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Posted: 7/3/2006 12:55:25 AM | | i met this guy on here, we exchanged email and phone numbers and we got on really well. everything kind of moved very quickly and he said he loved me and wanted to be with me, it's not really like me but i found i felt the same way. however, i haven't heard from him for a while despite sending a couple of emails, and he's been on msn a couple of times but when i talk to him on there he hasn't replied and then gone offline. i decided to look at his profile on here and even though he's changed it to just looking for friends it also says he's looking for an intimate encounter with a woman. a bit confused by this i did something a bit sneaky and went on here as someone else, just to see if he really was looking for other women. i sent him a message and today he replied. my message was something along the lines of does he want to show a girl a good time, and his reply said "u never know". now i don't know what to do, i don't know if i should see how far he will go just incase he's just having a bit of harmless fun, or whether he would actually arrange to meet up with her. i don't want to move to quick because i really have fallen for him and part of me hopes that it is just harmless fun. why would someone tell you they love you and want to be with only you if they don't mean it? it's not even like we live near each other so if he just wanted to get layed he could do that a bit closer to home. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:05:02 AM | sorry, hon,...... hes just looking for sex.... move on!
Your profile states that you are totally in love with someone and you are just looking for chat/emails... umm.. you are giving it all up for him??? Please reconsider.. You are so young and (being a mum now LOL) you should just play the field, see whats out there.. You are a lovely looking lady and I am sure you can attract lots of guys........ good luck,sweetie | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:08:55 AM | | yeah, but why tell me he loves me? what's the point? he didn't have to f**k with my head | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:10:31 AM | | I'm sorry to say I see a great deal of heartache in your future. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:19:17 AM | He's probably still very young like yourself and doesn't know what he wants
yet. This is the most stressful time......college, career choices etc. Maybe
saying "I love you" brings some stability into his life or so he thought.....but quickly
realized what an idiot he was. Cut him some slack....obviously judging by his
changes he made to his profile he's evolving and trying to find his place without
repeating his most recent mistake.
But, thats only IMO. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 2:10:07 AM | | yeah i see what you're saying, but he's 29 and has a career. it's no excuse to mess me about like that, i wouldn't do it. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 2:32:30 AM | | I'm afraid you are wasting your time. The guy isn't even responding to your emails let alone your messages, that alone should tell you that it is over. He may of told you at one point that he loved you but now a days those words mean so little to so many. Lot's of times those words are used to gain what they want. Save yourself a lot of hurt and don't waste your time trying to figure out someone elses actoins. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 6:42:48 AM | | I think you know what to think and do even if you're saying you don't. If i can see these red flags i know you do too. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 6:56:38 AM | OP....... " harmless fun" ????????????????
theres nothing harmless when playing with someones heart... hes either into you totally or hes not. just saying i love you does'nt make what hes doing to you ok.
has meeting and the ideas of commitment changed just because we are doing this from a computer? in real life we would not allow "harmless fun" by someone that has stated they loved us. i would'nt like you to flirt with men in the real world or from this computer. you're either serious about me or i will see you are not.( you've seen he is not) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:04:24 AM | | ok dear, he decided he just wants carnal fun at the present time without strings, if thats acceptable to you, fine, if not, look elsewhere | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 11:02:49 AM | Sorry my dear but I'm going to let you in on the secret of men.
To men, WORDS MEAN NOTHING ! ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING !
A man doesn't LOVE you unless he ACTS like he loves you.
A man can tell you anything, I mean ANYTHING, and it's all meaningless unless he backs it up with deeds.
It works the opposite way as well.
You can tell a man you love him, but he won't believe it unless you act like it. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:27:03 PM | Things men say to get sex :
I love you.
Your the only one.
Ill do the dishes.
You know your only my half sister so that one was a joke....atleaste arround these parts!! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 1:32:28 PM | Nipoleon.....I love your posts and that one was the best!!!
My Dad said this to me when I was a young girl and following it has not let me down yet. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:17:21 PM | Pisces83... best thing you can do is move on... this guy is a tease... he likes to flirt and come on strong just to see how far you will go. And as soon as it reaches a point....he runs. I've seen men and women of all ages do it. I appologize for him in the name of all good men..... 
Buck | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 3:38:44 AM | I laugh at those stupid girls that fall in love online...
Im sick tired of people over using:
"I love you..."
I hate it, people are saying it everywhere to everyone...
You just have one heart, just wait and love only once for the right person. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 4:13:54 AM | I have to agree that some people say " I love you " and it means very little to them, and they say it with very little thought to consequences. If he answered you when you wrote to him as another woman, I think that would be enough to tell you that he is not serious. I am sorry for you that you had developed strong feelings for him, but there is another man out there who would be so much more deserving of your love, save it for that person instead of getting your heart broken over someone who is playing games. You deserve better!!!
Edit: Sorry, I just realized this is to ask a guy, lol!! Sorry guys, :p | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 7:55:36 AM | | Sounds like he married buddy or has a girlfriend | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 11:53:53 AM | | There is nothing harmless or fun about lieing to you .... that's what happening if he says he loves you and wants to be with you and then is fishing on msn. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 11:58:36 AM | "and he said he loved me and wanted to be with me, it's not really like me but i found i felt the same way. however, i haven't heard from him for a while despite sending a couple of emails"
Did he try to make a meeting with you after you both exchanged love vows? | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 11:18:10 PM | | Does the word "PLAYER" mean anything to you? | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 11:34:03 PM | | Why waste time playing his type of game? You already have your answer on what kind of character this guy has. Either way he's not a stand up guy. Either he was lying to you or he is lying to these other women just for "kicks". Either way you take it...... it has dirtbag written all over it in bold block letters. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:11:38 AM | pieces83, Im afraid your emotions are acting without the benefit of intellect on this one, you are running through the forest with blindfolds on, never a good idea, try lifting the blindfold up and you will see
1) he's not interested in you anymore
2) communication isnt working and probably has never worked.
3) according to you he's looking for intimate encounters
4) you already caught him although i dont agree with the method you used
This isn't a logic problem. This is about relationships, which is an intensely more complicated issue than, "Argument A supported by Fact B and bolstered by Argument C."
I seriously doubt this guy knows what love is? his actions speaks for itself? remember the ole saying ACTIONS speak louder than words.......... my advice Relegate this lad to the past tense, as in " the ex,"" not anymore" some words to live by
never make someone a priority who makes you a option, youre his option not his priority
Just my 3 cents. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:38:09 AM | Totally agreeing with Nipoleon on this one!! Read what he wrote again ....then again.
It's not just men but words in general mean nothing if they aren't backed up by actions. I have fallen for that whole deal before and trust me it is really not worth it. Saying I love you is way too easy to say and you can't believe it unless you have the actions behind it. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:51:14 AM | nipoleon is right! So right that it bears repeating - twice!
Sorry my dear but I'm going to let you in on the secret of men.
To men, WORDS MEAN NOTHING ! ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING !
A man doesn't LOVE you unless he ACTS like he loves you.
A man can tell you anything, I mean ANYTHING, and it's all meaningless unless he backs it up with deeds.
It works the opposite way as well.
You can tell a man you love him, but he won't believe it unless you act like it.
Sorry my dear but I'm going to let you in on the secret of men.
To men, WORDS MEAN NOTHING ! ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING !
A man doesn't LOVE you unless he ACTS like he loves you.
A man can tell you anything, I mean ANYTHING, and it's all meaningless unless he backs it up with deeds.
It works the opposite way as well.
You can tell a man you love him, but he won't believe it unless you act like it. | |
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