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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 12:01:43 PM | | i would say only if you ask them to meet you somewhere they havent been or do an activity and they might not know if it a casual place or requires jacket and tie, or if you plan on walking or hiking and they need to plan for that. Unless they like the idea of "mommie picking out their clothes", and then i wouldnt be inclined to meet with them. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 12:07:11 PM | Hell NO!... you don't tell people what to wear!!!!
If you tell them what YOU are wearing, they should have a general idea as to what they should wear. If not.. *shrugs*.. does it really matter???
If you are embarrassed to be seen with that person, you shouldn't be going out in the first place. | |
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EZP
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Joined: 10/26/2005
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 12:13:54 PM | No. Let them dress themselves.
It's ok to suggest that you would, for example, like to see what someone looks like in a suit or in jeans and a t-shirt.
But to say they should wear this or that is not good. Almost seems like your trying to mold the person to your likes. And, that never works.
But also, if you are going somewhere fancy smancy, and you noticed that they have always dressed casual, even going to, say, church, and you are probably going to suprise them on the date, like, to the opera, then it's only fair to let them know the dress code. But don't "tell" them what to wear. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 12:18:36 PM | | No i am not dating my son. It was someone who wanted to meet me, and suggested i wear a dress or skirt! I dont consider it acceptable to choose someone else's code of dress, i just wondered what others thought. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 12:24:08 PM | | I think that's probably the best approach when your talking about what you both want to go do for your date.... that should pretty much dictate what is and isn't appropriate attire. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 1:58:42 PM | | OH my....it's totally inappropriate to tell your date what to wear. If he asks how to dress for where you are going, simply say..dressy, casual, very casual etc. Don't dress him though. That's nuts. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 1:59:52 PM | I would hope she had enough where-with-all to decide what she wanted to wear.
Be that as it may, preferences vary accordingly, so long as the two people involved are willing to negotiate the matter if it does come up. I see no problem with it. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 2:42:59 PM | | Unless you have bought tickets to a fancy dress ball - why would you want to dictate what your date wears - I date people for who they are not what I can make them. | |
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Joined: 5/7/2006
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 3:59:26 PM | | All the comments seem to mirror exactly what i was thinking. He invited me out to a pub, not even a restaurant, but thats by the by, it was intended to be a date between me and he. He asked me what i would be wearing? When i told him a trouser suit and top, he said he would have to cancel the date because he preferred his ladies to wear a skirt or summer dress!! This was before i had even met him. Well, i am glad he cancelled because i was wondering what he would ask me to change next, my hairstyle, my make-up, my weight etc etc. Some of my friends have suggested he had an ulterior motive, i.e. wandering hands which couldnt wander if i was wearing trousers. Hmmmm.i'm not sure about that one, but his behaviour had the making of being controlling, so i go onward and find someone who likes me as i am. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:14:50 PM | If you are taking them to a black-tie affair or a costume party or the beach, sure, let them know in advance the expected attire. Otherwise, it would just seem a little weird to me to dictate what they should wear.
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:40:55 PM | i have met a few people from dating sites and various blind dates......and the subject has come up a few times. If we both have a busy day and just want to meet for a quick drink or something, I've sometimes just said, "you know, keep it casual, just dress the way you feel is right for the day and just be you". I'm not too judgemental of a person based on the way they dress.....sometimes I really despise the whole "courting" process anyway when people are trying to impress each other, hide their flaws, dress in a way they aren't normally comfortable to look good on a date.....I'd rather see how a woman feels comfortable and will be after many dates than something they're not.
In this guy's defense though, if he was taking you to a very nice place that requires it, or if he was going to wear a suit and thought it was important that you both looked like you were dressed for the same occassion, I don't fault him for saying it. To me, I'd rather see how someone looks while they're comfortable. If he wants to always be spiffed up and you don't like that, you're better off knowing that right now than after you've gone out 4 or 5 times before it comes up. I don't blame someone for mentioning what's important to them, if that was the case. I know I would feel uncomfortable if I went on a date and she showed up in a fancy dress and I was wearing carpenter jeans and a polo shirt....and I would have wanted her to tell me about the dress if that was her intention. | |
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 7:54:03 PM | | Unless it was place you were unfamiliar with and you asked him for advice on what you should wear then OK - but otherwise I'd say definitely not OK to tell you what to wear . . . Makes it sound like he thinks you're an imbicile, in which case I wouldn't even turn up - I mean, you couldn't embarrass him if you weren't there, now - could you? | |
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| When going on a date with someone new..........
Posted: 6/8/2006 8:04:46 PM | I think letting someone know if they need to dress a specific way for whatever place or activity planned is just polite. For example if you plan to go somewhere upscale, a warning to dress up...or if you have a boat you want to take for a run, totally different clothing required.
However, beyond the TYPE of clothing that would make them most comfortable, I don't think anyone should tell their date what to wear. New or old. | |
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If they are f.cking old enough to date, I'd hope they'd have common sense on what to wear depending on what's happening on the date.
