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Posted: 6/8/2006 2:33:53 PM | Eye contact is one of your most powerful tools. Your eyes can do far more talking than your words. They can make a woman feel uneasy and excited, and women use it as a huge measure of your self-confidence. During a conversation with a woman, don't dart your eyes or look away too much, as it makes you look uncomfortable and nervous. Linger longer on her eyes than you would normally, almost as if your eyes stick to hers like soft glue. This kind of strong, long-lasting eye contact releases phenylethylamine (PEA), a chemical that accelerates attraction, particularly in women. Some call this the copulatory gaze because people who love each other not only make much more eye contact while talking, but they're also more hesitant to take their eyes off each other, even after they finish speaking. And when you do look away, look away reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly, as though they're stuck with soft glue. 
My question is, do you believe it & if not, why.  | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 3:08:08 PM | I don't know whether eye contact generates PEA(?). From what I see online it's ingested with chocolate and, yes, seems to affect women more than men (but chocolate is still yummy).
For me it seems to be more the depth of the gaze rather than the length. Looking directly into her eyes and directly into her pupils produces either a smile or she looks away. Staring too long may make her feel uncomfortable but staring frequently for increasing periods ... before you know it I'm staring into limpid pools ... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 3:13:54 PM | .
My question is, do you believe it & if not, why..
Sort of, yeah.
But, to hold eye contact too long could also be perceived unconsciously as a threat signal. So, it depends on how well you know the person. Staring directly into the eyes of someone you have recently met may not usually be a good idea. Therefore, there are a couple neat tricks that tend to overcome problems and actually make them feel comfortable with the instant togetherness:
Some say to make a triangle of the face. Look straight on into the eyes for a while, then focus on one eye, then the other, for a second. Even that can become bothersome to some people over time so, as a change to take what some may be the pressure of staring off, sometimes glance at the lips for a second. Hence, the triangle. I add in the center of the forehead, too, cause it seems more natural to me.
All this can “appear” consciously to the person that you are still looking into their eyes and you do not have shifty eyes (and are paying attention). Besides, looking eye to eye, and then back to both eyes, is actually perceived as a form of friendly flirting, while a direct stare for any length of time seldom is. That is why, when we laugh, we usually take our eyes off of the other person’s face for a moment, which helps to naturally make things more comfortable for them.
(Y’all ever want to get rid of someone pronto, laugh hard while still looking straight on into their eyes. They’ll be GONE, Gone, gone just as soon as they can invent an excuse to be out of there!) LOL
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Posted: 6/8/2006 4:54:40 PM | I know a man that spent so much time perfecting his 'gaze' that he attracted many women. He was a singer in a band and so had plenty of chances to perfect this gaze and took them all. Because he spent al his time perfecting the gaze he had many women to pick from. He married a woman that fell for the gaze and had 3 kids.
Over time, the gaze was not working any more and he lost his home and family.
He's tried the gaze since then and it only works on a few women for a small period of time.
I believe this behavior is natural when you know and are attracted to each other and happens automatically. If it is mimicked to enter into a relationship the relationship is on shaky grounds from the start. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 5:02:22 PM | "If it is mimicked to enter into a relationship the relationship is on shaky grounds from the start." - AGREED WHOLEHEARTEDLY  | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 6:35:54 PM |
Staring directly into the eyes of someone you have recently met may not usually be a good idea.
I have to agree wija there - a stare is never welcome | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 7:04:07 PM | I normally do this...not for the purpose you mentioned, but to read body langauge...mainly facial expressions. It speaks tons of how the opposite person is feeling at the moment.
Funny, never noticed I did this until it was mentioned on this thread. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 7:30:39 PM | escapee concentrate on the middle of her forehead and what ever you do , DON'T LOOK DOWN!!  | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 7:40:45 PM | | "Funny, never noticed I did this until it was mentioned on this thread." - YOU GO BOY | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 7:49:04 PM | | My ex always accused me of having bedroom eyes. is that what your talking about? | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 8:15:01 PM | ^^^ Bedroom eyes are great - I've been told that & I never looked at it as being "accused of" - interesting [depending on your perspective I guess]  | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 8:46:24 PM |
Personally I am a sucker for a man with a twinkle in his eye
I once had a Twinkie in my eye, having been in the wrong place at the wrong time during a food fight fracas.
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Posted: 6/8/2006 8:57:49 PM | Well horselady48;
Agree, agreee. My last SO-couldn't stop looking at her, while talking, not talking, when she slept. I was sooooo smitten. We really can see each others souls through our eyes.
Bedroom eyes; I know about that. When I was young all the girls would say I had bedroom eyes. Naturally droopy. Now that I am older, people say, "Oh, you look so tired or are you stoned?" Drives me a bit nuts sometimes. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2006 11:17:12 PM | | The "eyes" have it! I'm venturing into this discussion hoping that I won't get flack for being married. This very topic has a lot to do with the desire to date I'm currently experiencing. My husband rarely ever makes eye contact with me, much less engages in conversation. He's dependant on me in many ways so I won't leave, but... I can't take going without that attention any longer. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2006 10:33:39 AM | | Yes, but one comedian brought up a good point: When does that loving gaze turn into the stalkers stare? | |
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Posted: 6/9/2006 4:20:18 PM | | Yeah, people have read a lot of words in my eyes. lol, sometimes they even wonder if I'm still on earth. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2006 6:27:44 PM | Bedroom eyes are great
I thought bedroom eyes were when men wake up in the morning with an erection and there isn't enough skin left over to keep your eyelids shut. You wake up staring at the bedroom ceiling. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2006 8:41:05 PM | | Visually seeking the human face is an innate survival mechanism that is hard wired into the human brain at birth... even very young babies will focus on a basic diagram of a human face over anything else. Babies constantly seek to connect to their primary caregiver by looking directly into their face. If you watch the exchanges between a baby and his/her primary caregiver, you'll see that it's almost entirely a face to face interaction... it's a dance that is stunningly important to the development of the human brain including the capacity for helathy realtionships throughout life. If you were fortunate enough to have had a primary caregiver that did the dance well with you, you will be gifted with a natural ability to communicate with your eyes and you will be tolerant of someone making eye contact with you. If not, you will struggle to get it right and direct eye contact will often make you uncomfortable. If you make eye contact into a gimmick, as with many so many other forms of contrived human interaction, it'll feel and appear awkward and nobody except for the desperately lonely will buy it. On the other hand, it's something to watch for in a potential partner as a pretty good measure of their capacity for real intimacy. Gawd... when did I become the Discovery Channel??? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 8:56:03 AM | | How can you look her in the eyes when she has a great set of hooters staring at you just asking to be caressed, fondeled, & sucked? | |
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