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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:20:46 PM | It depends....
Are you looking for someone that is financially secure so they aren't spending all ur money?
Are you wanting someone to take care of you.... financially so you don't have to work? | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:21:17 PM | | Not if you are more than capable of taking care of yourself. Wanting a 'stable' and 'secure' man is just one way to ensure your life is not full of stresses and I am not talking just finacially. If he is secure in his life/job he will be happier and so will you. | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:23:58 PM | I want someone that is secure financially and emotionally ..but no I don't want them so I wouldn't have to work..I enjoy working...but I would want them to take care of everything..including spoiling me  | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:24:08 PM | | I dont believe in the term golddigger. Any person that gets taken has only themselves to blame and no one else. Second Wanting to be cared for in a financial way at the begining is not good if that is what you mean. I allways help those I care about but you have to generally be self suffcient. | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:33:44 PM | but I would want them to take care of everything..including spoiling me
personally to me that sounds a little "golddigger"ish ... spoliing should be a treat, not expected ..
I think there is a difference between wanting a man that is financially secure for a) knowing that he is mature enough to handle his money, knowing you don't have to worry about him expecting you to support him, not having to worry about cuddling up next to him and the power going out cause he has not paid his bill ... those sorts of things ...... and b) to spend his money on you ...
if you are dating a man with money simply because he has money and you are expecting him to spoil you and pay for everything then yes you are a golddigger ...
if it just happens to be a perk in the relationship than you probably not ..
myself i could care less abotu someones financial situation .. i am too picky in all other areas to put another thing on the list :P | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:35:29 PM | Its just since I joined this site.when I chat with anyone..I ask .."so what do u do"? and I usually get 1 of 2 responses.."own my own business" which really tells me nothing..I would assume that its B.S...and the other is "management"..no one really is specific..is that because they are thinking that I am really asking " so how much money do you have"? LOL
Should I not ask??  | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:38:17 PM | yeah...this sounds a little gold-digger-esque to me.
and chances are you're asking the question because you've realized "holy crap! i'm a gold digger!".
imho, those are the lowest forms of life out there. women who want you for your car, your cash, or whatever else it is that you have to offer them materialistically. it's weak, and it shows a lack of stability on the gold-digger's part. | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:38:54 PM | a) knowing that he is mature enough to handle his money, knowing you don't have to worry about him expecting you to support him, not having to worry about cuddling up next to him and the power going out cause he has not paid his bill ... those sorts of things .
This is what I mean..I don't mean that I need a private jet or anything.. | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:44:02 PM | | yes but what if you met a man who took care of himself had all of his bills paid .. was finacially stable but wasen't willing to spoil you with his money or for that matter spend any money on you other than dinner and little things like that or for that matter made just enough to keep his head about water and keep himself aflost but didn't have a large spendable income, just enough to make life enjoyable .. would he still be an interest to you ... if you answer yes, no your prob not, but if you answer no then, yes you probably fall into gold digger category ... JMO | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:50:17 PM | yes he would still be an interest to me...thx 
and Brad 11..
and chances are you're asking the question because you've realized "holy crap! i'm a gold digger!"...."those are the lowest forms of life out there. .
Lil harsh ...geeesh..I was only asking a question not for insults.. | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:54:29 PM | Well OP I wouldnt worry bout it too much, unless this thread gets deleted, by tomorrow these posts of yours will show up on your profile any way. All the guys that view your profile will know exactly where you stand on this issue and know exactly what you expect.  | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:56:54 PM | Thanks for pointing that out Becky..now if isn't deleted ..than its great that it will be in my profile..and that men will know where I stand..then all the broke losers that still live with their parents will leave me alone LOL | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 3:57:12 PM | Are you looking for a partner or to become a "dependant" ???
That is the question...
There is a BIG difference between looking for someone who will "care for you" ... and looking for someone "to take care of you" | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 4:02:01 PM | | A lady asks how much money I make and I'm gone. My goal has and is to find a lady I enjoy. Not to find a person to take care of. I've had VERY few woman ask me how much I make (out of the hundreds I've chatted with I think 2 have asked me how much I make). Asking a man how much he makes, in my opinion, is like asking a woman if she swallows. Rude and not something you need to know untill you've met and connected with the person. Asking a person what type of work and IF they work is ok at the early stage. This from a guy that lists "management". lmao | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 4:03:28 PM |
There is a BIG difference between looking for someone who will "care for you" ... and looking for someone "to take care of you"
i wrote the EXACT same thing in my initial post and then deleted it because it just didn't fit my theme :P ...
glad someone else was thinking the same thing !!!! | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 4:05:22 PM | | I do not wish to become a dependant ..just want someone who is secure...and I have never asked a guy how much he makes...but just what he does..but I would agree that if that question was asked I would run to "management" LOL | |
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Sarahv
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 5:11:21 PM | | This is silly , If a man has money I look at him and think he's got his shit together. It's always been the poor guys that fuk better though ? why is that ? are they trying harder? my bad. | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:13:38 PM | What ever happened to two people meeting... falling in love... and building a life "together"... now its always about finances... shesh.
Would you rather have a) a medium income artist husband who loves his work and comes home with excitement and joy daily..
or b) a high income executive that works 80 hours a week but can afford to toot you around in a brand new jag and a luis vouton purse...
I had a relationship end due to me not being "financially stable" which meant that the guy she ended up marrying (8 months later) already owned a house and had a decent job...
Her money is for fun...his money is to "support the family"
Good riddance... | |
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Sarahv
| | Joined: 1/29/2006
Msg: 23 | |
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| Does wanting to be cared for make you a golddigger?
Posted: 6/1/2006 8:24:43 PM |
your 30 and don't already own a house ? You spent all your money on paints didn't you ? bad boy !!
Actually i've been very generous to many women in my life... *cough* golddiggers... call it naive but i've learned now where to tell the women who are overly concerned about your finances to go..
How about I find a women to "care for me".... I do very well... high level position in one of the largest companies in the world... but that shouldn't matter to my potential partner... because as we all know... circumstances change in an instant... the last thing I need is a woman taking the high road when the going gets tuff because i'm not "caring" for her. haha | |
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