| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/19/2006 7:19:42 PM | ok, call me strange, but out of all the dates I have been on... And believe me many of them have been a doosey, why do they all want sex.
Don't men realize that there is more to a woman than what is between her legs? I was always taught that a man will respect you if you don't "put out". I have not "put out" and I still don't get respect.
Someone, please answer me. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:09:11 PM | | The biggest issue us men have with sex is that it's a natural instinct for us to think about it and want it almost all the time! Women act like the gate keepers by deciding when to let us in and when not to! What makes a guy a "better man" is when he has the self-control to know when to let the sexual urges out and when to keep them to himself (like on a first date!). There is a very fine line between not having sex with a man and keeping him happy sometimes. I think you should continue looking for a good, respectful guy who doesn't need to have sex immediately to have a fun date! You also might want to think about more creative ways to make a date fun and keep his mind off of sex! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:43:27 PM | THere are pleny of good men and they are all over. The main problem is with good men is that many of us do not know how to attract women like the jerks/players do so you have this continued cycle of nice women hooking up with ahole men because they are very simply doing what is wired into them bio speaking. Have you ever heard a woman say, "oh he is a really nice guy but" hence the nice male usually fails to create chemistry with women unlike the player/jerk or the ideal alpha type male who is actually nice but very confident and has game.
Some men have sex on a first date just to add a notch to their bedpost as some sort of ego boost to their self esteem. Sex and dating is very confusing in my opinion because on one hand you be the good guy and don't have sex with women too fast and some women actually feel rejected like they are not good enough. They say they don't want you to have sex with them but then when you don't they act all rejected. Men should never have sex on the first date period I think this is very immature and doesn't do a thing. I can see why some men do though because at least they feel like they are getting something out of the date. Instead of the norm you take the girl out on a date have dinner with her movie yada yada you like her she doesn't like you and that is it. NEXT The men figure when given the opportunity go for it cause at least they are going to get something out of it. I agree with the previous poster that several men flat out lack self discipline to control themselves they want to screw everything that walks. They feel like they can't go a week without sex which is a total myth I have known men who have gone without sex for years including myself its no big deal really. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/20/2006 8:16:02 AM | | There are still good guys out there, but the media and hollywood has distorted the views and expectations of both sexes. Men have the idea that all women are looking sugar daddys, thus wanting favors for funds. It goes the exact other way for women. Its all kinda dumb. Waiting for a "great expectation" that neither party wants to forfit. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/20/2006 8:16:08 AM | | There are still good guys out there, but the media and hollywood has distorted the views and expectations of both sexes. Men have the idea that all women are looking sugar daddys, thus wanting favors for funds. It goes the exact other way for women. Its all kinda dumb. Waiting for a "great expectation" that neither party wants to forfit. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 1:43:48 AM | Where are all the good guys ? ????? ??????????
Right here is one........but let me guess, you aren't interested.........what a headline ! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 10:37:02 AM | For sometime after my divorce and of course before i got married I dated women and never pressured anyone, that doesn't sound right, never made the move sounds better. What i found is I get tramped on, used, etc. AND the women don't really want to be around a guy who has no interest in sex. And then I found women like aggresive men, which i am naturally. But there is a cut off line between between being too aggressive as well as when a woman should "put out."
I don't want a woman to "put out" if she is not interested in having sex or having sex with me, fine, that's what dating is about, to find those things people enjoy together and what they do not - if they are compat.
Why be with someone who doesn't want you or the same things as you. You don't want to have a sexual relationship with me, but want to "share time" with me, that's fine, but that's only PART of it, and I have a need to know the other part..
- Bob | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 10:49:45 AM | | I am a good guy but most that ive tried to chat with or send msg's to seem all they are, are superficial. but again im bluntly honest and most cant handle the bluntly honest truth. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 11:18:45 AM | I can tell you from my experience, Most women on any dating site, including POF are pretty much driving off any good guys by treating men rude. Most wont respond to any form of contact and if you finally get one to respond they treat men like crap, these women drive off any good men and then all you have to pick from are players like the majority of women here. I can speak from experience cause this has happened to me. I have tried many other dating sites, and I always get the same thing, from women,, saying, "im not looking" and when I ask them why their ad says they are looking and what they are looking for they end up getting angry with me and telling me to F off , now a good man gets on these sites and soon enough realizes he is in the wrong place to be looking, just like looking for love in a bar,
so,, i know and you know there are good people out there, but when all of the good ones are driven away by all the rude people out there, they leave and you and I have no one to chose from. Im not the only one that have seen this problem ,, these dating sites were intended for men and women to meet and make new friends and maybe end up in relationships but many here are not for that, but to abuse the system for their own selfish intentions, men and women both,, the bad men are are my enemy and the bad women here are your enemy,. and there are no policing of these sites by the administrator, so we have to put up with all the jerks.
signed roger keller | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 11:21:26 AM | | boy you hit the nail on the head,,,, so women,, listen up! or ,,, stay single,, or keep meeting jerks,,,, | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:22:22 PM | | The truth is...most women are in love with the idea of a right guy. You see most all of the women on here asking "where are the big hearted guys"....or "where have all the good guys gone". Truth is, they aren't looking for that. Most of the time, the good guys aren't gonna stick out in a crowd. Women want that hot looking guy that is good and big hearted also. For the most part you don't find both of those together. Most guys are**** and tend to be jerks. The truly good guys are quiet and shy and tend to care how they treat other people. It has been my experience that since I don't look like a GQ model that the good guy, nice guy, and all the good things that go along with it are ignored. Sad to say, but that's something all of us are guilty of. Needless to say, no one person has the answer. Just my thoughts on the subject. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:22:48 PM | I always thought a date was something you arranged after you met someone and had developed a chemistry.
Maybe Good Guys donut date...
That's why I look for Activity Partners... | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:38:50 PM | | Hi. Some of us good guys aren't cutout to be around women yet lol. I am in severe debt.. just lost my job and had to move back in with parents. So when a guy like me sees someone like you we know we don't have a chance lol. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 5:14:33 PM | as far as the sex thing goes, I am the kind of guy that anything like that is up to the girl, not me...it will happen when she is comfortable with our relationship, not when I want it...if I meet a girl and there is no spark between us and we stay friends, that's great too...we have all needed that shoulder to cry on and that friend to tell us when we are acting like idiots...I don't want a girl that would jump in bed with me the first time we get together...I don't want a relationship that the only compatibility between us happens between the sheets.. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 6:38:16 PM | | Yes there are good guys around, and yes I'm gonna tell you I'm one of them! I do believe sex is an important part of any relationship, but certainly not on the first date! The key part of that is "relationship". It should be a natural thing between two people..natural as in a time when both just know it is right. I don't think we can put a time frame on that but at the same time I certainly don't think it is the first or second date. Personally I think too many people give of themselves, through the act of sex, way too soon, and when they do they lose a piece of themselves they can never get back. I say hold on to what you've got until that time when you know it is right to be with someone. A real man won't pressure or make you think less of yourself just because you say no. He will wait patiently, get to know you, spend time with you, let you get to know him, before asking for sex. But again I say if things are allowed to flow naturally no one has to ask....it just happens when the time is right! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 8:52:17 PM | | PINKFLOWERSLW,HANG IN THERE ,IT IS NICE TO KNOW THERE ARE GOOD WOMEN STILL OUT THERE.I WAS BEGINING TO WONDER ,BUT YOU GIVE ME FAITH.GOODLUCK WAYNE | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:01:42 PM | | Most men dont realize that a womans sex organ is between her ears. Have to win thier hearts and minds before anything else can happen. BGut, most dont want to do that, they just "want some" Keep in mind, we are all not the same. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 1:21:31 PM | Plenty of good guys out there, but good guys enjoy sex too. I'm not saying you need to put out. But every man you will ever date is going to eventually want sex with you, unless he's defective.  If all your dates are wanting sex on the first date, you are somehow selecting the wrong ones. Keep on looking, because I know at least one guy that isn't going to be pushing for that. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 1:30:24 PM | Well all the dates I have been on I was attacked by the girl.NOT because I was goodlooking.
I have never come on to a woman on a date.So there not all bad.You just haven't found the right one yet.Keep looking! | |
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| Memoirs Of A Good Guy
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:35:08 PM | well heres the thing.there are good guys out there.i know because i am one of them.the only problem is that any guy can say there are and in the end turn into a jerk and just see woman as a toy.and so that effects me,because any guy can say they are i need the chance to show im the real thing but hardly any girl i have heard that wanted a "gentleman" has looked right passed me and other good guys out there,this is not all womans fault nor is it all males becuase i myself never judge by someone's sex.all this is,is a course of good girls trying to find good guy and good guys trying to find good girls.i dont know if i will find a good girl or not.hell i dont even know if ill get any emails.but like in my profile i want quility over quinity.i do already know guys usally just want sex,hell i seen some on here that will spare you the trouble in finding out and even just tell you.and some dont.all i know is while you and other good girls like you are looking for good guys me and other good guys are looking for you
-The Twilight Of The Moon...Silver- | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:38:50 PM | | Most guys are into the primal pee on the tree, knock'em in the head and drag'em into the cave testosterone thing. Buuuut there are still good ones out there. I think alot of the problem is when a woman finds one she is so afraid of messing it up that she does just that. Or holds back parts of her personality that she shouldn't because she is afraid of getting hurt again,then finds out too late she should have let go to begin with. Unfortunately the got to kiss alot of frogs to find a prince thing holds true sometimes. I'm just tired of ending up with a mouth full of slime. But I know my happily ever after is out there and i won't give up till I find him! | |
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