| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:22:13 AM | Well! All I have to say is, If you are going to go on a first date, do not grope your date like you are 16 years old and desperate to cop a feel!
My first date: good looking guy, better than his picture, told me I was better than my picture! We went for ONE DRINK, went back to my place, ( I do not live alone) where he proceeded to paw at me for the next two hours! He wasn't even a good kisser..which means one thing and one thing only: bad in bed, too! I laughed out loud, said he was acting like he was 18 (gave him the benefit of the doubt) I tried to play it off, gave him many chances to calm down, to no avail!
My CAT sat there on the coffee table with a malevolent look on his face, staring at this guy, at one point, the cat actually bit the guy on the foot!
Did this guy take Viagra before our date or what?
The next day, I emailed and said don't bother to get in touch, thank you very much!
I had no idea that guys his age had the energy to act like that!
My take: selfish, uncouth, insensitive to MY needs or desires. Had he been a little bit seductive, more suave, well, maybe he would've gotten somewhere in a few dates. He was so ham handed, I'm convinced he would've been the worst thing in bed since crumbs!
Any body else out there with an over 50 date with no idea how to act? | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 11:55:56 AM | | I went on a first date (after many messages, and phone calls) with a professional man, in his 50's who had been widowed for several years. We went to a very nice restaurant, and sat after eating and talked for several hours. When we said goodbye, he grabbed me by the breast twice, and acted like a 12 yrs old. I told him that I couldn't imagine a mature women putting up with such behaviours because it was both a turn off, and disrespectful. He said his wife always acted like she didn't like being treated that way, but would give in eventually. He obviously was looking for a clone of his wife, which he didn't find with me. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:54:22 PM | | Well, I am going to put in my two cents worth- I personally don't think it is a good idea to bring a complete stranger to your home, whether you live alone or not- I think it is giving him the wrong idea- also knowing where you live, he could turn into a stalker. When you first meet someone, no matter how long you have emailed or talked to them on the phone, they are still a STRANGER. One should get to know the person before you invite them to your home- better to be cautious than sorry. Whoever reads my comment, good luck in your search! | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 1:07:27 PM | I DID take precautions and gave his name & phone number and a description of his vehicle to a nearby friend who I was meeting first thing the next day for brunch.
If I met a guy in a bar or at a party, and we made a date to go out, it's almost retarded to insist on going in separate cars, so I don't think that it's much different. I wouldn't know much about him except his general description and the make and model of his car, and I would expect him to pick me up and drop me off. If he wasn't a jerk during the date, I'd ask him in, especially since I do not live alone.
I just thought it was immature and pathetic that he pawed at me like he was a teen. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 1:21:37 PM | | Oh yeah! After I began dating again, my first date was almost my last. A friend had a friend who would be perfect for me. You know the scenario. We met, had one drink, and I made excuses for leaving. He walked me to my car, and without even a handshake, had me against the car in a busy parking lot. He scared me so badly, that without thinking, I shoved the heel of my hand into his nose. Needless to say, I broke the darned thing. Two days later, I had police officers at my door. He had filed against me for assualt. Fortunately, the parking lot attendant had seen the whole thing, and the charges came to nothing. It took a loonnnggg time before I would go out with anyone again. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 2:21:55 PM | No, he was hiding a wife some where. He is just sexually immature and without a clue of how silly his behaviour made him look.
Because of my professional work, I have had to learn how to handle dangerous situations. I would never put myself in any form of danger without a backup plan. Living with two rottweilers is also helpful.  | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 2:48:01 PM | .
Interesting.
Now I’m wondering if maybe women I’ve met might think I’m a little bashful, or something. I never tried any of that stuff.
I could though. 
When it’s the right time and place, that is. . . . . Because, nope, I’m not a bit bashful and can get very playful with the right gal.
But, maybe I’ll keep doing things my way. Everyone I’ve met seems to feel free to call me, write to me, or stop to talk a while anytime we see each other. And, after reading many reports on various threads around here, I think I like my situation better.
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 2:58:04 PM | | You would think a fella who is over 50 would understand that groping on a first date is a no-no but maybe he hadn't been on many dates and was recently out of a long marriage? | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 3:02:25 PM | Lnstarkiss,
Now see? That's the kind of story that scare the b'geezes out of me.
I don't care what the men say here....if they want my phone number, my private email address, my home address etc..........it's NOT HAPPENING until I feel secure and they prove themselves to be worthy of it. A lady can't be too careful. How do you know they're not writing from some maximum security facility?
I know they've disappeared into cyberspace because I wouldn't provide this info, but oh well, better safe than sorry.
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 3:50:57 PM | dbndon keep on the way you are going. Thank God most men know how to behave, or their would be far more heel of palms going into noses, and all the ladies might get arrested. There probably are a few men out there who don't know how to behave after coming out of long marriages. I am sure a few not to gentle reminders from the ladies will seeing them figuring things out.
Attended a police/fire/ems ladies only vehicle travelling safety seminarseveral years ago. I was pleasantly surprised that one of the female OPP (Ontario Provincial Police) officer told us "we don't care what it takes you ladies to get away in an unsafe situation. Run over them with your vehicle if you have to, and drive to the nearest police station." (This was after showing several videos of how Ontario women had been forced into mens cars, and some of them had been killed.) Unfortunately, some times it is necessary to use the same force that is being used on us, but often it isn't the first thing that comes to mind. I know when a person does or says something complete idiotic my brain pauses to think, this can really be happening - they can't be that much of an idiot. However, if they cross the line - well, it isn't a good idea to annoy the princess/warrier. She can be sweet as can be, but she doesn't drive a kill butt SUV for it's looks. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:06:08 PM | Living with two rottweilers is also helpful
i bought a rottie so no woman could just come in my home and rape me.. she was so cute i ended up protecting her from all the doggies in the neighborhood. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:50:34 PM | Will stay away from horn dogs, and stick to the canine type dogs. Rotties (with good owners) can be sweet as kittens, but messing with their owners not a smart thing to do
Used to belong to a rottie rescue web thread. One day a story came in where a rottie had placed himself between the horn dog husband and the wife. Rottie took 13 stab wounds to protect the women from her horn dog mate. Too bad this isn't the type of story that the media uses. Maybe as punishment and a learning challenge horn dogs such be required to spend a day with a well trained rottie teaching the horn dog how to behave. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 6:56:59 PM | .
Muskoka, please don’t feel that way. Some of us can actually come with references. I’ve been around the block a few dozen more times than many, but I’m still not jaded. Fact is, the few women I have met from here really would give me a kind reference (and I them!).
There is no reason to be anything but perfectly polite at a first or second meeting -- and thereafter, until you become accustomed to each other. Personally, I have never said one word out of place with any woman I have met from here. (That doesn’t count the gals here I have known since grade school, though. We’ve been good friends forever, so that’s different.)
Moraime, I sometimes teach self defense, especially for those over 50 years old and infirm (exercises with the cane that are also cane fighting moves). The heal of hand upwards into the nose can cause instant death. At close contact, I encourage heal of shoe to ankle, then get to the side of the knee (with heal of foot or cane). If he’s still close, punch him in the Adam’s apple. A punch to the throat is sure to get even a small lady a few minutes escape time cause the attacker will not be breathing well for quite a while.
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 7:10:41 PM | | Thanks dbndon, all excellent suggestions. I was trained years ago by a friend who did 2 tours in Nam. There is many products that can be carried in purse or in vehicle that would blind someone short term. My favourite trick is wearing a decorative old fashion hat pin on my garment. Very stylish, can cause great pain, and I have got through national and international airports wearing one. Had to hid my giggle when they took my nail clippers. I am not paranoid, just testified against a bad person, who tried to have us stopped.........but that is a whole other story. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 7:13:53 PM | Sorry girls lol - people are just nuts - not just guys.
I’ve only been out with three gals since I got divorced (three years ago). I never so much as touched the first two and they managed to get me into bed before the first kiss even. 
The third one (before the date) must of told me 10 times not to paw around on her (I had no intentions of that anyway) - I kept wondering why she was telling me that lol. Now I guess I see why. I would not have pawed around on her anyway (warnings or not lol) but the next day she called me and offered me sex if I would come to her house for dinner instead of going to one of my daughter’s house for dinner - I went to the daughter’s house.
I only WISH - I knew a gal that I wanted to paw around on. If I ever do get around one that I want to touch - I think I can behave myself lol. 
Guys - just keep your hands to yourself - the gal will jump your bones soon enough lol. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 7:56:13 PM | I have never or will I ever jump anyones bones. I have too much respect for people to act that way, and I expect/demand to be treated with the same type of respect.
The intimate part of a relationship is far too important to me to jade it. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:20:00 PM |
The heal of hand upwards into the nose can cause instant death. At close contact, I encourage heal of shoe to ankle, then get to the side of the knee (with heal of foot or cane). If he’s still close, punch him in the Adam’s apple. A punch to the throat is sure to get even a small lady a few minutes escape time cause the attacker will not be breathing well for quite a while.
There is many products that can be carried in purse or in vehicle that would blind someone short term. My favourite trick is wearing a decorative old fashion hat pin on my garment. Very stylish, can cause great pain, and I have got through national and international airports wearing one.
If a guy gropes you on a date, and you choose to break his ankle, crush his larynx, kill him instantly, blind him or cause him great pain, you can be charged with assult and battery aggravated assult, attempted murder, murder (if you succede pushing his nose cartilage into his brain)
If he survives, you probably will have a civil suit as well.
Deadly force is not a justified punishment for copping an unwanted feel.
Moriama, you do realize that you've admited to carring a conceled weapons aboard international flights and our National Security Agency is monitoring all international internet traffic for key words and phrases in messages? | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:42:39 PM | Rotties (with good owners) can be sweet as kittens
my baby (karma..aka couch potato) is 11 now and she has never been agressive toward anyone. i think they know if the owner needs their help. she hates crows because they eat her food...lol | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/27/2006 11:53:51 PM | 'Moriama, you do realize that you've admited to carring a conceled weapons"
Concealed weapons worn on the lapel of your garment in full view isn't concealed, and noticed an officials who didn't think it to be a problem. I work with an international embassy, when I travel internationally. Who I am and want I do is on record.
My previous post indicated that the OPP gave a seminar telling women to use whatever force necessary to get away from an attacker. No where in this thread has anyone suggested us becoming the attacker. I don't see what this has to do with the topic. Sorry you misunderstood.
When finding yourself in a dating situation with a horn dog, you have ever right to get them off you. Groping might be a criminal offense. Maybe someone should look into it. | |
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| over 50 and going-on-16 first date with horn dog
Posted: 6/28/2006 1:34:02 AM | | Gads. any idiot knows, that with time and respect, "it" will probably happen as a natural course of events. If you're that stupid and insist on it now, drive down to the corner hooker. And it will serve you right when it falls off from gawd knows what. Other wise, be a gentleman........ | |
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