| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:21:42 AM | | Reading these threads I wonder how many of you have intentionally lied ("I love/care about you", "you are the one", "oh yeah I am sure about you") just to get sex? | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:27:04 AM | How many of these men do you really think are going to come onto a public forum on a dating site and admit this?
Really now...
Oh, and women do it as well... yeah, I know I'm guilty of it... but I would like to also point out that I've grown since then in maturity...  | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:39:07 AM | regardless of what i say to a woman, it is her decision to have sex with me or not. If some woman decides to have sex with me just because i say i love her, i'd have to question her judgment.
I'll be honest. I won't lie to get it, and haven't needed to (that is not to say that i'm always getting laid). As a matter of fact, I didn't tell either of my last two female counterparts that they "were the one/i loved them/i am sure about you", and we still were active sexually.
Some women make bad decisions. sometimes they just feel cheap after they make a bad choice and need something with which to rationalize their behavior (e.g. "he told me he loved me", "he said i was the one"). In all actuallity they just needed to get laid. It ends up being easier to blame thier bad judgment on the male's deception, than it is to accept that they could have made a different, more informed decision. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:40:42 AM | ^^^^
Uhm....I totally disagree with that statement.....
I think the Op meant LIES....not just says he loves her.....
Men do whatever it takes to get laid....just admit it!! | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:44:50 AM | That "I love you" line might work with someone in high school or early college.
But do women that have been sexually active for awhile, actually need to hear that before they are ready to have sex?
Its been my experience (as limited as it is) that sex is no longer that magical moment when two people express their love for each other, but more like "I'm horny as hell, and you have a penis.. Lets have fun." | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:46:22 AM | Now I would have to disagree here...
I can tell you that without a doubt, I have never lied to get sex.
Now, that being said, I have only ever slept with people that I was in a serious relationship with. I also may be a minority in that...
Sex just doesn't seem to be the end all be all...can't imagine it would be that good without at least a semblance of an emotional connection... | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:46:22 AM | No such thing as 'truth!'...
only interpretations!...
Two things happen in life...
1. the 'event'
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2. words/symbols to describe the 'event' (interpretations)
Two seperate worlds are these...
thats why there is no such thing as truth...
only the way we see things in our own reality...
LD | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 12:00:52 PM | | That's about as lame as asking all the ladies how many times they have said yes to date when they wanted something else other than the guys company. Like that concert they were dying to see or that new restaurant they wanted to try out. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 12:16:48 PM | BrownEyedCorn....will you please go to the "Aliases" thread and explain yours?! LOL
I would NEVER say yes to a date with anyone...that I was not genuinely interested in seeing. Even if it were....KC and the Sunshine Band!!! LMAO | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 12:45:04 PM | I am back to dating again and I have to say I did think it was a matter of maturity...that I would not see the lying, uncertainty, loose interpretation etc from my teens and 20s...but I am finding it is just as prevalant now.
I see it in men I meet, women I talk to about their dating experiences, divorced and never married types...it is like this is an acceptable part of the dating scene because "everybody does it" which in some ways is worse than "yeah I do it cause it is fun"
In the title I did not mean to pick on the men...it really should read anyone because I agree women do lie and they make it a sport (they tell me this when we are out at girls night swapping stories) While some think it is fun, it does pollute the waters...I love fun but lying or joking at your dates expense has never been my idea of fun or funny. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 12:57:22 PM | | Once you get out of high school and find the guys that have grown up, I don''t think you''ll find it happens as often as you''d like to think. I personally save the "I love you"s for when I''m really sure that I do. I''ve never had to lie to get sex and I''m not about to start. Of course, if I have no emotional connection with you, I''m not going to sleep with you - down that path lies much drama. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 1:15:55 PM | Oops, I must just''ve thought that and didn''t write it down - my bad...I edited it:
If I have no emotional connection with you, I''m not going to sleep with you - down that path lies much drama.
The one time I don''t proof read what I write and someone picks up on it :D | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 1:16:16 PM | It goes both ways in many situations everyday.
And, in some cases, each say what the other thinks they wish to hear. Not everyone is like this, but who here is naive enough to believe that every single person is always 100% truthful when posting on the net?
I know it's not true of everyone, but it is for many. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 1:18:02 PM | it's the only way to go!
if your completely honest there's nothing romantic it's plain jane boring.
good luck pickin up if your not prepared to lie to a woman. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 1:21:13 PM | | Blackaces: Good luck with that - one day you'll grow up and realise that the lies have got you nothing but trouble and pain and you've missed out on true happiness. I have no problem getting women and I don't have to lie to do it. | |
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| How often do you men lie to just get sex?
Posted: 7/4/2006 1:25:38 PM | But HarleyKat......you are like no other, you just stand alone  Of course you would never be that way. *smirk*
I guess part of my point, which I failed to make clear, was that asking men to fess up to such, and to do so on a forum where they are looking for dates.......would be comparable to asking the ladies to fess up to saying yes to a date for the wrong reasons. -Though men don''t really care if you say yes for the wrong reason, just say yes! 
The truth is that both men and women sometimes have a hidden agenda, it''s not strictly a gender issue. | |
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