| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:15:31 PM | OK, I am with my soul mate. Long story short--we were together 4 years, apart for 3, back together again. This time its permanent.
I have repeatedly tried to talk to him about his vagina phobia. I am telling you...It is work to get him to touch my clit, let alone lick it (a total of 2 times in our relationship) He will insert a vibrator, but not really work with it. If there is any clit play, he wants me to do it myself--that is mostly OK, but my God, sometimes I just want him to pleasure me, not me pleasure him and me, too.
It has gotten to the point where I wonder...what is wrong with my ****?!?!
Then I realise...nothing. he is the only one with this problem.
I don't know what to suggest anymore. Had anyone had this problem?
I am looking for women now, he is OK with it. I need some vaginattention! | |
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bs999
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Joined: 1/30/2006
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:27:45 PM | | It kinda sounds to me like you have the problem not him, if he doesnt satisy you the way you want to be then dump him and find someone that will satisfy your every need. When you start looking for woman you are looking for trouble, he may say that he is ok with it but i can almost guarentee he is not ok with it, more like he just says he is so you will stop nagging him about it. But in the end your relationship will suffer once you start being with women or other men, cheating is cheating no matter if it is with the same sex or not!!! | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:27:51 PM | OMG you poor girl - he needs therapy for sure!!! I would die - lol - 
I really can't think of how to help you because it sounds like you have tried to help him to enjoy - it's a big question as to why - only he can figure that out.
Edit - just a thought - do you think he may be turned off by the fact you play with girls? | |
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bs999
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Joined: 1/30/2006
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:31:28 PM | I take it your not going to answer my response. Anyways, here is my advice.
Sex and sexual endeavors is a two way street. If he doesn't "flick or lick the bean" then don't do him any favors. He will soon realize what is going on and start being a little more compassionate towards your needs.
If not. Tell him your going to get it somewhere else. Then if he loves you, he will "bow down when he comes to your town"
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:34:10 PM | HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!
Yes, he gets anything he wants. Anything. I enjoy blowing him, but then again, I am just an overall happy****ucker! lol
Do you really think holding out on him will work? Or will it just make it so neither of us has a good time? | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:37:07 PM | Babe, You just ain't trained that dog right.
Your making it way too easy for him.
Gotta make him learn some new tricks before he gets his treat. | |
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bs999
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Joined: 1/30/2006
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:48:42 PM | Ya Nipoley and I are on the same page.
You are making your own coochy cobwebs. In my world (and most other men) the woman always holds the empowerment. I think you know what you have to do. Be a woman. It is 2006 you know. Men can't get away with that shit nowadays.
I know your still getting laid, but I love the coochy cobwebs comment. sorry | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 12:55:19 PM | It never occured to me...but ya, i guess HE has a great sex life, doesn't he?!?
Shit, now I am mad at him! LMFAO
I am going to send him the link to this thread.
Honey, please pay more attention to the region south of my navel.
Or open your mouth and tell me the problem. | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 3:20:35 PM | | To me a soul mate means you match on all levels. You being as unsatisfied as you are sexually tells me you are settling. Some of the most enjoyeable part of sex is seeing what your touch, lick, bite etc is doing to your partner. He is missing out by not realizing how much he can pleasure you. Not sure why you are back together for good, but if you stay, my crystal ball predicts a girl who will be sexually frustrated. If this problem hasn't been fixed in this amount of time, he obviously doesn't think its broken. JMO | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 3:30:42 PM | vaginattention, thats good.
if you say this a permanent relationship, you should of already decided this before. most people dont tend to change much. so you decide, either I deal with it, or get out. sexual compatibility is huge.
i really dont think there is much you can do, i have been there, they either love p*ssy or they dont. i know in the back of your mind your hoping one day he will just fall in love with your p*ssy, and well, that will probably never happen.
so deal, get out, or why not throw a new woman in the mix.  | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 4:31:58 PM | In answer to all of this...
Leave his c*ck alone for a time and see how he likes it. Tell him it's like him leaving your most feminine of places untouched. It doesn't exactly make a woman feel attractive. Maybe he'll get the hint when you tell him he can let rosy do his work for him for awhile. | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 4:33:08 PM | edit: ^^^^^ last thing people should be doing is playing games. How old are we? OP communicate, or get out.
If a guy has vagina-phobia doesnt that mean he is gay?
*scratches head* there is straight men out there that don't love pu$$y?
any women out there that are in some need of vaginattention........ 
I  vagina.
The only new person the op needs to throw into the mix, is a NEW man. I can see resentment is going to build up over the long run. I know I would be resentful to a woman who never touched my dlck. | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 7:52:40 PM |
Holding out on him won't do much. You want him to touch you because he enjoys it, not because he wants sex again.
My post was meant for her to prove a point to him. It makes someone feel very uncared for and unattractive to never be touched in their most sexual of places when they are with the one they care for.
Perhaps I should have worded it differently. | |
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 9:46:21 PM | If this guy is really your soulmate, which is really far fetched if you truly understand the concept of a soulmate. All I can say is Communicate, "Communication is the essense of Love"
Also why would you want to bring another P*ssycat into the picture if your guy is having a sexual problem with you ??? That's not going to fix anything just confuse the situation more. I think he probably deserves better if you have the balls to be so insensitve to broadcast your [soulmates] sexual difficulties all over the internet. Sorry, I just find that really cold.
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| Somebody clarify vagina-phobia for me
Posted: 6/21/2006 9:50:18 PM |
When you start looking for woman you are looking for trouble, he may say that he is ok with it but i can almost guarentee he is not ok with it, more like he just says he is so you will stop nagging him about it. But in the end your relationship will suffer once you start being with women or other men, cheating is cheating no matter if it is with the same sex or not!!!
Most of the replies on here were great. This one is ridiculous! First of all, there are many MANY men who do not mind their woman haivng female sex partners. Many actually love the idea. Second, how is it cheating if they agreed on it? Cheating is when you go behind someone's back. | |
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