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| | You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | My friend was talking to a bloke today , sunday , and he was really nice to her until she sent him her picture, then he just ignored her . Couldnt have he just said " sorry hun, your not my type " instead of just being ignorant ? yet on his profile it says he's polite ... haahhaha
he's not polite, he's a rat.
Have any other blokes done this ? and have any women done it to men ? | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 6:57:19 AM | This is why people should post their pictures and yes it happens to men by women as to women by men.
and if he had then told your friend he was'nt interested anymore . maybe he'd not have been called a rat but called "shallow"? one never knows huh.
some people are rude are'nt they...
good luck to your friend.
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:21:49 AM | | hi funme40,,,,,,thats not true, I mail people all the time without a phoro,, if I like the sound of there profile,, but this other person really should just move on,, of course we like to mail someone that were attracted to,, everyone has there own taste,, thank god, or this would be a dull site,,,it dosen't mean that she's not pretty or desireable,,, we can't all be pretty to everyone,,,,,, I see some really goodlooking men, but thats not my type,, I like a more cute kind of guy,, not a hunk kind of guy,,, and no offence to all you hunk's,,,,ha,ha,, and fumme40, your a cute kinda guy smile xxx | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:22:20 AM | These are really good responses, so far.
I aggree with all of them!
This simply demonstrates how IMPORTANT pictures are...., and like it or not ladies... the Men are probably more visually orientated than the women. Take that extra time and effort to put up the most flattering pic you can of yourself. No, you don't have to put up cheesecake pictures...ha! But those fuzzy office pics of you way back in the background arn't going to do it! Try and get a better camera, or someone who has one, to shoot you. Pay attention to the lighting, the background, the composition... it all makes a difference. People take better pictures of cars they want to sell than a lot of the pics I see as primarys on here.
speaking of pictures..... I am surprised at all the "NON_PICTURES" that people put up as their primary photo. Everything from stupid clip art, to unidentifiable grainy nothing! I personally don't understand it. Why can't you just put up a simple photo of yourself? And, I believe that question should be answered by you.... It really doesn't matter if I know the answer... and , I have my suspicions anyway. Happy Photos everybody. | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:23:04 AM | It happens, and it's a blow to the ego. It's better to have your picture posted so the person you are speaking to knows right away wether or not they find you attractive.
A guy had emailed and immed me a few times, I have pics posted, so he knew what I looked like. We had a few decent conversations, and he seemed ok. Then he started asking me specific questions, weight? jean size? and after I told him the approximations (not specifics), he told me that I am "too big for him"....that's cool, I understand. No sense in getting all upset over a stranger with whom I've only shared a few conversations.
Your friend needs to develop a thicker skin, or she'll be destroyed emotionally really soon.
Good luck to her.
Sunnie  | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:25:52 AM | | Sally none of us wan't to be superficial, but sadly we all are to a point, I was talking to a guy quite recently in fact, I very much like him, I had never asked for a pic of him and then he sent me one.....the fact is he looked so like my father I was stunned!.........I have not talked to him since sadly, not that I don't want to, but I feel he was looking that special person to share his life with....... I don't know what to say.........I am shallow........but could you date your dad?............. | |
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TerriM
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:30:41 AM | | I guess it is what it is, people find themselves attracted to a certain look or type. You cant get offended by that really, because we all have a certain look that meakes us look a little closer, right? I finally put my pic up as to avoid this situation, if he thinks Im cute then so be it, and if not, keep looking and best wishes. | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:58:03 AM |
I had never asked for a pic of him and then he sent me one.....the fact is he looked so like my father I was stunned!..I have not talked to him since.
Prudance
Given how unlike there photos people often are I’d let him know he may really look like just what you want .
The whole photo thing is complicated with out one I might make a friend who I later don’t find attractive .
So just friends ..... That’s fine with me .
With one the reverse
Someone I find attractive but no spark .
Like every one I am greedy I want the spark and the attraction , but if I can only have one I’d rather have a friend .
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 8:58:49 AM | Well personally if I get sent a pic of a guy and he does nothing for me I am still nice then just tend to end the conversation on a friendly note.
On the other hand, I have my pic posted and still get questioned to death! What do you you weigh? how tall are you? what do you dress like? How recent is that pic? Do you have any more pics? Then the girls that post full body shots with little on get called slutty or looking for sex? So you cant win really. However, your friend may have less trouble if she just posts a pic, then she will save herself the heartache and hurt feelings I think. Then maybe she will find someone who is willing to get to know her as a person and not just a picture. | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 9:01:19 AM | Post a pic and forget about the B.S. Its sad but true, ppl base a lot on physical attraction, its is the first step. As well as we all know a picture can speck a thousand words or lies. For can really ever capture the true beauty of the iner-person?
As for the fellow the op speaks...Be thankful his true colors were revealed now and not later.
To each his own. | |
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sally1
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Msg: 17 | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 9:47:32 AM | I would like to point out that it isn't just men that are focussed on looks. This phenomenon does occur with women as well.
One of my best friends is on this site, and although it is just my opinion, I think he is an extremely attractive man. I can't count the number of times that he has mentioned that a woman has ignored or rejected him upon seeing a picture of him. I really don't get this because he really is attractive!!!
Additionally, not all people gauge a person by their appearance. If this were so, then the world would be comprised of purely shallow people and we wouldn't have the problems with over population that we have today. :)
Having said that, there should be a certain level of attraction with another person if you are considering dating them. Would you date someone that you find physically unappealing? For some people, this is the initial attraction to the other person and it can either be reinforced by positive personality traits, or conversely, it can be weakened by negative personality traits.
In a perfect world, the outer appearances of a person would not matter nearly as much as their wit, intelligence, personality and charm. We live in a far from perfect world. However, I firmly believe that there is a person that will find another attractive based on the aforementioned traits.
A strong relationship is comprised of not only an attraction to the other person on a physical level, but intellectual and emotional as well. I would personally rather be with someone that values me not for my appearance, but for the person I am within...
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 9:55:17 AM | | It's too bad your friend got upset, you need to take it for what it is and let it go. One thing I don't like is feeling pressured to respond to each and every email or interest I get. It's a chance I take as well when I send an email - my pics are posted - that person may or may not be interested for any number of reasons. If they write back, fine, if not, fine too! I get emails from people way outside of my age range and I do not respond. I don't think that is rude of me. What am I supposed to say, you're too old? I'm not attracted? That is not polite. I also don't feel the need to lie and say I'm seeing someone either. It's not fair to put the recipient on the spot, you took a chance in sending your email, that was your choice. I also don't open my door to strangers, is that rude too? | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 9:55:49 AM | hey Sally1:
I understand completey you talk to them for a while then send pic and stop talking to you that is rude and not polite to do if they don't want to talk to because you sent them pic they can say sorry your not my type or we can just be friends but it what is on the inside not just looks I hate people that do that as well I have been hurt so many times if your not drop head pretty they see ya hmmm just makes me so mad well take care have great day this my opinon of this
babewoman | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:02:02 AM | It's also about rejection - let's keep it real. There are more "polite" ways of rejection, but none of us like it no matter how it's servedup. He may be ignorant as to how to convey "I don't find you attractive" without it sounding cruel. Probably to him this way is more "polite" for lack of a better term. We're all just arm chair quarterbacking here. Everyone's different and has different levels of social skills. Including women, of course.
Good luck to your friend; but it's true, if you're gonna be on this site you're going to be rejected. How about the Pre-emptive rejection of a man my own age who's looking for a woman 25 years younger? All kinds of people on here that we're exposed to. | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:02:11 AM | Maybe it's just me, but I am finding that most of the women I write to delete my message without ever reading it. I think most people on-line are just too picky. I also think it is a sad comentary on modern day society that people have to resort to meeting members of the opposite sex on-line. I'm really not such a bad guy once you get to know me. :-)
- Jeff | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:14:31 AM | | i try to avoid situations where i have to do alot of guessing so things like this dont do ever jave a chance to happen. everyone should post their picture up for everyone else to see.Each person has that right to see, decide or chose who yjey want to talk to based on their pic. if they want to. That may sound shallow i know but to each their own. I tend to view pics as being more fair than anything else. Beauty mabe only skin deep but i'd rather start their than take a chance on getting to know someone only to find out they were lieing about themselves the whole time. | |
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| You see her picture, you dont like and you ignore, she's upset ..why do men do this ?
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:15:40 AM | I hardly ever talk to people without pictures, I usually have mine posted when I'm trying to make contact with someone, saves alot of time and trouble.
Back in the old days, when I was new to online dating...if a guy sent me his pic and I wasn't attracted, I'd just start answering slower, gradually getting more and more boring til he lost interest, which typically doesn't take long (10-15 minutes or so usually)....it was a dumb way of handling things, but in my opinion, it beat saying, "hey you're ugly, I'm not interested"! I think it also beats stopping talking right in the middle of a conversation. Nowadays I don't usually start im conversations with no pic guys, or I ask right away, "where is your pic?" | |
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