| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 4:57:10 PM | So, why does it seem like the men some of us attract seem needy and clingy and they tell you they love you right away?? They don't even know the real you and they are telling you that!! Are they saying that cause they think it will help them get some?? Then when we tell them we just want to be friends, they freak out and don't want to have anything to do with us...like WTF, can't get what you want so you don't want nothing!!Is this some signal we are sending out without realizing it and if so, how the hell do you make it stop??!!
Then the guys we want to attract are not attracted to us!! How do we attract them?? Do we really need to be a perfect 10, or are we disillusioned in thinking that they will see the real us??
I realize this is probably an age old question, but if anyone has some insight, that would be awesome!
I also realize this probably happens to men too, how do you handle it??
Edit: I have a feeling this post will not last long! | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:30:32 PM | Thanks Gypsy... yup just one of those days I guess
My all time favourite to date has to be... well lets start out as friends and see what happens... okay I'm fine with that... then the statement comes.... but we can have sex too... ummmm yah okay NOT... sorry I don't have sex with my friends....
Yah want that avenue yah gotta be ready to commit on some level...lol | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:35:30 PM | Call me silly...or call me smart. This site promotes meeting people, and we continue adding to our lists, harems, bedrooms, showrooms...or whatever. 
I have met some really wonderful women whom I consider friends (for now). I think that's what my profile reads. It changes almost by the second...and then I return it to the "Friends" category. The more people you "meet", the more chances you will find the right one.
The "right one" for me called me today and told me she left the abusive relationship and is staying for a suicidal stalker. What did that make me? I would give my left "nut" to be with her, but I have decided that it is out of my hands, that it's not my will.
One of these days, I'm going to be pierced by Cupid's arrow...and I will probably resist, because of what happened to me recently. In the meantime...I'm getting to know the staffs of many a Tim Horton's and Starbucks shops, with a ton of laughter thrown in.
Maybe if we decided not to login to this site on a daily basis, would we start investing more time into the one we just met, half an hour ago with for a coffee.   | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:38:19 PM | How about you go on a couple of date and they just want to be friends...then you realize you are friends, but a hidden friend...one that allows them to mingle with your friends and family, but you will never be invited to mingle with theirs!...
If you want to be friends then it should be that you are a part of my life on a whole as I should be a part of their on a whole... | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:39:48 PM | Sherrif, I am so sorry that happened to you and I think you are right, the more we meet the better our chances are and then they get to see "us", not what we type.
Edit: Dental floss and lipstick in the back seat of your van...I am killing myself laughing right now!
The "friends" thing is cropping up alot lately...is there some kind of promotion going on that we are not aware of and it pisses me off, good enough to be friends, good enough to f**k, but not good enough for a relationship!! Okay, I feel better now! LOL | |
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Joined: 2/11/2006
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:53:37 PM |  Holy...way too many of you are havin bad days today.think you answered you own question....why do they seem needy and clingy....because they are,silly people.These individuals probably have quite a few on the line like this.....best way to deal with them.......thank you for the chats ,it's been nice,best of luck to you.....delete....block...simple.You people been hangin around the wrong places....hell y'all need to get under the slaw rebchuck bridge once in a while.These guys are great....party with them....then hell...no worries ...cuz the next day...they donn't freekin remember anything. | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:00:06 PM | | The person I am referring too I met in person, not online and he seemed like a decent guy, just not boyfriend material and when I let him know that, right from the start, he eventually went kinda nuts and burned all bridges....speaking of bridges (nice segue huh) I don't want to party with guys and have them forget me...I want to find the one who will never forget me! And I am having a great day, just curious is all! But thanks for the laugh LP! | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:02:56 PM | Seems to be a lot of that going around lately...
I think it is in part because those who are genuine in looking for someone get tired of the "games".
And this "friends" game is one of the worst. It is not a gender specific phenomena...
And on a long weekend like this when the weather is nice... I guess we have a little more time to reflect on stuff.
Hugs for all that can use one.
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:05:38 PM |  Well if the guys seemed descent....guess what....decieving luv...deceiving.If a guy as you say...went kinda nuts...it's obvious he has issues.Who knows maybe down the line things may change......but till then...carry a sharp stick around with ya....good for jabbin unwanteds in the eyeballs. .......And yes...i do carry one in my purse,lmao. | |
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| I have a few questions.....sorry if this is redundant and it's not pity, just curiosity! :)
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:08:35 PM | | The neediness and procaliming love right away, I want a man, not a child and I want someone to get to know me first before telling me they love me, acting that way to get sex (crazy I know) and not finding anyone that is serious about a relationship. So yeah, I guess all of that! LOL Then the clincher, the ones I am not attracted to freak out when I say I just want to be friends and the ones I am attracted to just want to be friends....I think I shoulda joined a convent...this all confuses the hell out of me! | |
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Joined: 2/11/2006
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