| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:31:09 AM | | So I tried to take the advice of people from another forum about at least emailing someone back and saying you arent interested instead of just deleting their messages. (At least for most I try to but its hard to reply to every message so bare with me if you're one i didnt reply to). Anyways, so this guy I talked to once about 3 months ago when I first joined emailed me saying he wanted to talk again but i emailed him back saying I just didnt think he was my type and he constantly keeps emailing me being very persistant about giving him my number or calling him but he just doesnt get it! He emailed me five times in a matter of 30 minutes...what should I do? I politely told him I wasnt interested (you guys got me into this mess! haha...if i had just deleted his first message like i usually do it wouldnt have started this whole constant emailing...haha jk) But advice would be helpful please, I dont want to be a b*tch but this guy just doesnt get the hint...no its not even hints..I told him flat out no thanks.... | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:35:02 AM | | Yeah, you replied. That was nicer than most guys get. If he doesn't get the hint, its up to him to figure it out, not you to hit him over the head with it. You did your part. Block him, ignore him, whatever. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:40:19 AM | | Do EXACTLY what everyone here is saying and DON'T give in. Unfortunately a lot of girls do end up giving in and giving the guy the number or whatever the guy is asking for. This is why SO many guys believe that persistence works, because it does and many girls will admit it. This guy is either stalker material or he's one of the many that has gotten a response from being persistent. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:43:08 AM | He's being a jerk, so don't worry about being a b*tch. You were polite - and most of us guys appreciate that.
For me, when I get a "thanks but no thanks note" I may send one more note - one that says "thanks for letting me know and good luck to you!" but, most of the time I'll just delete the email and move on, appreciating the fact that she let me know not to waste any time on something that won't work out.
So, please don't get discouraged and stop being nice to us menfolk.
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:43:48 AM | You've told him. More than once.
If he won't listen, block him. Delete his messages.
There's a fine line between being polite, and being a doormat.
I reply to every message I get. If I'm not interested, I say so.
But when women keep messaging me again and again... I won't stand for it.
I basically tell them that I'm not interested.
If they contact me again, I tell them again, and ask them to stop contacting me.
If they do it again, I just block them.
If they don't want to listen and respect my wishes, then too damn bad for them.
It's called harassment, and I'm not putting up with it.
And you shouldn't either. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:50:56 AM | Great that you replied with a thanks but no thanks.
Patient that you may have replied to anything after that.
Now its time to block.
Easy...
Don't give up on replies with "Thanks but no thanks" notes. They are appreciated much more than silence. I believe any normal person would have left it alone after the first No Thanks reply.
Good luck...
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:51:14 AM | Block Him, Block Him, Block Him
There is something wrong with a guy that doesn't understand NO.
If he's that bad on e-mail what would he be like in person.
BLOCK***BLOCK***BLOCK | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 11:58:12 AM | ^^^^ has it right. Block him before a pest becomes something worse. You have to wonder about guys that can't get it through their heads. No means NO people, she isnt playing hard to get, SHE is not interested.
So ya block, him report him for harrassment (dont know if that is availble on this site.. im still newish). But Block him no one needs that in their life. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/5/2006 12:37:56 PM | | Knowing that this topic has been covered many times before, I know for a fact that the people who were telling you to reply out of courtesy on the other forum were counter balanced by people telling you not to worry about it and that you don't have to respond to everyone. This is a perfect example of why there's no point responding if you aren't interested. For the women, it can become a nightmare. Don't let the bleeding hearts tell you to respond out of courtesy, from here on in, respond to those you like and screw the rest. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:57:16 AM | hi my name is andrew, i seen ur profile and for some reason the distance icon won't change for me so i can message you, anyways if u like to talk my user name is slad, petawawa ont.
hope to hear from u soon | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 9:15:31 AM | ker -BLOCK!!!
(Good of you to try and be civil though...I don't think the majority of guys would react this way) | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 9:22:49 AM | | I think to be polite is nice characteristic, however I don't think you need to be polite with people who disrespect you. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 9:27:06 AM | Send his stupid ass to me and I'll handle him.
Or just block him. Easy enough solution.
However one time I had someone pestering me and I blocked them. Then up popped an email from a newly created profile. Ah guess who it was? | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 9:44:09 AM | I'm sure he's an alright guy if he's pestering you this much, means he really digs you...
but you dont like that now do you...you probably like bad boys! Yeah!
Oh and I think it was noble of you to atleast tell him you were not interested.
It works with some guys, with some it does not. But it is still nice. I have told some women I am not interested but I dont do it in a nice way. I am mean, blunt, shallow, whatever you want to call it but that's life. Hahahaha | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 1:53:24 PM | | See the "Block" button?? Use it!!! If the psyco somehow gets around that or finds out where you live etc.. There are laws to protect you against this type of person. "Stalkers" are very sick and potentially dangerous people!!!! It is recommended that you have "zero" response to these people, no interaction what so ever. They interpret that as they still have a chance with you. Do a search on the internet and educate yourself about stalkers!!! | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 7:49:11 PM | I think you got the message about this dude! But just in case, go tell him to go _uck his hat!!!! BLOCK HIM. You cant be polite any longer, we are talking about your safty here, that's far more important than worring about hurting someones feelings! Be the **** you know you can be, be her for all of us!!! oh dear, think I've had one too many gin and tonics, it's the weather, just WAY to hot out. whew!
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 9:30:31 PM | we said to answer them if not interested as you have done... now just delete his mail. case closed. end of story.
move on to the next one. | |
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| I tried to be polite...now what?
Posted: 6/28/2006 10:26:06 PM | | Delete and block, you've been polite, you've tried over and over again to let him know that theres no interest. Now he wont let up. Time to tell him see ya. And block. Nothing more you can do. Save yourself the headache and aggravation. | |
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