| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/5/2006 10:21:45 PM | I just got back into a relationship after being single for a short while, and I've come to the conclusion that girls seem to be attracted to me when I'm involved with a person. When I'm single, I tend to make most of the efforts to meet a person and girls dont seem to come to me as much. Yet when I'm with a person, it seems the people I would have liked to get to know come to me when I'm not really available. Though certainly I favour being with the person I'm with , and therefore can not flirt and such, even if I did get to meet some new people...which would verge on kind of cheating if one pursued other people who also seemed personally interesting, which is why i don't, though if i were single i probably would...
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/5/2006 10:31:11 PM | | I must admit.that when I show up with a Lady, I seem to get flirted with more, have suggestive comments made to me more, have other ladies come on to me more (even leave me their number) more often, than if I show up solo. It must be a competetive thing or a test thing. But it happens a lot. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/5/2006 10:51:02 PM | | Because women want what they can't have. When I'm going out with a woman I really notice that other women tend to look my way alot more. Its strange to me in a way...Makes me feel worthless when I'm by myself, yet like a movie star when I'm not. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/6/2006 12:47:22 AM | You got it slightly ass about .
SOME (not many) girls (children really) are ONLY interested in you when you are taken. But they throw themselves at you so hard that they seem to be every last girl on the planet.
(It's a lousy analogy/comparision but girls take the same attitude to date rapists. Rape is such a savage crime that, although rapists are a, thankfully, extremely reare breed, the girls start to see them everywhere.)
Take a look at any pair of young kids fighitng over the swings in a park. An adult bustsup the fight and asks what it's about. They are fighting over the one swing when there are three identical swings available. "Why do you want that one" "Because she wants it" "And why do you want that one" "Because she wants it"
Children what what they can't have, be it swings, cigarettes, or married men. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/6/2006 12:49:20 AM | Theres another angle but it applies to married women.
If I'm chatting to a single women her guard is always up and she's always cranky. If she's married then the guards are down and she's pleasant company. She's not available for sex but she's still better company. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/6/2006 1:13:50 AM | Confidence... that is the number one reason. It doesn't matter if you have the woman you are seeing on your arm or not... the aire of confidence follows you around.
Since I started dateing my new girlfriend three weeks ago, not only do I turn women's heads, but they go out of their way to speak to me (in one case to drive 60 miles to meet me in person). Of course it's nice being Polyamorous in that I can actually see what may come of all the attention.. but with one exception none of them hold a candle to H my girlfriend. And really I'm more interested in finding another partner for my girlfriends husband with my new power... but really when we have a woman as good as H it's hard to find one who can turn our heads.
But yes it's all about your confidence... because the reverse starts happening the moment you start sensing problems in your relationship. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/6/2006 2:45:44 AM | It's funny how men are labelled "dogs", yet women throw themselves at men in marriages and committed relationships. Not that men aren't dogs at times, but the truth of the matter is, women are engaging in the activity too.
I would reccommend you take the moral high ground and "label" those women who attempt to run interference with your relationship. They're "dogs" | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/6/2006 5:51:57 AM | someone in a relationship whether they are male or female is generally happier than someone who is single
happy people who are all smiles and sunshine are more attractive and outgoing than miserable single grumpy people so they both get noticed more and are more likely to notice whats going oin around them rather than whats in the bottom of theyre glass or bottle!!! | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/23/2006 9:21:14 PM | See, when youre single i think people look way too hard. theyre searching for the ONE- the big kahuna. When youre with someone else its essentially the same thing happening....you just notice it in a different light! When im with someone im with them though- otherwise theres no point of being in a relationship....so i dont look/think/ anything to do with the opposite sex. If i like someone its not even an effort!
ok now im rambling :D | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/23/2006 9:46:18 PM | sailorfrank had the confidence part right... the rest is all a dream. 
we unintentionally make ourselves more approachable when we are with someone of the opposite sex, same sex if that's your thing... we smile more, we talk to people we wouldn't normally talk to, we dress nicer, look better, stand up straighter, and confidence sums it all up. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/23/2006 10:18:16 PM | I can answer this question quite simply. When you are with someone you are happy! You radiate with happiness and more than anything you are probably smiling. When men are out looking for women, they come from a place of desperation. They never seem happy but miserable. I know that when I'm looking for a mate, I sure don't want one that presents themselves as desperate or miserable either way.
The other answer is confidence and pride. When you are with a woman and you are out in the pack, so to say, men excrete this feeling of proudness of who they are with. All women want to be with a man that is proud to have her so women are attracted to that. It's just a simple secret in life that most people haven't figured out yet. It has absolutely nothing to do with women wanting something that they don't have, it's quite simply when men are with a woman they are happier beings.
If you don't believe me, consult the psychology books! | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 6/24/2006 12:29:23 AM | ?Confidence... that is the number one reason. It doesn't matter if you have the woman you are seeing on your arm or not... the aire of confidence follows you around.
Since I started dateing my new girlfriend three weeks ago, not only do I turn women's heads, but they go out of their way to speak to me (in one case to drive 60 miles to meet me in person). Of course it's nice being Polyamorous in that I can actually see what may come of all the attention.. but with one exception none of them hold a candle to H my girlfriend. And really I'm more interested in finding another partner for my girlfriends husband with my new power... but really when we have a woman as good as H it's hard to find one who can turn our heads.
But yes it's all about your confidence... because the reverse starts happening the moment you start sensing problems in your relationship."
Who knows if it's even a biological thing. Like maybe theres a different smell to people who are with someone. Maybe people can smell it on an intuitive level. Or something because to me that sounds really weird. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 7/23/2006 12:04:47 PM | It's a combination of confidence and "the glow."
When you're enamoured and not suffering you will smile more, your eyes will sparkle more, etc.
When you've got a good thing going you also have more confidence, or at least don't reek of desperation. I've always thought that women can smell it on men and find it a turn-off.
Lastly, I think there's a marketing principle involved here somewhere. You get an attractive partner and suddenly you're a commodity. If she wants you, then there must be something good about you. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 7/23/2006 12:17:31 PM | | I think that its because the girl r man u run into when u get a mate doesnt want a relationship wit u thats why u see a lot of married men and women gettin hit on its not u its the doggs thats out there lurkin thats why when u were single they didnt want u they did but it wouldnt be fun without a little competition. So if u r wit someone that is special to u throw the doggs a bone and keep it movin. | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 7/23/2006 12:46:13 PM | This is going to sound totally weird but I read in a science journal that if you are having sex on a regular basis, your pheremones change in a way that makes you MORE attractive to the opposite sex. I have no idea how much that has been researched or anything, but it's an interesting theory, if nothing else.
It would also explain why if I'm seeing someone I get hit on more, even early Saturday morning at the grocery wearing sweat pants and no makeup!!  | |
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| How come girls pay more attention to me when I'm not single?
Posted: 7/23/2006 2:37:59 PM | This is sooo true, which is unfortunate. But the reason I think this happens is because
you are acting yourself when you already have someone. You are less pushy, and more friendly in a platonic way. Girls love that, because they are so used to guys being so forward.
Its the opposite for guys though, single girls are much more attractive. | |
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