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Posted: 6/26/2006 12:25:46 AM | Hey folks, just thought I'd open up another can of worms, enjoy.
I don't know how else to say this, really. I don't like sex, I really don't. I have no explanation. It's just never been that good. Now, I've read, and discussed a billion possible causes (with doctors and otherwise), ranging from "Don't worry, you just haven't met the right girl" to "You have a serious condition" As for solutions...well, most of them involve some kind of medication, so excuse me if I'm not so eager. Don't get me wrong, I'm not absolutely cold, I still see a little action now and again, and apparently, I'm pretty good. But, like I said, it's just never that good for me. It fills a basic need, but that's all. I've received a little flak on this subject, already. Mostly stuff like "Oh, you're just weird/gay/a user/feeling sorry for yourself" etc. etc. I assure you all that none of the above are true, except for the weird part. I'm just at a loss, here. There seems to be a lot of conflicting information/opinions on this subject. There are countless physical, psychological and spiritual (which don't hold much weight with me) arguements out there, but they usually take the form of some dry, scholarly medical study...or a pop psychology book, usually with some kind of religious overtone. And, from what I've seen, it's not exactly something that people just advertise. So, I again present myself to the POF think tank. What do you guys think? Am I alone on this one? Intelligent responses only, please. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 12:53:27 AM | Hey alphaguy, I don't think you are alone but I don't think you are the norm neither. Sometimes I feel that way too. I don't say though I don't like sex because when I'm in the mood and with someone who I like and is good at it, I love it and can go at it for hours. 
However, lately, I sort of lost interess in sex too. I personally believe it's because work is taking up too much of my time and energy, because this, (I like calling it), phase, has been going on for the last four years. I'm not saying I don't have sex at all, far from it. But I don't have sex on a regular basis neither - I don't have time.
In my case, I'm sure that if I lead a more relaxing lifestyle, I'll have sex more often. So perhaps you should look at your lifestyle too and see whether it is too active with other things, that are not allowing you to relax and enjoy the more natural and simple things in life!
It could be also that you didn't meet the girl who drives you crazy the minute she looks into your eyes - being physically attracted to someone helps boosting your sex life a lot 
Probably I didn't tell you anything new, but thought of sharing what I go through, hopefully it helps in some way. Take good care and don't give up in life. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 12:58:51 AM | haha mopegunz. That was great.
my advice. find someone who's experienced and who won't mind showing you want can be done. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:04:34 AM | | Okay, I bet this has girls lining up to be the first to get him to enjoy it. I'm going to become a monk and take a vow of chastity...they asked me to take a vow of silence but I laughed at them? Can you imagine that? Me? Silent? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:08:21 AM | I didn't make it past the part about not liking sex. Holy frak Batman! I need to go order six pairs of Jimmy Choo's now...
~Carrie B. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:10:33 AM |
I didn't make it past the part about not liking sex. Holy frak Batman! I need to go order six pairs of Jimmy Choo's now...
Damn! Now there's a woman after my own heart | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:21:22 AM | | You are not alone. As long as you are healthy with appropriate levels of testosterone for your age, it shouldn't be a concern. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:27:14 AM | | You could be a-sexual..it's fairly common..i have some good resources on this if you want them just message me and i can help you out a bit. I have some experience in this..not personal but otherwise.. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:41:36 AM | Lots of people don't really enjoy sex much.
As long as you're OK with it and you find a partner who's OK with it, what's the big diff? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:50:32 AM | In my country, we all go at it like rabbits. Its cold here and we need to keep warm...
~Carrie B. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:57:03 AM | Be happy man! Sex is not everything in life. I dont know why people make a big deal out of it.
Sex is supposed to be a mutual satisfaction between you and your partner, and so if either you or your partner are not satisfied something is going wrong.
I cant speak that much as i am still a virgin, but believe me i have so many things to think of right now, and so many things that make me smile that i dont believe sex will be in my list for a long long time.
Im happy doing other things and thats what counts.
Get to know yourself better, and see what really makes you smile.  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 5:18:44 AM | Jeez,
you seem like the idea guy for the majority of women, atleast after marriage.
Don't worry pal ..... find the right women get married and your relationship sex wise will be perfect. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 5:24:24 AM | | some folks are like that; seems like that would be the ideal way to start out a relationship; none of that goofy puppy love stuff just cause she makes yer d**k hard; maybe some intelligent conversation, for a change..... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 6:18:58 AM | | I think like anything else, individuals are all different. I also believe that you are not alone, that there are people out there who are asexual. It's just not a very popular way to be in North American society, because everything from computers to cars to plants are sexualized. Probably alot of asexual people never admit it, because they are afraid of being stigmatized. I guess you just have to make sure that your partner has a low sex drive. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 6:33:35 AM | ~OP~ You aren't alone nor do I think you are strange/weird/gay/etc. You are probably more honest than most, however. I have found sex (more often than not) is highly overrated. I go for long periods of time being entirely celibate ~ if someone doesn't "get" that concept, too bad. Just be true to yourself.  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 11:09:43 AM | | Right now it's who you are - time will tell if your opinion and your body will change and tell you otherwise. I wouldn't worry about it unless it becomes a major issue for you in a relationship and you want to change this. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 11:41:47 AM | I agree Leeanne, don't worry about it until it becomes a major issue..
If it is bothering you, maybe try warm apple pie.. or lots of masterbation.. think about
a few women fighting over your dik while they are between your legs.. something will come up that will get your mind off of it | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 11:54:01 AM |
I don't know how else to say this, really. I don't like sex, I really don't.
Sorry, that's as far as I got.... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 2:35:34 PM | Maybe you're actually from the planet K-Pax...
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(sorry, was anything but an intelligent response as you requested...but I just couldn't help myself...) | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 2:48:28 PM | hrmm.. even though you don't have intercourse, do you still masturbate on a regular basis? If you do, then you obviously have a normal male sex-drive, and thus, should enjoy sex with the right partner.
Perhaps you have a hidden kink or fetish that you're not even aware of? Is there certain porn that turns you on more than any other? If so, maybe you could encorporate watching some of it before/while having sex?
I will be another that says that I think with you, it would really depend on meeting "the right girl". Someone that you are physically and mentally attracted to, shares the same sexual interests as you and is eager to explore in the bedroom.
Do you suffer from depression or any other illness'? Some can really mess with your libido!
Do you think perhaps you were abused when you were a child, and have repressed the memories? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 3:00:31 PM | You said that its just never been that good. Sounds like maybe what someone said could be right,,,that you havent met THE right girl. Sex is diff if you're doing it just to have sex, but if you are with someone you really really care about sex can be soooo wonderful!
No one says you have to have sex wth every girl you date. If you dont feel that connection,,then dont do it. Wait until you meet that person who really knocks your socks off,,,i can almost guarentee it'll feel much different. ;) | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 3:04:41 PM | | Sometimes I wish I had this problem. Even a little bit. I would be so much more productive. Its so hard to get things done when I have sexual thoughts every 10 seconds or so. | |
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