| Women who suddenly are "dating someone"
Posted: 6/29/2006 10:23:36 PM | OK, once again this seems to happen. And I am not looking for fukking pity, just venting.
A girl messages me about two weeks ago, and we message back n forth several times. Well i get a message today, about how she is now "dating" someone as of last sunday. Which is nice on her part, but WTF.
I mean if she was already kinda talking to someone or interested in someone, WHY in the HELL would she message me.
Is this how women work? They mass message guys untill they finally meet one and then they are off the market?
And its not the first time its happend on POF.
I mean maybe this is why i am single, because i dont mass message girls on POF and instantly want to meet a girl after one message, without trying to get to know them.
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/29/2006 10:26:22 PM | | She could have been getting to know someone, but didn't consider herself "taken", and wanting to keep herself on the market., continued to look around, keeping her options open. Perhaps her and this guy decided to become "exclusive", thus now she is dating? Who knows. But if someone is "interested" in someone..I don't think they need to disclose that to every guy they meet. Interested means just that..interested. Not taken..not dating, not in love, not exclusive. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/29/2006 10:29:30 PM | Dude if she is like that then she ain't worth it. Women accuse men of playing games all the time so what the heck is this called, "playing games". Women play games too it appears they
all do, they don't know a good guy when they see one, just move on bro, if they don't have common courtesy then they are junk or better yet if from this site they are little fish you throw back into the pond. | |
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Devo
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/29/2006 10:43:43 PM | They sure do. I would. That's just life, especially online.
You meet about 3 or so people, chat it up and as a rule of thumb, 2 probably won't work out. Keep your options open | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/29/2006 11:05:37 PM | | I don't mass market myself, but I do exchange e-mails with more than one gal at any given time. It's not like I'm dating any of them. It's just e-mail. Sure it's a start, but it's not a commitment. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/29/2006 11:40:12 PM | ~WELCOME~
to the VORTEX!
COMPLETELY different WORLD
and?
exactly as zee REAL one
all at the SAME time
GOOD LUCK!
just keep in mind
perhaps one day
YOU will be zee ONE
persuading a gal to TELL others...
"SO TAKEN"
just a thought fer ya
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 12:12:22 AM | | Sending messages to someone does not give that person 'exclusive rights' to him/her. I am in the early stages of dating someone, but i am still messaging men. I have been honest and told them and if i didnt and this relationship does not work, i will have missed out on an opportunity to make new friends. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 12:27:32 AM | | I'm with SweetTreat and Devo on this one. Just emailing someone online that I am interested in doesn't mean it anything will come of it, so I don't put all my eggs in one basket. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 4:48:50 AM | | ascuteasabug..I agree. I am sure that there are alot of great guys out there but some may not be what I am looking for. But women do suddenly date ..because they "think" they met a great guy at that time...and if it doesn't work out they have an option. I think that the same falls the same way with men..don't deny it. Goood luck! | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 5:05:28 AM | | I agree with the other posters on this one...keeping our options open until we DO decide to date exclusively. I would like to add though..this girl didn't play games. For crying out loud, she was honest and said she started dating someone. Would it have been better to keep stringing the OP along AFTER she started seeing someone? On the flip side..if she wasn't being honest, maybe she just wasn't into the OP and didn't want to hurt his feelings. Not the right way to do it, but effective nonetheless. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 5:35:37 AM | Get over it.
My guess is, everyone does it and on every site. A message is just that a message. You have never met this person, and she was kind enough to send you a message that she had found someone. She could have just disappeared.
Happy Fishing! | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:29:09 AM | msg 1...
you cant ASSUME ANYTHING FROM THE INTERNET.
One thing is many people do not remove a personal ad
or change it when they meet someone...
Some people are already in relationships and looking because
they are cheaters... or users looking to "upgrade"...
some are married....
some just say that because they are not interested in talking to you
based on your profile or picture.
Just tell them ok...
and move along... find people who "are" interested in talking and then
meeting... and set a time frame up on meeting as some do
not look anything like their pics, are holding some secret like they
are in a nursing home or bedbound ( for life )...
hoping to make you fall for them before meeting so you will overlook
whatever the issue is... AND
SOME PEOPLE ARE WANTING NOTHING MORE THAN A VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP
and have no intention on ever meeting anyone.
Just keep looking until you meet people who are on the same page and
skim over the rest.
You have to have a tough skin to do online dating.... and remember.. if it seems to good to be true
it probably isn't true. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:31:00 AM | whats wrong with talking to more than one person at a time? not like you are in a relationship with someone, so they are free to keep their options open.
Men that think a few emails equals some kind of commitment are mental. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:35:12 AM | | Men, time to smell the coffee! This is online dating! Do you know how many messages she receives in a day? How many she’s chatting with at the same time? Just to test the waters! No wishing to commit or meet in person in fear of a better one then you messaging the next day? Sad isn’t it? But honestly, who never did it? This is reality! | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:40:45 AM | I used to have the opinion that speaking to one man at a time was the way to go. But what happens is I get all involved with the 'one' man, only to find out 4 e-mails later that he's no longer interested.
Same is true when you escalate to telephone calls or having a couple of dates. Just because you are talking to a man, doesn't mean he won't suddenly disappear and now you are left with no one...again.
It's all about keeping your options open until you meet someone you want to become exclusive with. Men do it, so why not women?
The worst is when you take yourself off the market because you have decided that this one is FABULOUS and you don't want to see anyone else, but he doesn't do the same. So you alter your profile to show unavailable but continue to see his profile advertising his availability.
Learned a LONG time ago that I had to protect my heart. I've had it banged and bruised so often that it's started to freak out if I get an e-mail from a man. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:40:57 AM | I dont think the op is unaware of
the mail women get and the fact that
some women are meeting lots of guys...
I think he means where they respond to him and say they
are already dating someone
despite the profile not saying they are.
When I was meeting guys.... I would meet several a week.
In the event I met someone I was interested in.. I would stop
meeting guys and take some time to get to know him...
while I ran background checks and checked out all the info he gave me.
If I found him to be a lair... I stopped seeing him and started meeting
guys again.
Everyone has different ways... but thats how I did it.
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:44:44 AM | This is the Internet.......... online dating site >> online meat market... no different than in real life. Get use to it.
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:45:06 AM | Hi OP,
She may have been messaging/chatting with someone else for some time before she messaged you. Most people online do not limit themselves to communicating with one person. Perhaps they finally met, realized there were sparks and now she want's to see where it goes before cancelling her profile. It happens. At least she had the courtesy to tell you about it---most people online just disappear. Keep trying and good luck to you. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:53:58 AM | Lucette,
Of course guys do. Women have been accusing men of that for years now. What gets me is when many women don't realize they play those games just as often and WORSE, they often start them. Heck many girls have the inability to make up their mind about something. So it's natural that they can't help but play mind games. So in conclusin, if you're gonna start the games and set rules, like the ones done to the OP, don't change the rules in mid-stream and blame the guy in your life. I think a lot of guys are aware of what they do and do it because girls start them. I'm sure this will offend some and give a laugh to others. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:56:35 AM | | omg some of you men need to relax. Chatting is not serious dating for goodness sake. what is wrong with being open and honest about chatting with more than one person? you get to know people, go out on a few dates and see where sparks fly. if everyone is honest about where they are coming from there are no games being played. last time I checked that was what dating as all about. | |
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| Women who suddenly are dating someone
Posted: 6/30/2006 10:00:57 AM | | Of course there’s no problem! However, we never had such a high rate of singles. Most are bitter, jaded or worse. Where is all this shit gonna go? What is it gonna be like in 10 years? I’m so happy I don’t have kids so they won’t go trough all this bullshit. Sure it’s ok, it’s great! No problem at all! It’s not a matter of chatting with multiple of people. It’s a matter in integrity and values going down the drain and destroying an entire society. | |
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