| | What are the Warning signs of a Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | We hear all the bad stuff...how about some good please? Warning signs of a good guy... Don't tell me you're all so jaded that you don't know when you have a good thing going?
Let's hear it!
Herv.
P.S. this is in response to RED FLAGS...Warning signs. | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 10:40:30 PM | | Well..as much as I appreciate the input...i did kinda say, its a rebuttle to "REd Flags...Warning signs"...shame how everyone can bash, but can't compliment...don't you think? | |
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Posted: 6/7/2006 10:53:31 PM | I'm with you there, it bites that everyone can bash but not compliment.
Ok - warning sign of a good guy - when you tell him you are thinking about buying a certain car and he goes and checks it out without telling you or you asking him. Thats one good sign. | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 10:54:56 PM | | Well, By looking at the votes, I think your thread will get deleted, I voted to save it. But to answer you original question. I have recently met a very nice woman, met her in late April. We've been on 3 dates so far, and I'm taking it slow. I hope it works out, am tired of being alone. | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 10:58:12 PM | If he talks to you in a respectful manner
He doesn't think of it as an inconvenience to drive to meet you
He doesn't push when you don't want to do something
He's consistant and keeps communication open | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 11:08:33 PM | A good guy-when he smiles his whole face lites up. When he speaks, it captures your attention.
A good guy is stoped in his track at the sight of a beauitful sunset or sunrise.
A good guy can laugh at himself at some of his most imbassing moments.
One who takes the time to pick a single wild flower because it reminded him of you.
A good guy can sense your tension and offers no words, but a single back rub instead.
A good guy wont hammer you with questions if you feel the need to cry, he'll just wrap his arms around you and tell you to go for it.
A good guy would give you his honest opinion on any subject, good or bad.
And a REALLY good guy, puts the seat down in your house, any other place is fair game, but in yours, he makes a point of it.
There is sooooooooo much more that make a good guy, but just a few off the top... | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 11:10:16 PM | some warning signs
 He laughs with you, and he can laugh at himself
he have good moral judgements
he emphasizes with others
he is able to tell you that he thinks you're wrong without acting superior when he feels that he's right.
if he have a particular talent that you do not, he will not brag about that in front of you or, especially, try to make you feel "less"
he will never belittle you
he will never try to limit you of your choices. i.e who you go out with tonight.
he will never, never, never even need to hint how good a man he is. Virtue need no assurance, need no agreement. Virtue comes from the inner beauty of a good man or woman, and nobody can take that beauty away.
But that beauty does take a lot of digging to discover, though. It's like a gold mine. 90% of the times you're not sure if your digging efforts will pay off, if you'll find the gold in that mine you're digging. If you didn't, move on to someone who might be Golden. | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 11:13:09 PM | When a gentleman answers the questions you present in an IM and contributes to the first telephone conversation you have, demonstrates an interest.
When he is not aggressive about getting your number and respects your wish to get to know him better via emails.
When he is not demanding about meeting immediately. I am offended with a message that says "call me at -------. Let's meet tonight".
When a gentleman has taken the time to put together more than five lines in his profile I feel he is serious about his attempts and not just cruising.
Someone who makes eye contact with you and can walk and talk at the same time after you have gotten your coffee.
If he is active and doesn't appear to be relying on someone to get him off his butt.
Some one who during an IM message doesn't answer his cell phone, etc. and is giving our messaging his priority.
Someone who calls when he says he will and then doesn't keep me on hold while he takes incoming calls.
Someone who is polite and friendly, not just to me but the people we come in contact with during our meeting.
Someone who is not ogling members of the opposite sex while we are having coffee.
There's a few examples. | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/7/2006 11:27:42 PM |
Posted by: "joker, the"
He laughs with you, and he can laugh at himself
he have good moral judgements
he emphasizes with others
he is able to tell you that he thinks you're wrong without acting superior when he feels that he's right.
if he have a particular talent that you do not, he will not brag about that in front of you or, especially, try to make you feel "less"
he will never belittle you
he will never try to limit you of your choices. i.e who you go out with tonight.
he will never, never, never even need to hint how good a man he is. Virtue need no assurance, need no agreement. Virtue comes from the inner beauty of a good man or woman, and nobody can take that beauty away.
But that beauty does take a lot of digging to discover, though. It's like a gold mine. 90% of the times you're not sure if your digging efforts will pay off, if you'll find the gold in that mine you're digging. If you didn't, move on to someone who might be Golden.
You are 19 and already know all this...???
Wow.....!!!.......................This is really impressive..!!!!
I know people who are two ices your age, some even older and still have no clue.
It seems that you are a good observer..! Congratulations..!!!
You have my respect mademoiselle..! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 4:36:35 AM | hello msg 1... beautiful looking man in that picture.
Red flags are not often things a man will say...
more often things he does... like being rude, inconsiderate,
irresponsible... or even wreckless in his behavior
concerning himself and others...
and when a woman says something to him about it... he does not
consider it a problem or blames her.
Those are amoung the most common type of red flag... and it is not
a verbal thing but often escalates into one when the woman confronts him
on his behavior.
When a good man says something.. his actions will follow his words
and there will be congruency between them.
How to tell the difference between a good man and a bad one?
Just wait and his true colors will show...
usually sooner than later.
This is why its not wise for a woman to unpack her bags too soon...
despite a man maybe being physically beautiful like the picture of the man
on msg one (very nice) ... or whatever he may say that sounds nice and lovable...
as that may not be the case at all... inside him... and it
makes it hard to repack and RUN !!!!
:)
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Posted: 6/8/2006 5:27:05 AM | Green Flags!!
Great thread idea!!
 (I am sure I will be repeating what many have already said, but here are my green flags)
Green Flag: Great sense of humour, has me laughing on the first date
Green Flag: Not too overly concerned about his appearance but is put together (I'm not a metrosexual fan)
Green Flag: Can have a conversation about current events
Green Flag: Shows evidence that he's done some inward thinking about his past relationships and his role in the successes and failures...
Green Flag: Occassionally plays the gentleman and opens doors, pulls out a chair, etc... but is also enough of a modern man to not freak if I get to the door first and open it for him!
Green Flag: Is physically active, not a couch potato.
Green Flag: PDA - but doesn't maul me in the mall
Green Flag: Great sex!!!!
Green Flag: Loves to dance almost as much as I do!!
Green Flag: Owns a suit and a couple of pairs of jeans... (yes, I know, cliche but important)
Green Flag: When we go out he interacts with people around him and treats the wait-staff well!!
Green Flag: Prefers the country to the city!
Green Flag: Thinks I'm fabulous!!! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 6:00:20 AM | Green Flags:
Loves animals....no, I don't mean that!
Smart
Funny
Politically INcorrect
Confident without arrogance
Fit ....and no, not 20 years ago
Unconventional | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/8/2006 6:11:35 AM |
~When a gentleman answers the questions you present in an IM and contributes to the first telephone conversation you have, demonstrates an interest.
~When he is not aggressive about getting your number and respects your wish to get to know him better via emails.
~When he is not demanding about meeting immediately. I am offended with a message that says "call me at -------. Let's meet tonight".
~When a gentleman has taken the time to put together more than five lines in his profile I feel he is serious about his attempts and not just cruising.
~Someone who makes eye contact with you and can walk and talk at the same time after you have gotten your coffee.
~If he is active and doesn't appear to be relying on someone to get him off his butt.
~Some one who during an IM message doesn't answer his cell phone, etc. and is giving our messaging his priority.
~Someone who calls when he says he will and then doesn't keep me on hold while he takes incoming calls.
~Someone who is polite and friendly, not just to me but the people we come in contact with during our meeting.
~Someone who is not ogling members of the opposite sex while we are having coffee.
^^^ Very well spoken Fiery and I totally agree... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 6:29:30 AM | GOOD GUY!
- good conversation
- supportive
- attentive
- sends sweet messages
- listens well
- helpful
- interested in your desires
- plus many more.....
....All the good stuff of life!!! | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/8/2006 6:48:59 AM | there "were" some nice pics on msg 1...
lol
I came back to look and they were gone !
a warning sign? hmmmmmm....
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Posted: 6/8/2006 1:35:22 PM | So let me see if I can get this right.
A good guy is pleasing to the eye and the eye of your closest friends (scrutiny) encourages your emotional wellbeing, improves your self confidence, treats you as an equal except when you want to be the boss, etc etc etc.
In determining this, these values are all based upon individual requirements by yourselves.
It therefore becomes the case that there can be no such thing as a good guy, because what you see as a good guy others may not.
So gents as its impossible to become a true all encompassing good guy, then its alright to have some bad boy traits?
Just a comment sorry!!
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Posted: 6/8/2006 3:42:58 PM | A good guy watch…..
· Who says what he means… means what he says
· Gives you the look across a crowded room….that says you are the only one he sees.
· Comes over for your home cooking….and he does the dishes
· Knows how to disagree….not fight.
· Treats you like a lady….and accepts being treated like a gentleman | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 3:56:12 PM | when dose a women know she has a great man, when she is so pleased that he dose not see any fault in him. When he can not find a single thing in her to complain about and he looks at her with love and admeration..
what are the signs. Well if you are with him for at least 3 yrs and you have never had a fight. or argument.. That is a great man.. This couple are the ones who are married for over 50yrs becouse they have learned that all the pitty shit is not worth it.. THEY KNOW ACCEPTANCE.
This is what is wrong with all of this society. they want a person they are not.
So the red flag is this. First it is the very first date if he is all over you.. get out of that relationship it is only for sex.
if he is polite and considerate and he holds your hand and opens your door and talks to you with loveing words and never corrects you and he starts to add you into his conversation..
Well when we have are next date.. We can go to the park and play freezbee..together would you like that.. this is a man too keep.. right off the bat he added you in his life.
Now for the men who are shy.. this is harder.. but it is his hand jesters that allow the women to take charge and allows her to lead.. then he will feel comfortabul enough to open up.. Then he also starts to add her into his life and conversations.
Last of least.. The wrning signs for all men and women if they are good or great. is they
When the date is over.. they cant wait untill the next date with that person.. Jewels.
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Posted: 6/8/2006 5:38:05 PM | He's smart and nothing he says is ever dull.. even when it is.
He's polite to the service staff wherever it is you've gone out.
He can talk about himself AND make you talk about yourself seamlessly. Effortlessly. Whichever. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 5:46:02 PM | Having recently been fortunate enough to meet a good guy I'd have to say:
willing to come see you often
wants to spend money taking you out
does things around the house with or for you
listens when you talk, doesn't stare at tv or your boobs and say, "uh huh"
brings flowers when he comes for dinner
offers to help you clean up after dinner
cooks you dinner or cooks with you | |
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| What are the Warning signs of a
Posted: 6/8/2006 5:51:18 PM | Small penis
Momma lives upstairs
Currently balding
Never married
and
Loves chicks flicks
* i think *  | |
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