN person. We go to my friends' homes and play cards, etc. A couple of times a year, we go to a casino. My sister takes her to the grocery store on fridays....anything else she needs, she calls me to take her to get.
Like so many others have said, if this interferes with a potential relationship, Ph-u-ck 'em, they're not worth my time. | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 4:11:36 AM | | Hello Krekker, clap your hands.. stomp your feet .. and go on . it,s their lost .. if you would take care of your elderly parents.. or any elderly family member .. a wise women would reconize that you would not only fully care for her . but take care of her also as she age........ Pity the foolish woman . that passed on you!!! Best wishes!!! | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 6:36:13 AM | | It wouldn't be a cut and dried Yes or No. As with most things, it would Depend. Is there time to build a relationship with that person, for instance? If they are too often unavailable, the relationship wouldn't work very well. If they are heavily involved with a parent, then they probably aren't seriously looking for a relationship anyway, or possibly not able to give reasonable attention to it. It's like dating someone with children - a lot depends on the circumstances in each individual situation. It is very easy to feel neglected or pressured depending on which side of the situation you're in. Sometimes it is just an immature perception - but sometimes it is real. | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 8:49:14 AM | | My mom passed away last summer and I have been taking care of my dad..he didn't even know how to write a check...at some point if your a caring individual you will take care of a parent at some degree...Be glad that you found this out early on...I would imagine this person wouldn't be there for you if you became ill... | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 9:59:46 AM | You just bet I'd date someone who was helping one or both of his parents . . . And I'd get my sleeves rolled up and be in there helping any way I could too.
Would be so nice if we were able to get some time to ourselves too tho | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 11:35:13 AM | | I am taking care of my mom now. I can understand someone not wishing to start a relationship in this situation as takes away a lot of free time. It is also hard to give the needed attention to developing a relationship. | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 7:31:58 PM | | i think looking after an elder parent is every childs duty, who could ever trust a friend if they could turn away from a family member who needed them, besides were all getting up there in age and you dont have to be 70 to need home care,,touch wood | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 8:10:21 PM |
I took care of my mother and the women I talked to online when they found out they just stoped talking to me. What are your thoughts on this?
I'll bet the didn't share their crayons in kindergarten either. That you were even willing to take care of a parent shows what a caring person you are. Seems a case of total selfishness or foolishness on their part. | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 8:24:13 PM | | Well ty for all your kind replys. Mom is gone now, I took care of her for 12 yrs. I was the hardest thing I have ever done, taking care of someone that has alzhimers. I have nothing but respect for thos that take care of family. too many send them off to a nurseing home. | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/27/2006 8:45:41 PM | I certainly would. As the other posters have pointed out such people have demonstrated that they are loyal, caring individuals. Those are certainly two of the qualities I would like to find in someone with whom I am considering establishing a relationship.
As for those women who blew off the relationship because you were taking care of a parent perhaps they just did not want to become involved in a relationship where they might be expected to take over the elder care if the relationship was successful. A not unreasonable concern given the historical view of the female role as being that of caregiver.
On the other hand they could have just been shallow @#$%&*s! | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/28/2006 1:14:54 PM | | I dont get that. I think a man who cares for his parent shows his love for them. I have three kids and dare say that when I cant care for myselft, they wouldnt. Kudos out the tailpipe to you, mister. I respect that very much!!!!! | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 5/28/2006 6:07:24 PM | | If someone did not care or date someone who was looking after their parents.... wouldn't you wonder about them??? Compassion, love and caring are important in a relationship. If someone has trouble with that.... why be with that person??? | |
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| Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent?
Posted: 6/20/2006 8:06:27 PM | I think it's honorable to take care of your parent(s) when they need you.
I lived a woman 4 years and helped take care of her disabled mom.
But I'm not going to date you! lol
I can imagine many reasons for their turning ignorant when you mention parents, but all the reasons I'm thinking of all seem too idiotic to mention. I'm sure someone will get insulted if I listed any, like shallow, self centered, dumb, ect. | |
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