| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 11:42:50 AM | Ahh Goldiggers, how paranoid we have all become in our quest for a mate.
There is a joke that goes like this. I was at my dentist office,sitting in the waiting room and decided to pick up a cosmopolitan to see if I might be able to learn something about women. Inside there was a poll asking women to rank what they look for in a man. Number one on the list suprisingly enough was a great sense of humour. Number two was looks and number three was money. I thought to myself i guess if you are goodlooking and rich it sure makes all those crappy jokes a lot funnier.
So what I am essentially getting at is. Can you be poor and sexy? Is it possible in this day and age to be datable without a lot of money? Other threads I have read through have only posts from people who seem to make a lot of money and we tend not to hear much from those who may be a little down on their luck. What seems to be a new trend is hearing from ladies who earn a lot who are just starting to understand what men have dealt with for generations, albeit some have abused this in the past. So is it possible to see the man or woman for what they are as opposed to what they got. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 11:48:13 AM | Anyone who's looking for a date based on the size of their wallet isn't worth my time.
At the moment, I don't make a whole lot.
I earn enough to get by. But I'm not "well off" or anything.
I still get a lot of interest from the ladies.
Not the ones who just want a guy with cash... but the real women... the ones who are looking for a caring and romantic guy, who's lots of fun, and will treat them right. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 12:20:41 PM | There is reason to be paranoid here is my little example in my gig I go thru a lot of $$ not rich by anymeans as it is all relitive
But I go to the bank at the end of the month to get some counter checks and the cute little teller gal won't give me any because my balance wasn't high enough (was just starting my gig back then and it was hand to mouth) I new I was broke but also new my check would be there in 2days so she looked at me like just a low life well I go back in and deposit the check 2 days later same teller and when she figured out that it was a check for 25k she just got a big twinkle in her eye and all friendly and I just walked out with screw you in my head | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 12:44:02 PM | | think the word gold diggers is all in the mind with some folk.just because someone is interested in how much you earn and how much you got in the bank. doesn't always mean they are after your money they maybe just be looking for someone who has means to lookafter them . | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 12:59:42 PM | | Nobody wants a bum that is whithin reason but there are somereal golddiggers out there and it does make me a little on the paranoid side but there are also some that don't give a damn what I make and a few that even think it is a bad thing | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 2:02:30 PM | Can you be poor and sexy? Is it possible in this day and age to be datable without a lot of money?
course it is! I have seen it with my own eyes. Mind you I am old and my priorities are different than to say a twenty or a thirty year old.
I just don't see money ..as sexy. You can keep Donald Trump and Bill Gates! | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 6/19/2006 3:03:35 PM |
doesn't always mean they are after your money they maybe just be looking for someone who has means to lookafter them .
To me, love is between two adults who can take care of themselves. I look after children, not my wife. I won't be involved with children.
If a woman wants me because I can afford to pay their way, then she isn't right for me. I only spend when women appreciate it (in other words, you'll only get the jewellery because you love it, not because it's expected--I've found the higher the expectation of material gain, the less likely I follow through. However, the bigger the surprise, the more likely I'll go for it). | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 3/2/2007 2:21:40 PM |
So is it possible to see the man or woman for what they are as opposed to what they got.
And my question to you is why would you want someone who sees you for "what they got"? Are these the women you want to spend time with? Even if you had the money wouldn't you rather be with someone who appreciated you for who you are and not what you have? Living in South Florida I am surrounded by women who are so focused on finding a man who will take them to dinner (hence the term "Boca dinner whore") that they don't even seem capable of having fun. From the mere fact that you asked the question, I must conclude that such a woman is not your cup of tea. So why not weed them out and let the other guys spoil them and put up with their crap? Go for the substance over the style. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 3/2/2007 2:50:51 PM | | The thing about gold diggers is that they base the worth on where they live.Some areas of the country if you make 40,000 grand you are in poverty and some areas that is pretty good money. Hell I only paid 50 for my place. In some areas of the country that wouldn't even get you an apartment. Here i got a three bedroom house on 7 acres of land. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 3/2/2007 2:53:30 PM | squirrly::; I so agree with your post;;
course it is! I have seen it with my own eyes. Mind you I am old and my priorities are different than to say a twenty or a thirty year old.
I just don't see money ..as sexy. You can keep Donald Trump and Bill Gates
Even when I was twenty or thirty ,,,,Money was never a priority,,,, money can't keep you warm at night ,, as long as he isn't a couch potatoe,
When it comes to Donald Trump or Bill Gates they may have money but in my eyes that is all they do have,, and they are far from sexy and attractive,,,,,
Guys if that is the only kind of girls you attract than look else where because there are many nice women out there who are not about to bleed a man dry............those kind of women are only into them selves and THEIR needs or wants............ | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:35:22 PM | This topic again? LOL...
First off, you gotta have gold to dig. What I find so funny is that so few men DO and yet they go on and on about women and money and how it allegedly makes them more attractive.
While anyone who is an adult should be self-supporting and of service to their society, where their talents and skills lay and how much money they can live on is their business.
The only men who have to worry are those who have money to take. And add to that the idea that men use their money all too often as a way to "woo" a woman, well...they get themselves in quite a pickle with their own nonsense.
If you use money to get a girl, guess what? The universe is going to let someone use YOU for your money.
Careful. Karmic debt isn't always pretty. | |
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| it is possible!
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:45:40 PM | I am considered in the 'poor' range and I'm sexy!  
I don't think of my self poor like others do though....they see a number and that decides my status.
I've got a roof over my head, heat in the winter and air in the summer, fridge full of food, clothes on our backs, some toys to enjoy......how the heck am I poor? 
In my case it's just a label, but I believe my life to be very rich indeed 
Tracy
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| it is possible!
Posted: 3/2/2007 6:57:58 PM | | bingo tracy you are rich in what matters | |
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| it is possible!
Posted: 3/2/2007 7:10:20 PM | MRT - Amen to that girl ! We have wealth in other ways for sure, waking up each day, having your kids there, your health, happiness, and everything you said about the 'necessities' above. Stuff is just that, 'stuff', you can always live without the 'stuff' sometimes. I am self-sufficient and I am definitely not a golddigger - I want someone to love me back as much as I can love them. The more money you have, the more complicated things can get - no thanks. Just being comfortable is good for me ... keep 'er simple 
cheers! | |
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| it is possible!
Posted: 12/3/2007 12:25:01 AM | YES, you men have it all right we are worthless sexless gold-digging biitches.
Merry Christmas to you too ............... | |
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| it is possible!
Posted: 12/3/2007 1:46:51 AM |  Men like to complain about gold diggers but they sure like to marry them!!! Of course because gold diggers are usually hot and men only think with the head in their pants and not the one on their shoulders.
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 1:57:57 AM | I was always raised to believe that if I couldn't afford something myself , don't expect someone to buy it for you . The size of a mans wallets is not what attrachs me to a guy , he could be flat broke , sometime in our lives we have all been there ,. its all in the respect he has for me and what i have for him.
don't give up on us , there are good women still out there | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 12:57:05 PM | If you have lots of money then the golddigger syndrome is always there.
Some women have asked me if I own my own home.
There could be 2 reasons for this.
1/ They are gold diggers.
2/ They also have tehir own home and dont want to lose half of it to a gold digger. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 3:12:19 PM | can you be poor and sexy? guess some can but not sexy as in... I want to be with you...
poor and sexy would be more like sexy where I'll take you to the motel six for an hour than drop you off somewhere in a few hours....
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:03:57 PM | Ahh yes, I have heard that question as well my friend. I was once informed by my then girlfriend that the only reason she went out with me in the 1st. place was because I owned my own home. When I asked her about it she told me that it showed maturity. I believed her until.............As most of you know the first few years of home ownership are the best because you get to write all that interest off. I'm not a big sneak or anything so I share information with others about what I've learned financially. Hearing this awhile before tax season she must have remembered, because out of the blue one night she called me and asked me how much I would get back this year. No "Hi, how are you?" to start things off. The first thing I heard when I said hello was "How much ya gettin' back?" . At least she could have tried a little bit harder to cover up being a gold-digger! | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:18:42 PM | | I'm not paranoid, most show themselves to be golddiggers soon enough. When they are panning for gold and not finding the mother load they go prospecting elsewhere. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:41:46 PM | | One thing about broke people is they frequently get labour jobs which gets them in smokin' hot shape. As well, when they kick up after work it's a rich, rich relax. A sturdy lust. | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:46:33 PM | | isn't "poor and sexy" sort of what a "bad boy" is? One of the reasons he's a "bad boy" is because he isn't a "good man"? | |
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| Golddiggers and paranoia
Posted: 12/3/2007 4:50:57 PM | was once informed by my then girlfriend that the only reason she went out with me in the 1st. place was because I owned my own home.
My Mom first went out with my Dad because he had a car. I guess when you're in your teens and 20's, it's the cars that attract the girls, and when you get to your 30's+ you've got to have a bit more. | |
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