| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/30/2006 11:21:40 PM | Hello All In P.O.F. Land!
I may speak for quite a few women/men who have been called off due to the fact of being parents. Is this true?
I was scrolling through the profiles online tonite... and aghast to find a Man's profile.. asking why is it some women should all have 3-4 children? I will not mention the name of the P.O.F. user. I was appaulled. Now.. I am a single parent.. I have one child... But; I feel the dating game has not only turned into how much your net worth is but also now how many children you have.
Let me know what your thoughts may be.
Interesting...
I will say this. Some People may go through life scrolling through their check list and ticking off their specifications of their desired mate.. In due time; that list grows shorter and before you know it; he/she is 60 yrs old and alone.
I have said enough; I am not jaded or angry. Just looking for some insite. Take Care and Happy Fishing in Winnipeg.
Ms Good Girl | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 12:16:59 AM | Hmmm....can you email the name of the user to me? I'm not sure I quite understand...
Was he saying that women SHOULD have 3-4 children? Or was he wondering why so many single moms had that many...? | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 12:56:05 AM | Dating is going to be more difficult if you have children. If they are living with you, depending on their ages you may need to get babysitters to go out. Then, for most people there is the decision as to when you introduce your date to your children. Then there is the awkwardness of when do they stay over.
If you only see your children once a week or so, then your dating will be worked round them.
And not everybody can deal with having to "fit in" round children. So for those people then they have the right to specify that they don't want to date people with children.
But the majority of people understand the difficulties that face single parents.
But as to whether to be on POF - for many it's going to be the one of the few opportunities they have to meet people.
If somebody suggests you shouldn't be here, ignore them and move onto somebody with not such a blinkered viewpoint. | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 4:56:35 AM | Depending on your age , its unlikely that most single people over 25/30 are gonna be child free..And whats the biggy about a prospective partner having children.We all have a past , marriages with 2/3/4/ children break up just like any other.The kids still however have two parents, in most cases, I personally love children .Maybe because i,ve a young outlook on life .I have a son , the single greatest achievement of my life. I,ve not been with his mum since he was 2 , but I,ve always been there .If a lady wouldn,t date me because of my son then ..So be it...And it has happened to me a long time ago.
As for me , I,ve no problem at all dating ladies with children...
And those that have are just depriving themselves of possibly a wonderful woman/mother/friend.... | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 5:55:01 AM | hey ms
for the most part, women in their thirties have children. guys in their thirties need to realize that. we are not on here looking for fathers for our children, my kids have a wonderful father. i'm on here for me.
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 7:46:09 AM | Yes, they do... But, some.. do not have children. I just feel that some single parents are being judged and overlooked due to the amount of children they may have. Its a free world.. I just find it uterally tasteless to put it out on your profile.
Good Girl | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 8:34:41 AM | I guess I am one of the girls on pof he was complaining about...I have 3 sons, and feel very blessed to have them! Yes, they all have the same father, we were together for nearly 13 years. I have yet to chat to anyone who judged me for having 3 sons, and most people are very accepting, so maybe you just read a guys profile who has (in my polite work tone) "less desirable personality" Maybe he was jilted for being moronic by a woman with more than one child and he is bitter LOL....damn....maybe it was me who did it too.... | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 10:42:43 AM | It's not wrong to be on POF or anywhere on this planet if you have children.
Why does one person's profile offend you to such an extent?
Who cares why anyone would have a problem dating someone with children.. that is their issue NOT the person who has children.
Try not to focus too much on the negative.... it's not healthy.
Have a great day!!! | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 5/31/2006 11:41:07 AM | Who knows if its right or wrong, got to think of yourself too. You are a package deal to put it blunt. In the same situation my son is first but there is a ballance. I wouldn't have a second date if I thought there were no feelings that the woman had no interst in knowing my child.
LG | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:34:14 AM | First of all- User should not have placed the profile name online! Reasons for suspension by mods. Secondly, men who do not date women with children- can keep their high and mighty attitude and go jump in the lake!
I personally, have never had a problem- Why? because I keep my children away from my pof friends! Also, I keep the pof friends that do not make my VIP list- from hearing about my kids.!
Hon, if the right guy comes along- you can have 15 children- it won't matter....
Sierra | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:39:55 AM | | I have been divorced for 3 years now, raising my 3 daughters full time--and I guess I've been blessed to date men that were actually MEN. Most of the men I have dated, and even had a few serious relationships with, were Fathers also, so there have been plenty of kids on outings with us. What I'm trying to say is, don't give up. Good ones are out there. | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/1/2006 9:17:01 AM | I have seen some people posting on PoF that do not like children. Period. Avoid them. They have the mindset that all people with children are 'Breeders', a very twisted way of looking at life, and a zealously bigoted point of view. If anyone used a similar racist-type term to describe a category of 'other' people, they would be quickly muzzled and exposed for the fanatic ding-a-lings they are.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion in this culture of free-speech. Avoid crackpots who don't like children or sharing, and you'll find the others who are warm, generous, caring and who don't view people with children as a scourge on the planet. (I'd like to know exactly WHO these bigots think is going to carry the tax burden for seniors' pensions, infrastructure, etc., in the future, when they are no longer capable of working and paying these taxes themselves!)
At the same time, those of us who have children must be mindful of our own preferences too, when we are looking for a mate. Are we only looking for someone who makes more than us, or who has no kids at home, or who is struggling because of child support and custody issues? We need not adopt the same prejudices towards our own kind that some childless people do. It would be seriously hypocritical, imo. No? | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/5/2006 6:39:46 PM | | I just flat out dont pay attention to the ignorant comments. It doesnt phase me because I dont let it get to me, and I dont waste my time wondering why they think that way. | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/5/2006 6:48:42 PM | | Same here... Ignore the stupidity. Nothing wrong with you being here. You are looking for what we are all seeking: unconditional love with someone who is mature enough to realize that they aren't 18 anymore and the only fun games to play are the video or board games you play with your kids! | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/7/2006 5:51:08 PM | hi to everone nice to be here. well to me it does not matter if they have kids cause kids are very special even if they are not yours. to me if i find some1 that has kids i will give them my attention, and as times goes on i will love em like my own, i deal with kids ever day since i drive school bus and i get along very well with them. thanks for listening. | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/7/2006 6:19:51 PM | | Well if you think it is bad here. You won't belive the one, so called, Christain site I was on. The guys were in there forties and expecting to only meet woman without kids. Not to mention some had kids and expected this. In this day and age with divorce. A woman could be left to raise several children. Are they expected to be alone? When there ex's can in some instances can be all over town? I say just like a lot of things in POF. So you like some you don't. Just remember there are " More fish in the sea" | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/8/2006 11:05:02 PM | | came across this thread and noticed on your profile op that you say prefer not to say and yet in social work. please enlighten those that question this choice[even if it is only me], myself, put over a decade into a stepchild just to see things go bad . details if you emaail me just be forwarned i do not holdback | |
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| Is it wrong to be on POF if you have children?
Posted: 6/10/2006 7:08:10 PM | | Hello ms good girl. I imagine there are men who don't want a ready made family and there are probably just as many who woudn't mind if women had kids. As for your question, it shouldn't matter how many kids you have if you are a pof member. You could go to the bar or some other event and get the same results from men. Just because you choose to look for someone here instead of the bar or where ever that is what you want to do. This site is for people looking to find someone and in a lot of cases, men and women will have kids. I hope I gave you some insite. | |
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