| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 7:42:48 PM | | He's 2 and half, and I wanna start training him. But...I don't even know where to begin. His dad isn't around much, I'm a single mom, so how do I teach him to do it right? | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 7:54:50 PM | He's 2 and a half and you're just now *starting* to potty train him????????
Wow. You could have been done with diapers over a year ago. It will probably be a little more difficult for you to potty train him just bacause he's gone longer than many other kids go before changing bathroom habits.
I'm sure there are books available and there's probably a ton of advice available online. But, the basics...gradually increase the amount of time he's not in diapers each day and reward him when he uses the toilet.
Soon, you'll be using only the night time pullups and soon after that, he'll be caught up with the other kids his age.
Good luck. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 8:18:26 PM | What I did with my son was when he reached 2 I just let him walk around with shorts ONLY but explained to him this is where u do his business not in shorts...
When he drunk something half hour later I would sit him down and nicely say go pp when he ate the same thing ... now if he does he pees the shorts I wont change him for a bit so he would know the feeling then tried it again took a day for him to not pee in shorts doing poops is another story lol | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 8:28:34 PM | Ha ha ha ha ...my boyfriends son is just finishing his potty training and he's 4. Good luck!
When I came into the picture we started nekkid time. Which entailed no diaper, underwear, or shorts. He wore one of my t-shirts. I did this with my daughter as well.
However, I used green garbage bags to cover the foam on the couch cushions and only had an area rug in the living room in case of accidents.
JMHO. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 9:48:19 PM | i dont know what mafinkc was on when he said you should of started a year ago.. that would mean he would of been only a year and half.. in my eyes.. thats way to early.. but then again, i dont know if potty triaing girls vs boy is different, i have a girl. and when she was potty triaing i would take her in the bathroom every half hour to an hour. put her on the BIG potty, and then turn on the water, it helped (shes almost 6 now, so this was back a few years ago) now my nephew is going to be 3 in nov. and hes just starting to trian.. my brother works alot, so my sister in law is doing this by herself, she lets him walk around in big boy underwear all day and he goes to the bathroom by himself, in his lil potty... just tell him hes a big boy now and he has to wear big boy undies and there is where he goes. goodluck!  | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 9:55:43 PM | Read the guides, lots of encouragement, do not lose your cool no matter how gross the situation becomes and follow your mothers instincts, my 2 and a half year old son resides with his mother and she gave her other child a massive development issue at around this stage by dealing with potty training badly.
Best of luck... | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 9:56:33 PM | Umm...I wasn't "on" anything. What a stupid thing to say.
Both my children were completely out of diapers well *before* they were a year and a half old. Why on earth would you wait until the age of three, four or older?
My kids, while sharp little buggers, are not anomalies when it comes to this. Many child care providers around here won't take three year olds unless they are toilet trained, so I guess there's alot of us parents out here "on" something. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 9:59:52 PM | take him do the batroom 3 times for every one time u need to go.
for standing try a few froot loops for him to aim at make it a game and he will want to go.
if that dont work just sit him down to go pee every few hours eventually he will get the idea. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 10:08:49 PM | Assuming you have already got a toilet for him. Set it down next to yours in the bathroom. Everytime you go take him with you. If he soils himself take him into the bathroom, take off his Diaper set him on the toilet. Show him the messy diaper if it's number one and tell him that this is peepee. It goes into the toilet. What you are sitting on. When you feel you have to go come in here, moma will help take off the diaper then go in here. Talk to Papa so that when he has him he can show him the "Standing up" routine. It won't hurt him to sit down for awhile if Mama is teaching him. If it's number 2, then when he soils his diaper do the same, take him into the potty, take off the diaper sit him down them tell him that the poopies go into the toilet, not into the diapers. "Big Boys" potty in toilets. Then stand him back up wipe him off, then pour the poopies into the toilet. Ask him if he understands?
Let him know that when he has to go to tell mommy, then you can take him in there. The following week when he starts to struggle with it, then you need to sit him on the potty for 2 minutes everytime he makes a mistake. I made mine hold an egg timer, he couldn't get off until it beeped. It only took 4 weeks for me this way and he's doing fine. Now if I could just get him to stop peeing in the bathtub!!!!
Hope this helps! | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 10:31:32 PM |
Both my children were completely out of diapers well *before* they were a year and a half old. Why on earth would you wait until the age of three, four or older?
That's great! The people I know with boys don't get potty trained until four - the girls are sooner. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 10:41:49 PM | lets just take a lil vote here on when you potty trained your child.. before 1 and half or after. mine was after.
and i dont think it would be hard to potty trian a child after 2, 2 and half. they can understand now, they KNOW what your saying. and it depends on the CHILD CARE PROVIDERS, altho mine NEVER went to a babysitter or a daycare center. and why on earth would you potty train a 1 and half yr old.. they have so much going on.. bottle being taken away, maybe a binky....if your gonna potty train THAT EARLY, why dont you look up ( dont know what its called) but its where you watch your newborn-find out when they have to use the bathroom..and you take them to the bathroom and hold them over the pot and they use the bathroom....they dont wear diapers at all. hmm whoever thought of that was very smart.
just my opinion but before 2 i think is too early. and like i said ITS MY OPINION. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 10:45:18 PM | I was a singe parent that had never really seen a baby until I had one.
I don't even remember potty training my daughter I was just such a non issue.
Why don't people just trust their instinct these days? Answer: you think you are incompetent
until the government gives you a license saying you are qualified.
Good luck | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 10:56:56 PM | Ask him often if he has to go. He'll get annoyed quickly, but it helps.
If it's been too long, make him sit or stand there until he lets anything loose. If it's even a drop, make a HUGE deal about it. Even call his grandparents, etc. and let them gush to him. Worked like a charm for me. Pull Ups are a godsend. No more laying down to change him.
It's really not as difficult as it might seem. You just have to be consistent and on his case about it (with lots of enthusiasm) and before long, he'll have it down pat. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:06:14 PM | | I WOULDNT use pullups.. its just like wearing a diaper to them. they need to wear big kid underpants. so if they do have a lil "OOPs" in their underwear.. they will feel it.. it will be wet and running down their legs... | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 1:00:41 AM | | putting a few fruit loops in the bowl is a great idea. I don't have any boys but i have lots of nephews. I have a 3 yr old girl who just had her first completly accident free week so I know what you're going through. we got a potty button from wal-mart. whenever they use the potty successfully they get to push the button and it cheers for them and plays music. it sticks on the wall above the toilet. it helped a lot. We also got one of those little gum-ball macines and whenever she went to the potty she got to get a gumball out of the machine. and you can even buy those vitamin gumballs now so you're actually giving them something really good for them and they don't know any better. I used pull-ups with my little girl all day at first then started only at night and now we are all the way to panties all the time! Just be sure to take him to the potty very very often, every 20-30 minutes at first untill he can tell you that he has to go. Don't punish him when he has an accident or he will think that going is wrong. just tell him that pp goes in the potty. Hope i helped a little. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:30:15 AM | Every situation is unique, as every kid is unique. It's been said that girls train faster than boys, but that's not a hard and fast rule.
Mostly everyone has great advice, and for others, I don't think she was asking what age is right, she was asking for suggestions. Nothing scarier than a hyper vigilant parent, *shudder*
As far as my advice on potty training goes, two things: sugar free suckers, and stickers, no kid, can resist one of the two. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 3:44:09 PM | | well bravo to you then{to the poster said tht his/her kid was trained at a early age] quess u must be a super parent! what a silly thing to say to someone who was just asking for advice. | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 5:00:15 PM | | Having three kids of my own with two of those being boys and being a foster parent for years I can tell you that the average age for girls to be potty trained is 2 and one half years and for boys 3 and one half years....don't listen to the posts that are down on you for not starting earlier....children don't simply have the bladder and bowel training in younger to perform the task and I have also learned this from having one child who was treated at the Children's hospital in Denver who needed bladder and bowel training....we all get the stories from our own parents and other's who insist that they were potty trained by a year....this is simply not possible so don't put the pressure on yourself....there are many good books in the library on potty training for adults and many children's books written on the issue....for me it was as simple as buying a little child toliet and leaving it in the restroom and talking talking and talking about it....there is a lot of time for the child to sit on the potty so that they are used to it and after talking talking and talking about it you will see results at some point and time....then you can introduce them to what we call big kid pants (underwear)....please remember that this is a learning experience and takes time and do expect accidents to happen....the worst thing that you can do to a child's self esteem is to punish them for these accidents it is demeaning and humilating to the child and can set you up for a child to hold it in which can create a whole host of problems with the body functioning correctly....the average time span of my children being completely potty trained from the introduction of their own potty was about six months....also keep in mind that accidents may also still happen at night even when fully potty trained during the day this is easily taken care of by using the "pull ups" found in the stores....good luck to you | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 5:17:57 PM | THIS Q GETS ASKED SOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
the kid will tell you when they are ready. Dont push it...dont threaten...dont yell be patient.My son is now 5 and was totally trained by 3. Now because of constipation for a few months he has lost muscle tone in his bottom...this now means he lost the sensation to push.
He flops between undies and pullups...i got so damn angry and frustrated and wanted to rip my hair out...I put him through blood tests...and he now needs and x ray of his tummy. The blood tests will come back soon. We need to know if he has food allergies or not...but his pediatrician says to not push it anymore...calmly remind him to go potty..he simply has no control anymore.
But when he was in training mode i plopped his potty in the living room and also the bathroom gave him a book or let him watch his fave movie for 30 min while he "tried to go" I also got him a sticker book for when he went to praise him FOR HIM BEING A GOOD BOY!!!!!! 
let him choose the potty...and the sticker book and give lots and lots of praise!!!!!! | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:16:54 PM | Heh, I know where you are coming from I myself am a single mother of two boys 5 and alomst 3 and I am in the process of training the young one.
Does he know when he has peed or pooped? If so then he is ready. For sure go by the pullups those work!! Since they are short standing doesn't work, just start keeping a mental track of when he usually pees and then bring him to the bathroom to try. Don't keep him there to long otherwise it's a "chore" to him. If he doesn't do anything at that time let him know "good try" and if he does do something praise him praise him | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:54:40 PM | | my daughter was obsessed with stamps. so ever time she went pee I would give her a stamp. I just went out and bought those crayola stampers. It was totally cheep and she loved it.:) When she first started trying to poop in the potty every time she did that we would go for a walk to the store (just up the street) and buy her a sucker. something small. She too was only about a year and a half when she potty trained so little things were soooo cool! | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:36:38 PM | i thought my daughter (now, 2 1/2) would be one of the last "hold outs" on potty training, mainly because she is very bright and figured out that it is all about contol!!! her daycare provider tried to match all the 2 1/2 year olds with the older kids (potty pals). naturally, all my daughters peers were catching on, but, alas...my daughter wanted NOTHING to do with it.
my daughter went on the big girl potty for the very first time on mother's day, just a few months back (the best gift ever), but it was kind of a fluke. it didn't happen again until the very beginning of june, when one day, a glorious combination of things happened.
first off, one of her dearest friends "donated" us his potty, a totally cush affair with padded seat, pull-out tray, and lid. next, we were in the grocery store that same day and she spied the PRINCESS pull-ups. i told her that mommy would buy the pull-ups only if she would treat them like panties, and only go in the potty (for pull-up opposers, the one thing that pull-ups ARE good for is motivation by marketing like this...also, at least with my daughter, it alleviated her fear of "accidents", as she is a bit of a neat freak). finally, i pulled my hidden stash of jelly beans out of the cupboard and showed them to her. as it turns out, my child will do ANYTHING for jelly-beans.
she was FULLY potty trained within 2 days...just in time for a big road trip (yeah) interestingly enough, her peers at daycare all regressed to not going at all (they had all been going sporadically, BUT going). the key factor was the newly donated toilet, i think...it gave her the ability to wander into the bathroom, yank down her pull-ups, do her business all by herself, and then proudly empty the tray into the big potty...
the jelly-beans were also a HUGE hit...in fact, we just ran out of our original stash, which i told her early on that i won't be replacing...not even a melt-down over that one.
some people swear by using a potty chart...or hanging a calendar on the bathroom wall and adorning it with stickers every time your child goes...or, speak about an older sibling/cousin/friend that your child worships, saying things like, "yes, your cousin jessie is coming over for ice cream...and HE uses the big-boy potty. so does mommy, grandma, ect...
my advice??? don't force the issue and don't stress over it. one day, your son will just "decide" that he's ready! until then, pressuring him could very well turn him off to the idea entirely (or, if he's REALLY bright, simply keep him thinking "NAH NAH NAH NAH NAH...mommy can't get me"). | |
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| potty training my son HELP
Posted: 7/6/2006 4:41:03 PM | | Just finished training my three year old. He was hell bent on going to the bathroom in his diaper. I had started training him since he was a year and a half and he was just stubborn! LOL. I had tried everything...letting him just wear underwear, running around naked, rewards etc etc. I was about to give up! Finally I went to the store and bought him boxer briefs, when we got home I showed him that he had a "special pocket" and this made a world of difference. Suddenly he'd just whip it out and pee in the potty all the time. In three days he was trained and we haven't had an accident since. Each kid is different and their motivation will be different. Take it one day at a time, and if one thing doesn't work, then try something else. | |
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