| | I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out Page 1 of 1 | All of my friends seem to date guys that want there girl friend to go everywhere with them. To a friends party, camping with his friends, to an event with his friends.
So the girl always has to choose better the guy and her friends. I myself always say hey lets all get together the more the merrier.
I mean if your friends are going camping than lets all go camping.
I myself say everyone should get together. But the guys seem to want to keep everything seperate and tear their girlfriend apart.
Why is everyone one not into the more people the more fun. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:13:14 PM | I always thought it was a good thing if a man wanted me to go everywhere with him... I would never forget about my friends though and if they felt neglected, then I would skip a few events with the man to catch up with the girls. He would understand if he was at all a reasonable person.
I know what you mean though... lots of women forget who their friends are when they find boyfriends. It's a bummer - I lost a few friends that way already. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/5/2006 4:02:34 AM | | I think it's only appropriate to include your bf/gf in your everyday activites - if one should choose not to join, then that would be a decision to be made based on amount of time spent together and the activity to be attended. If my bf/gf did not ask me to attend something that I felt I should have been included in, then I would be extremely hurt. I would also question thier commitment to making me a part of thier life. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/5/2006 4:08:00 AM | | guys not wanting to hang out with their girlfriends friends? ugh u this is kinda dumb because i think its a great thing. u don't want your boyfriend flirting with your female friends infront of u. or maybe your the kind of chic that would be into that sort of thing, if so i feel for ya. u should take it as a compliment as a guys nice lil way of saying 'its ok hunny i like u enough to not let u witness me trying to get in your friends pants, i've save that for the next night that u work late.' | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/5/2006 4:23:54 AM | | I firmly believe that every couple needs their "own space" at times...Sure it is great to be together, spend time doing things you like. But there also needs to be some time spent with your friends doing what you used to do before you met your partner..I believe it is part of what makes a healthy relationship. To me, someone who insists on spending our every waking moment together, signifies an insecure person.... | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/5/2006 7:19:47 AM | ^^^^Yup Kit your right on .....I agree. Just because we have a significant other in our lives is no reason to give up all the other things we like to do. I intend to keep my life as it is now. He can do his thing once in a while and I can do my thing once in a while. It makes for a healthy relationship and brings new conversations and ideas into a relationship. Less boring that way. People need to compliment each others lives, not complcate them.  | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/5/2006 7:20:30 AM | If your man doesn't want you around whenever he goes out, he is up to no good...lol
That said, everyone needs time and space to themselves, or with thier friends. I always want my lady to be with me. More time with her is always a good thing. But honestly, not all girls are that enthused about a bunch of guys getting together and having a few beers watching the hockey game, or the NASCAR race. But the invitation should always be open. Just as I don't get the same rush that the lassies do when they go out to the patio for tea, daquiries and a salad and gab for hours.
So yeah, if your partner doesn't want to show you off, or just have you near most of the time, that's a bad thing. But everything in moderation, I want a partner, not a shadow...
JMHO | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/5/2006 9:19:41 AM | This post is not about the guy not wanting his girlfriend around. But if the boyfriend is going camping with a group of friends and asks his girlfriend to go along. Than what is wrong with him saying hey invite your other friend with you if they are not doing anything.
I mean also sometimes it is a friend and a boyfriend.
I understand that couples need there own time. But if they are hanging out with his friends than it isn't really couple time.
I understand if you are going to a wedding or something than and extra invation cannot be extended to. But a camping trip, going to wonderland whatever it may be. Why can't everyone just be friends. I know in the past with my other friends. My boyfriends friends and their boyfriends friends all hung out with each other and they didn't know each other before.
I am all for sharing my friends. Don't they say life is all about networking. So sharing your friends is a form of networking.
So why don't guys want the extra girl along,. Or girl and guy if the girl has a boyfriend.
Like I said the more the merrier. | |
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| why is more the merrier not a good thing
Posted: 6/12/2006 10:47:40 AM | I have seen many friends meet a guy, start dating and then spend every minute they can together. FORGETTING that if things were to not work out, it's their friends who are gonna be standing there beside them, wiping away their tears.
I believe that you have to balance it out between them and also allow the time for just you. I have NEVER been one to turn my back on my friends for a guy. I don't care how much I enjoy my time with him, I always make sure I have my time with my friends also. I think it's healthy for a couple to also know when to spend time apart from each other. I personally am NOT a fan of hemroids and I don't want my man acting like one.
If I start catching on that my man doesn't want my friends around AT ALL than I will have to give him the ultimatum.....Accept my friends as my friends or lose my number. My friends and family mean the world to me and i'll NEVER let a man come before them. If I notice myself spending more and more time with my man and it's been a while since i've seen the girls than i'll arrange a Girls Night Out. I know how it feels to be pushed to the side for a guy, i'll never put my friends through the same thing. If my man can't accept that, than he knows where the door is. I don't expect him to be bestfriends with my friends because he has his own friends but I do expect him to accept the fact that they are like family to me and i'll never push them to the side.
A major turn on for me is a guy who is willing to invite my friends once in a while also to prove to me that he sees that my friends are a part of me. A turn off would be a guy who gets a lil'too friendly with my friends. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/12/2006 11:03:33 AM | When I first met my ex, I brought him everywhere with me. I took him to my friends b-day parties, sleep overs, cottages, etc. When I moved in with him, I was too far from my friends, so I went everywhere with him & his friends...
Right now I'm making plans to go out with my friend (& her friends) to the bar & my b/f will be coming. I'm also going to the zoo with a bunch of girls from NY, USA & On & my b/f is coming to that aswell. He currently doesn't have anyfriends (they were all bad, so he ditched them), so I hang out with him & his family. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/12/2006 12:00:20 PM | Yes but if you have someone around with you the girl doesn't get anoyed with you that they arn't included with the confo.
The prob isn't that they don't invite there girlfriend as they do. The guy will plan a camping trip with his friend and invite his girlfriend with him. But not invite her friend that likes camping.
I mean I look for a guy that if we plan a camping weekend I can invite my friends with us.
I mean I do get the fact that yes some time you want alone time or whatever but if you are going with the guys friends it sure isn't that. It is all about going out and having fun. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/13/2006 6:42:11 PM | Maybe your friends are douchebags?
That's my word of the month. It sounds nice, but I think it far more insulting than the usual array of insults one tosses out to indicate less than satisfactory people. Think about it. It's just fun to say too.
Let's not be too over analytical about this either. Sure there are arguments about primal instinincts, and inclusion, but the bottom line is that you are arm candy for him to show off to his friends. This spans all the way from "Hey look, I'm not a total loser, I'm getting laid now too!" to "Look at the hottest piece of ass I could find on the interweb!" You are there to boost his ego, and social standing amongst his friends.
To give you any indication he views you as a real person by meeting your friends would be detrimental to his ability to seamless and guiltlessly stop calling when he tires of your incessent chattering, general social insecurities, and that wierd mole that vaguely resembles Mickey Mouse on your upper back. He needs to be able to move on to the next one he can find without having to worry about the possibility of running into crossovers or accidental overlaps. If he never meets your friends, they're still fair game!
This post is made in parody. No animals were harmed in it's writing. It is based on a true story. | |
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| I have a question. Why is it that guys don't want there girlfriends friends to hang out
Posted: 6/13/2006 7:38:48 PM | Well it isn't that I haven't meet her boyfriend they have been together for over 2 years now. It is just that he seems to plan alot of stuff with his friends and never extends the invo to me.
Where as when I am doing something. Or even when I ask my best friend to do something. Weather I want her to or not she always invites her man out. Not that I mind. I just don't get why the invo doesn't go both ways.
Hell being the person I am I would just say hey we are going camping this weekend with so and so friends want to come.
I wouldn't even wait to be told to ask them | |
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