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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/12/2006 11:52:48 PM | Reason for Requested Deletion: Attention/Pity Seeking Thread
I'm most definitely not seeking pity or attention. I's just a question I'd like some opinions on. | |
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fthfl
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Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 8 | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 12:26:24 AM | | You can only find what you want by dating people. Finding a mate is like buying clothes, you can't just window shop you have to actually try it on to see if it fits... before you make it your own. | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 12:32:12 AM | | Decide what you like/appreciate/admire and are willing to put up with and compromise on ... then be fussy, but enjoy ..... but too fussy will decide for you .... that means ALONE! | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 1:44:10 AM | | I think with a majority of ppl u know just by looking at them whether u could have a relationship with them what is wrong with that!! I have been single a long time because I don't get that spark and tbh I was wondering if it was something u felt when you're young but ppl have reassured me it isn't so I have remained hopeful. When the initial attraction is established I look at other things is this person nice, genuine, do I really think he is looking for a relationship with a single mum, what do we have to offer each other, communication, interest, motivation etc there are a lot of things that are important to me I feel looking at some of the guys I have been out with I deserve to have a decent man. Some ppl say so what if the spark isn't there with a guy he is nice and would be good role model for your child and would do anything for u but god the thought of being with someone long term who doesn't light any passion in me is scarey. xjx | |
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fthfl
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Joined: 6/10/2006
Msg: 12 | |
| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 2:00:49 AM | | sometimes i think that we tend to pick partners that remind us of our first luv. when i was a little peepee i had a crush on the fastest girl runner. then, one day she smelled like hash browns. | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 2:03:30 AM | no worries, sometimes you aren't sure what you want until you meet someone!
being overly fussy is different, having a laundry list of wants can seriously harm your chances of meeting someone great. (I'm talking superficial lists here, not the basics that I think we all want) | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 2:55:51 AM | Hapeenurse is right on the money. Fussy is the right way to go when looking for long term; assuming the opposite of that is settling.
But dismissing someone as a candidate too quickly isn't going to work very good. Maybe house shopping is a good analogy. They may not look perfect from the street, but you still want to go inside and check them out. They may have a lot going on in the interior that would make them a steal.
I think that's why ditching the laundry list and having more than one date with someone before makng a decision are good strategies for finding your special someone. | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 3:04:31 AM | | There's also the possibility Stardust, that deep down you really aren't ready yet. If as the others have said, your ideal mate is someone that exists only in a Utopia..maybe you just aren't ready for the next phase yet. If the characteristics..aka..laundry list really isn't so stringent, then just hang in there, and don't sell yourself short just to have someone in your life. Stay fussy, and true to you. | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 3:12:10 AM | thats my problem im to picky about whom i want in my life,i wanta great guy who wants a great gal,he is just as tired of being single,and tired of looking and looking,and online dating searches and games,yes i guess it is like buying a pair of jeans,
shy | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 3:18:14 AM | I have had some guys feel that we older gals should be happy a guy is paying attention to them..some don't care who they are with just as long as they are with a man..
I guess I am picky too because I can't see myself picking up someones dirty underwear while he is on the computer looking at other women online.... | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 3:18:54 AM | When I'm told that I'm too fussy, I simply and proudly state that I'm not fussy ~ I merely have high standards......... and don't worry about not knowing what you want ~ you'll know it when you find it.
Spelly | |
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Eric48
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Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 19 | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:18:25 AM | Eric48 - have you been shoe shopping with Carrie Bradshaw for Jimmy Choo's?
Fussy may not be the word - careful or taking caution may be more like it and nothing wrong with that! | |
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Eric48
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Joined: 4/23/2006
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 5:37:17 AM | no, not yet Leeanne ... she has the book on Jimmy Choo's ... so she might be fussy.
But I think she would look awesome in a pair of Red High-Tops like Peewee Herman.
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 5:37:41 AM |
Wish I knew what I was looking for....am I too fussy?
that sounds like a contradiction in terms, if you don't know what you are looking for
then how can you be fussy?
Fussy people usually have a strict list of things they are looking for. You see it on a
lot of profiles and they usually have a string on restrictions as well.
Nothing wrong with being picky to some extent but at this stage of your life,
you must have come to the obvious conclusion that the perfect man doesn't
exist just like the perfect woman doesn't. No point in obsessing about it.
Just enjoy going on a date and leave your expectations at home. | |
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| Is being to fussy the wrong way to be?
Posted: 6/13/2006 6:33:15 AM | | Msg 1, i believe that women should do the choosing .. and if you can't make a choice? .. maybe think about ways to improve your choosing technique .. | |
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