| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 6:53:52 PM | | So If you met someone and fell in love with them and then the relationship progressed to very serious....etc.etc..and this person was slim when you met them but gained 50lbs or more would you still want to stay with them...I am just interested in what people think about this subject...I dont think there is a right or wrong answer..just opinions are interesting. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 6:56:30 PM | | Hell no! If they don't have enough respect for themselves to keep the weight off, then they don't deserve me! Al (your pal) | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 6:57:30 PM | | It would depend on the reason for the weight gain. To wit: If they had a medical condition, sure - but if they got lazy and sat on the couch all day eating McPigs and watching tv - that's indicative of a *bigger* problem. Clear as mud? | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 6:59:52 PM | | A lot of factors can contribute to weight gain...bottom line is, if you're shallow enough to break it off with someone simply because of THAT, you shouldn't be together in the first place. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:03:51 PM | | interesting..so you think if someone gains weight they are shallow?..and undeserving of you?..what makes them shallow? | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:04:29 PM | | sorry..i dont know what I am talking about..i mean what makes them not deserve you...duh for me | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:10:38 PM | Lol...that's a possibility where the woman's concerned, but what's the man's excuse?
Yeah, I'd still love that big tub o' lard.  | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 7:23:23 PM | | Weight gain or loss is of no issue. I don't understand why anyone would leave someone because of weight gain. It happens to everyone at some point in their lives. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:25:00 PM | It's not my fault, the rolo icecream made me do it. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:45:28 PM | | I wouldn't let them get THAT over weight before I said something. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 7:50:08 PM | my apologies to those who think this topic is redundent..i was just thinking of this subject and didn't look at all the other forums beforehand that also discussed this subject...far too many i suppose... | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 8:25:35 PM | Well according to me this thread isn't;t redundant!
I wouldn't have found this topic if you hadn't posted right in front of me!
But aside form that Weight gain wouldn't effect me. weight game to me = comfort & security.
But if there is some other reason I can guarantee it that I would revise the issue!
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 8:25:39 PM | | I would try and encourage them to be healthier... health is way more important than weight... if they are still healthy and just chubbier, I don't have a problem with it. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 8:41:28 PM | | op instead wondering how much weight they put on why dont you help the person and help them lose the weight, you thread tells me that you are more into the body image rather than the person themselves and this thread has been done what the same shit ass topic. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 8:56:19 PM | | There should be a limit to eating. Getting thin is not rocket science, all you need to do is eat less, exercise more and eat less. If you are comfortable eating more because your significant other makes you comfortable with being loathsomely fat by not making it an issue, eat more eat until you explode like the man in Monty Python: 'I couldn't possibly, well maybe just one more after dinner mint...' and see where that gets you. But let's face facts people, the person that bought, grovelled their way into your arms to start with didn't bargain for XXL when they thought L was fine to begin with, no they thought you took care of your appearance and wanted to stay your optimal trimness when you were single and unloved, and would continue to take care of yourself thereafter... | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 9:14:03 PM | Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but as people age, they put on weight. Of course there are those freaks of nature out there who lose pounds with each passing year, but they're a minority.
No one's body is going to be the same as it was...eventually we all disintegrate and lapse into hideously sagging beasts.
But let's face facts people, the person that bought, grovelled their way into your arms to start with didn't bargain for XXL when they thought L was fine to begin with, no they thought you took care of your appearance and wanted to stay your optimal trimness when you were single and unloved, and would continue to take care of yourself thereafter...
I'm going to tuck that away in my Hal scrapbook and pull it out every time you complain about me pinching your inevitable love handles. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 9:25:09 PM |
Getting thin is not rocket science, all you need to do is eat less, exercise more and eat less.
Not sure what you mean by 'thin', Hal, because there IS such a thing as metabolism. I for one, will NEVER be thin no matter how much I try. At best I could get bulked up and muscular, but I'd still be a fairly big guy. Right now I get quite a bit of exercise and eat far less than some of my thinner friends (some of whom don't exercise much at all). Yet I really don't slim down at all. But yeah, if I put on 80 lbs and wasn't attempting to lose it, that would be my fault. And if I did that (or rather, if I started to do that) I would hope my girl would encourage me to change my eating/exercise habits. I would do the same thing if she started gaining weight. If it's a medical condition? Well, there are worse things that can happen to a person than uncontrollable weight gain (cancer, loss of limbs, etc.) and I would be by her in those cases too (there's that whole "for better or worse" clause...) | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 9:28:19 PM | it really depends on the time frame, too. and 50 pounds doesn't just get "put on" all at once. If I was in a relationship with someone for 6 months, and they put on 50 pounds in that time frame, and rejected my offers to help motivate them to exercise and healthier eating, then I'd probably have to re-evaluate it. If it was a period of 20 years, then I probably wouldn't care as much.
Generally speaking, people don't go from fit to obese from unknown medical reasons and without overeating and under-exercising. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 9:35:56 PM | | If you love someone, I don't think it matters what they look like. Don't get me wrong you still have to be attracted to them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2006 9:36:07 PM | I think there are some things that are very understandable and are no issue...
Medical reasons are one... age also effects us in ways as cnote suggests. Someone is different at 50 than they are at 25, it's just the way it works.
Also, peoples lives can get busier as they age, and they've less time to be active and eat well... that happens regrettably.
Some weight is no issue.
A *significant* weight gain though... ?
I do think that there should probably be some real effort for a person to look after themselves in all respects.
If your S.O. suddenly started wearing sweatpants and a tshirt everyday... is thinking this is a little offputting shallow? (Certainly they have their place though ;) If they stop showering regularly? Brushing their hair? :p
There are lots of things we do every day with regards to our appearance. Weight is one aspect of many.
(While not the issue in all cases:
What does it say of someone else who is some particular weight only because they're looking for a mate, and once they find one they no longer have an interest in it? To me, that implies they thought their potential mate would have an appreciation for that effort on their part.
Does such a person stop doing all things that their partner appreciates after finding them? Surprises? Special Notes/Trips? Do all such things cease to matter? Is it petty to expect the same *interest*? )
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As others say though, if it happened, I would be interested in looking for physical things we could do together for a bit more exercise, looking at better eating habits, etc.
It would be something to try and be encouraging and helpful about... surely if this is someone you care for. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 9:38:50 PM | I wouldn't want her to gain weight, because I know how hard it is on you physically and emotionally. It's even harder for women. But I seriously doubt I'd leave her over it. That would make me a hypocrite.
I'd much more likely support her any way I can. Go with her to the store to pick healthy foods. Take her for walks. Remind her that sex is pretty dang good exercise (wonder if that would work? lol).
But then again you said slim to begin with. I haven't been out with a slender gal since high school. | |
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| love and weight gain
Posted: 6/10/2006 9:42:14 PM | The traditional marriage vows should be adjusted to include this scenario.
"Do you promise to love him/her in sickness and in health and through weight fluctuation?"
If your significant other balks at the suggestion...adios, muchacho! | |
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